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UCLA02 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 10:21 AM
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Gee, I hope my wife doesn't find this article...
Edited on Wed Mar-01-06 10:22 AM by UCLA02
At least I don't keep a journal like this idiot. ;-)

Might as well face it, he’s addicted to net porn
Experts say online sex industry wreaking havoc on some personal relationships.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11609937/

Reminds me of that line, the difference between a drunk and an alcolholic is that alcoholics go to meetings.
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rustydog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 12:22 PM
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1. It is sad what an addictive personality can do to you...
One time a few years back, my employer complained of hours being spent on online porn sites in a section of the hospital when the secure area was closed for the weekend.
I placed a covert camera and caught a trusted, vested employee logging n and spending his shift viewing porn.

It is sad, he was terminated per company policy. He did check into a support group and his wife stood by him.
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UCLA02 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 12:30 PM
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2. I can see how any addiction can manifest itself in unhealty ways...
Also, the collateral problems addressed in this article and your post, relationships with significant others, employment, and just plain ol' wasted time.

DISCLAIMER-While the original poster (hereinafter "I" or "my" or "me") sees the serious clinical issues and social problem contained in the above-referenced article, my original post was upped in jest, and any similarities between me and the poor bastard in the article are purely coincidental.

This still the "Lounge" after all, isn't it. ;-)
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rustydog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 12:42 PM
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4. How true, how true! A toast to the lounge
:toast:
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Initech Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 12:38 PM
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3. Did this article appear in "DUH!" magazine?
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northzax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 12:49 PM
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5. so his wife read his recovery journal
lovely.
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UCLA02 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 12:50 PM
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6. True. Which 12-stepper program is appropriate for HER??
nt
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northzax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 12:53 PM
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8. snoopers anonymous
or in her case, not anonymous.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 03:42 PM
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13. It was an on-line journal, so it's not like it wasn't public
:sheesh:
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Ravenseye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 12:53 PM
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7. And about 7 hours and 50 minutes
Edited on Wed Mar-01-06 12:53 PM by Ravenseye
That guy was spending 6 to 8 hours a day on internet porn. Wow. That's a shitload of porn. Definately a problem.

I like this quote though

"It’s kind of like eating," says . "Eating is a healthy thing, but eating a whole lot is not such a healthy thing, and it’s the same thing for a sex addict. They do what other people do, only they do way too much of it."

So basically my 10 minutes a day spent looking at porn is healthy?
:freak:
Done!

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mongo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 01:04 PM
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9. I really hate the "addiction" analogy
I think it cheapens the experience of anyone who has actually been adicted to drugs and alcohol.

Can someone have an unhealthy compulsion towards pornography? Sure. You can also have an unhealthy compulsion towards shoes, shopping, gambling, DU (my demon) and countless others.

but calling it an addiction just furthers the idea that viewing ANY amount of porn is unhealthy, especially if your spouse doesn't like it (even if it doesn't affect your relationship).

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Ravenseye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 02:38 PM
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10. I disagree
While it might not be physically addictive in the same way that say Nicotine or Heroin are, they are just as mentally addictive as other drugs or alchohol. Mental addiction is quite powerfull and quite a problem in itself. To dismiss mental addition on semantic grounds is, I think, a little harsh. If we can only use 'addiction' for things that a physically addictive is way too limiting and in my opinion inaccurate. All addictions, physical or mental or emotional, all tie into the same aspect which is that there is a neurological disorder.

Also I don't think that calling it an addiction furthers the idea that viewing any amount of porn is unhealthy. There's a stark difference between viewing porn 6-8 hours a night, and what most people do. If someone can't make that distinction then you're never going to get through to them anyway.
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mongo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 03:12 PM
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11. so then is marijujanna addicting?
Because "mental addiction" is the excuse they use to make these statements. Yet, millions of Americans use it recreationally without consequences.

If porn is just as addicting as Nicotine or Herion, why are there millions of adults that enjoy adult entertainment without becomming compulsive or obsessive about it? I don't know too many people that can snort herion on a semi-regular basis (let's say weekly) without becoming addicted.
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Ravenseye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 03:35 PM
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12. Addiction is not Dependence
There is addiction, which is a mental/psychological problem, and dependence or tolerance which are physical problems. Dependency is when your body changes to cope with the ammount of drug you take. To stop taking it would cause harm, pain, or even be life-threatening. Tolerance is when you need to take more and more of the stuff in order to produce the same effect that less used to. Addiction is to use something to avoid coping with life or problems.

Drug Rehabilitation has two parts. The first is to break the physical dependence and the second is to teach the addict how to cope without it. Simply causing dependence does not make something addictive, nor does being addicted to something indicate the presence of a dependence.

Porn IS addictive, as are computer games, heroin, or anything else people use to escape reality. You could be addicted to collecting Barbie Dolls. Addiction is just the mental aspect. It's why so many people regress. It's easy to take someone to rehab and break their dependency and their tolerance. It's quite another thing to actually break their addiction.
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mongo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-02-06 12:06 PM
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16. I wonder why there is no DSM IV diagnosis for "porn addiction" then
And there is a big difference between saying "porn is addictive" and "you could be adicted to barbie dolls".

I doubt if you would say "barbie dolls are addictive".

Blanket statements like "porn is addictive" are more useful as propaganda to smear adult entertainment, than to describe anyones compulsive behavior. It's more a statement on your personal views of the product, rather than any inherent qualities of the media.
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Benfea Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 05:05 PM
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15. Agreed
It's not just "addiction" as for decades people have been confusing mass murder with genocide simply for the purpose of hyperbole, and I find it really annoying.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-01-06 03:44 PM
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14. I just wanna see a tape of him and his wife doing it
Edited on Wed Mar-01-06 03:44 PM by Rabrrrrrr
:evilgrin:

Yes, I know that was potentially rude. But I went there anyway. :P
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