My sister is in critical condition after surgery

I just wrote this poem and will give it to her if she makes it. This is not the kind of poem I am known for (I am a published poet and have written for 2 Emmy winning poetry documentaries. My style is USUALLY well crafted hardcore, not sappy like this. Please do not judge this as a serious poem. But I just want to know if I should print it and bring to the hospital tomorrow. I am not allowed in the recovery room tonight.


A Prayer for Trisha



18 years after the car accident
that left you in a wheel-chair you
just got out of the operating room
again 2 teams of surgeons worked
on you for 8 hours
I want to write a poem for you
that is not melodramatic
one that does not tug on the heart strings
like a greeting card
I am maudlin crying
because of you coming out
in the pink PJs that Santa left
your awe was palpable when you
spied the hamster you thought
mom and dad could not afford
we’ve slung hate at each other
we are such raw adults
my love is so meaningless
to you who are unconscious
you believe in God and angels
I'm too sophisticated for that
but have thanked Him for you
I have mocked the silly
“Footprints” plaque among
the pill bottles next to your bed
I wish there were a way
to let you know I am begging Him
to carry you tonight

I am wiping tears away as I think of you and your sister. I am judging that to be an awesome tribute to a sister it is obvious that you adore. Bring it, you are in my thoughts, and I am pulling for you and your sister. She'll feel your love.

Great big giant hugs....and lots of tears,
Laura

My thoughts and prayers are with you...

I will be thinking of her tonight and sending my prayers..

Really, what's the big deal? She'll love it because it comes from you!

You're not allowed in ICU? Is it too nosey to ask why? B/c I thought they allowed immediate family members. :shrug:

(as is she). We are the closest in the family. I have a few family members who are born again and consider my mental illness a punishment for being gay.

On top of that. I bought my parents a beautiful condo in their names (and furnished it for them)to get them out of the trailer park. I just heard that my wealthy Christian brother (who has never helped my parents)has consulted a lawyer. My father is close to death too and my Christian brother and Southern Baptist Sister are trying to set it up so that I will not be allowed to get the condo when my parents die. I guess they think it is OK for Christians to steal from a gay brother. I also found out that they tried to have me committed too and become my payee (I have a nice savings account)and insurance.

The legalities are too complicated to get into, and as I was a therapist who worked with the chronically mentally ill I know that I am not a threat to myself or others--so would be able to sue them, their lawyer, and the county delegate who may approve such a phony document.

BTW: I pay my parents condo fee, taxes, and help with their HMO--my Christian Sister and Brother have never given them a penny. Both of them are Republicans. If anyone is reading this I probably won't respond anymore tonight. I need to go meditate.

roughsatori. I didn't realize you were going through all that.

I hope you can come to some peaceful resolution to your problems.

:grouphug:
:grouphug:

whatever the outcome, this poem is for your sister and it belongs with her.

I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles.

No doubt your sister is very lucky to have you, especially when you describe your other sib.

I would advise you to tell your father what your brother is doing, btw, and have him consult his atty to stop this idiocy on the part of your brother.

...one good provision in a will, fwiw, is the will maker's provision that anyone who contests that will shall forfeit all rights to their portion...

I do not understand why any hospital would prohibit your visit.

Bipolar disorder is not communicable, nor is "gayness" -- and it's not a disease...where do you live???? --Is this another one of your brother's machinations?

take care - I hope for the best for you and your family.

She called and told me she did not want to start trouble--but that they had told her about their plans and their lawyer. She told me to get a lawyer and go over my parents will. I also contacted my Psychologist and Psychiatrist and signed a consent to release information to specific parties in case something should happen. She and he both say there is no need in the world for me to be committed. I have been in over 15 mental hospitals in my life so I am more nervous then I probably should be.

I called my brother in law (as his wife being a Southern Baptist is submissive and my brother to discuss this calmly. I was told that they could not wait until they signed the commitment papers. (They have both been furious at my gay rights and Democratic activism for years.)

I will take your suggestion regarding provisions to my father's attorney.

They are quite well off and now blame people who are poor for being lazy. They know that I have been a volunteer and paid activist for people in poverty.

I can't believe we ALL got out of the poverty and trailer-park and still this Jerry Springer nonsense going on.

are you currently taking meds? are you making extra and absolutely sure you are complying with your med schedule?

just because you've been in hospitals before does not mean you should "automatically" be considered someone who should be in a hospital.

there are many many people, which I'm sure you know, who are bipolar and who are able to manage just fine with the proper medical treatments.

you sound like you are in the south (which is where I'm from)...

and your sib is trying to claim that your sexual orientation is a mental illness?

I really don't understand the basis for their actions, unless you've recently had a problem with managing your illness and they're trying to use that against you.

You probably know about these people also, but maybe you should also contact your local mental health center to find out the names of some advocates with whom you can share your situation and develop some ways to deal with the harrassment from your sib's family.

The advocate can also work with your lawyer.

If it's any consolation, you know, of course, that fanatical religiousity and the sorts of belief systems reinforced by the southern baptists (I was raised as one, I should know) may also be an expression of the mania end of the bipolar spectrum.

...LOL...wouldn't it be funny if they had to defend themselves against mental incompetence for the same reasons they are badgering you???

Since you bought your father his place, he could simply sign it over to you now under the guidance of his lawyer. With his lawyer, your dad could have a "family meeting" which the lawyer video tapes and in which your father states that it is his intention for you to retain ownership, no matter what the future circumstances. The tape could show that he is of sound mind, and could express his intention in the presence of your entire family.

I'm not a lawyer, nor am I speaking as one. I'm just sharing some possible ways to avoid relative nuisance suits that I've been aware of from other families I've known.

btw, do you have much contact with your reactionary family members? maybe the less you see them, the better off you'll be.

they sound like they're aggravating enough to make anyone depressed.

Greedy, hateful scum.

And I sincerely hope your sister pulls through OK!

:hug:

That is very heartfelt and I think you should give it to her when next you see her. I hope she improves. She must be getting very good care. Do pray for her. I will also.

... along with your sister. May God Bless You and Her.

May He carry you as well tonight. Prayers and love to you both.

I'm pulling for both of you tonight...Stay strong. :hug:

I pray and hope your sister gets through this. I just finished spending far too many hours in the IC with my mom. Her heart stopped for two minutes. It was hell, so I have an appreciation of the pain and anxiety you are feeling.

and tender and so heartbreaking. Peace to you and your family, dear roughsatori.

:(

I'd love to see what you can do on a good day.

So of course I am with the posters who think you should give it to your sis.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you.


Cher

You and I don't always see eye to eye, but I wanted to say I wish the best to your sister. And I wanted you to know that in this time of crisis, we will be thinking of both of you and sending good wishes your way.

Thank you for sharing a bit of your heart with us, and bit of your life, a bit of your poem, a bit of your soul. Rest assured that we reciproate, and hold hope and well-wishes and support in one hand, and the other clasped to our heart, hoping things turn out well. I don't know if my words are sufficient or will bring you any solace. Words can bring easing of pain sometimes. Just as your poem will ease your sister's heart, I hope our words here can do a bit to help ease yours. Know that you have friends here should you need them.

My thoughts are with Trisha and you.

:grouphug:

>I wish there were a way
to let you know I am begging Him
to carry you tonight<

roughsatori, I'm not the praying type, either, but tonight, I'll say a few for you and your sister.

Julie

My thoughts (and prayers) are with you.:hug:

Love and healing thoughts to both of you tonight!

I am so very sorry. I definately think she should have this poem; you should bring it tomorrow. It's very moving ... truly beautiful.

My thoughts are with you and your sister, that she pull through this.

love that surrounds the poem.

Please print it and read to your sister regardless of her state.

I will think good thoughts for her recovery.

It's a beautiful poem, and I know she would love it.

That's my favorite line. It stings. I'm too sophisticated to offer you and your sister prayers, but you have my very best wishes, rs.

That is love and you can show not greater love for her than you have. I hope she does see the poem, it will do her such good.

best wishes for her recovery.

been through. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.

"bitterness" rather than "hate"
"I can't" rather than "I'm too sophisticated for that"
"I make fun of the" for "I have mocked the silly"

There will be a day for confronting conflicts you have had or still have. This is not it.

but last night she and I talked for a long time. We talked about how when we argue we say "I hate you" and how much that is not true. And as she knows I am a snob and it is one of the things she loves about me the other lines will be endearing to her.

She and I are closer then almost any brother and sister I have met--we have lived together off and on, I have taken care of her, she let me live with her after a brutal hospitalization, we laugh on the phone every 2 days--there are no real conflicts between us other then temporary arguments regarding her girlfriends or my boyfriends.

I understand your concern and am not being defensive--it is just that you don't know her or I and misconstrue some of our code words that are in the poem. You would not know that she makes fun of me for calling everything "silly" and that she loves my sophistication. Or that I giver her Angel Artwork for her birthday and Christmas.

The really funny thing is I gave her the silly footprints plaque because she told me she derived strength from from those words :)

I intend to PM everyone of you after I am sure of the results. I am surprised how kind so many of you are. I am touched--you have all given me hope in many ways. Rough Satori

Best wishes that you hear good news today.

I hope Trisha will be all right. You (roughsatori) and she are in my thoughts.

I intend to PM everyone of you after I am sure of the results. I am surprised how kind so many of you are. I am touched--you have all given me hope in many ways. Rough Satori

It's a lovely poem. I hope she comes through it all right.

Sappy? Damn -- you're scared out of your mind. I'd suggest sincerity trumps craftsmanship here. My best wishes to you, your sister and your family.
John
When your sister improves, she'll like the sap. Trust me on this.

Do take it to her...if vibes, well wishes and prayers can make any difference at all...you will have all of mine this evening.

(((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))

Caring thoughts her way and yours tonight.:grouphug:

This my last post for the evening -- you and your sister will be in my thoughts tonight as I hit the pillow.

I am sending many positive vibes your way. Please let us know how it goes.

Wishing you a big :hug:

I will be praying for your sister, roughsatori. I once lost a cousin who I loved dearly in an accident.

All night we prayed for him. But please remember that your sister always loved you, and that there are always terrible fights within families.
Please keep in touch, your poem reminded me of my own feelings ten years ago.

As someone's sister, though, I can tell you that a brother's love is never meaningless, ever.

I felt your love too. Please share your thoughts with her when you have a chance. I have no doubt, it will give her joy and comfort.

Your relationship with your sister reminds me very much of my own feelings for my baby sister. I wish you both well...

I will have you and your sister in my thoughts today. I hope all goes well.

will be keeping your sister and yourself in my thoughts.
i think your poem is beautiful. i would give it to your sister;
it is from the heart, tender and reflective, it is sure to touch her.

:hug:

I hope that she recovers quickly!

Hang in there!