I just finished cleaning out my daughter's (16) room!!! All I can say is..

GROSS!!!!!! :puke:

In her words,"My mind is too busy for 'that sort of thing' Mom..."


It shows...Blech.

What were her hands doing? :rofl:

... :rofl:

:scared:

If there was a nook...it was stuffed... A cranny? De-crannified. It'll take months to get over. :hug:

That made me laugh. :pals: It's so..."sixteen years old".

She's actually a really great kid who has no sense of organization. :) :loveya:

Depending on whom the two boys married, they became very neat people in their own homes and with their own children.

One of the girls is (last time I saw) still a slob with a husband and three children. (Her daughter -- our granddaughter, actually apologized to us when we went into her mother's room. The dresser drawers had stuff hanging out of it -- she did that when she lived with me and it's not my style.)

I don't know much about the other stepdaughter, whom I haven't seen for years.

My youngest daughter who was a "neat freak" when she lived with us -- still struggles to keep up with all the possessions in her family of husband and two little kids. I offer her storage space in my home and help her to sell and give away what she doesn't need or use anymore. She lives in the same town with us, so that's pretty easy.

My advice? Don't sweat the small stuff. When your daughter packs up and moves out to college or her own place in a couple of years, it will take you just a few hours to make the room nice again.

Here's another dirty little secret... I'm a "neat freak" now, but when I lived with Mom and Dad, I didn't keep up my room. I was too busy and had too much on my mind (like making out with my first boyfriend, shown here). However, I was always neat and clean about my person (showers, makeup, fingernails, etc.).

there, I can shut the door. But, we're getting ready to list so I don't want to gross out the potential purchases. I think I can now write a book. :)

She found out. She was pissed and probably still is. (We don't have contact with her and her family anymore.) I regret doing it to this day.

Of course, now she can go to MY "journal" and find out a lot about me!

And what a great dress! :hi:

Do you remember the manufacturer -- it was made by Lanz!!! I believe they were an Austrian or a German company. I had a few nightgowns and dresses from them even in the 1970s for my daughters. Are they still in business?

I loved that dress! Still wear a lot of black and white, but don't look so good at this point -- 50 years later! Jeeze, I think my waist size was 22 -- now that's about my thigh size!

In peace,

Radio_Lady

PS. My husband revived that picture from a 35mm slide that was so fragile I thought it would break into a million pieces. I don't know how he did it!

When I got married 24 years ago I was really, really thin. Sigh. :-)
Time marches on... All over us!

LOVED Lanz...

I am trying to "Google" them right now---

...at least you didn't find a pack of cigarettes or something worse hidden in the mess. The glass is always half full, remember that :)

And I would return,"I don't know what the hell it is, but it sure isn't drugs." The kid keeps every piece of paper she's ever written on...scatter willy nilly. :)

:) I love Colbert :loveya:

and when I moved back I thought (silly me) that hardwood floors were to die for charming. Yeah, right. I must I go through a box of Swiffer thingys per week. I've seen them big as tumbleweeds (well, almost).

PS - you didn't read her diary did you? I know you wouldn't...

over. :) I'm so proud of my self restraint.

:D

:scared: :rofl: I have no idea why the dog likes sleeping with her.

Maybe you should tell her she's channeling Grandma Bush. That'll fix her.

make her clean up once in a while. :D

If she did, I would call an exorcist.

:evilgrin:

Just a whole bunch of notes, and poems and you name it. :)

and I sure am sorry it took that long. (on edit) You just get so much more done when things are neat and you can find things. I just dont buy into that creative mess crap anymore.

I found myself thinking that someone should have at least run a vacuum in there once or twice in the last 7 years. ;)

the dirt doesn't get any worse."

--- Quentin Crisp


Hee-hee.

:hi:

all sorts of odd places.

:rofl:

I hadn't noticed until you pointed it out :rofl:

He's feeding it. :rofl:

:shrug:


:rofl:

:rofl: :D

Never seen one that big though! :D

:hi:

I wonder why it does that. :hi:

:hi:

:hi:

She found my pint of Bacardi and almost sent me to rehab.
She threatened to send me to a private catholic school, it was
a horrible confrontation. :scared:

Sounds like you have a very special teenager there MrsG.

No cigs, no alcohol, no birth control pill containers.

Keep up the good work mom :hug: :loveya:

She actually "talks" to me about "stuff" which is something I never would have considered. ;) :loveya:

I found syringes. Of course, she IS diabetic...

Seriously though, a 16 year old girl with a less than perfectly clean/organized room with no booze/dope is probably a symptom of a relatively well adjusted teen.

:) We're selling the house, hence the need to clean. :)

Just came back form Beanie's 6ht grade awards ceremony...she won the "Overall Academic Achievement Award" with a trophy! We are sooooooooo lucky.

last year, even! LOL

:toast: :woohoo:

I had a friend named Beanie when I was a kid. :) Her real name was Jill.

and barely going through the motions. This is her time to be all over the place. To express herself. Enjoy. And love it. The more she expresses herself.. the better. Most teen girls loose self esteem at that time. She needs everything she can muster within herself. Celebrate it all with her. Give her a cake for the mess. Laugh with her. She is magic. She is in control in ways it is hard to see. Of course it would have to be messy for it to come together later as her own world and pov.

Laugh.

She's still protected by you. And will know the dustbunnies in the corners of her heart for the space you give her to be - a teen. If she gets a tatoo - go with it - she is even stronger.

Hear her roar!! Grrrr. She learnt bits of that from you by the way!!!

indictment against her...it's just...well...gross. Because I don't touch her room usually. We're selling our house. :hi:

She must really love you, and have nothing embarrassing to hide. :)

part from me. :) :hi:

Do you sometimes just "Walk on By"?

she still lives with us because she has 2 kids, a boy 6 and a girl 2 1/2. I just spent 4 hours cleaning their room. The little girl found a container of beef bullion cubes, they were stuck everywhere. I had to use a rake to clean under the bed. The toys that I threw out were mostly McDonald's Happy Meal junk but I did find one Kid's Cuisine meal in the boy's bed. I don't get it, Mom and I are somewhat organized and detest a mess of any kind and yet this child is the biggest slob on earth.

:) It was only because I did not want prospective buyers to see all that. :hi:

Huh?????

:shrug:

:hi:



:hug:

dirty socks...etc. :rofl: :hug:

:hide:


Pot :hide:


Empty beer cans :hide:





:P ;) :) :hi:

She's 16 and YOU are cleaning her room?!!!!!!!
Ain't that her job? Either you are a much kinder person than me or you're a doormat. Cuz her excuse wouldn't work with me!

When she gets her own place her mind can "be too busy" as much she wants. But living in your house - then she has to accept your standards of cleanliness. I'm assuming by "gross" you didn't mean she'd just thrown her dirty clothes on the floor.

Khash.

listing it next week. :hi:

Are you going to be okay? Has the nausea passed?

:hug:


I sympathize. I'm on my second 16-year-old and it's scary (both boys). I'm afraid to go downstairs. I'm afraid to not go downstairs.

What's even scarier is that my daughter...who's 13...is a bigger slob than both of her brothers. I find everything in her drawers Except clothes. Papers. Empty pop cans. I found a package of sliced salami in there one day. That same day, I found a sandwich under her bed.

It was green.

She makes her brothers look like Heloise.

:scared:

She had a half canister of Kool Aid powder laying on it's side with a spoon on the floor of her closet...and the crushed up makeup...:scared:

I have to believe it's true.

school. :puke:

:scared:

I once found an empty beefaroni can on the floor of her room.

And....oh, geeze...the crushed makeup...YIKES. I never dreamed it would be so hard to get powder out of a carpet...you vaccuum it and it crushes up even more. You pick up the pieces and Then vaccuum it and suddenly you find new piece...that are getting crushed up even more.

Then...since she's crushed hers -- she's into mine. I used to buy makeup about once a year -- whether I needed it or not. Now I'm running out in 3 months.

GAAAAAAAHHH!!!!

She is normally very, very neat, but recently a friend of hers moved in with us, (long story), so it is a disaster. We are getting ready to put in california type closets, but Lordy, it is going to take a helluva lotta work.

:hi: Girls are really something. You are a wonderful human being for taking someone in...:hug:

There are now seven people living in my house. I long for the days of single apartment living.

and then some days he envies me. :hi:

that i'm sure will go thru it too.

i can't stand filth (and luckily they abide by certain rules on that) but i don't mind mess as long as it's not soooo bad. if i nag them long enough they'll get it to the point that i can stand a trip in their rooms.

i'm happier not reading thru this thread... let's just say,,,, i can relate, MrsGrumpy! :hug:

but there is a price to pay for that too. He's a tad OCD about it. Things have to be just so or he'll lose it. It's crazy, eh? :hug: But it only lasts for a short while.

I don't go upstairs anymore. I have an 18 yo, a 16 yo and a 19 yo friend of daughter #1. and my 15 yo is in Germany. I'm waiting til they all move out, then I'll get one of those industrial chutes out the window and a dumpster.

My daughter is an absolute clean freak when it comes to her person, and a terrible slob when it comes to her bedroom.

Recently, we completely redid her bedroom - carpet, paint, curtains, furniture, etc. and she *swore* she was going to keep it nice and tidy because she *loves* how great it looks...

That lasted about a week.

Now, I just close the door.

Hee hee.

:hi:

Man, I wish I could have thought of that one. It's better that I didn't. I would have been picking myself off the floor after saying something like that to my stepmother. My father would have also failed to see the humor in that comment. Personally, I hate cleaning. I do it when I get tired of seeing the mess.