Supportive words would be very much appreciated this evening.

A man I loved (well, loved while he was taking his medications and hid his narcissistic personality disorder) will be exchanging "property" tomorrow. Both my son and I are quite anxious although I assure my son that this man named "Bob" will be very cool and collected rather than vicious and obnoxious as he has been since he quit his effexor because,...his "reputation" depends upon it. His career as a lawyer is all he has left, with five children hating him, two ex-wives rebuking him and his friends questioning his sanity.

Nevertheless, I'm kinda' scared. My son wants to be armed with at least a bat in spite of my demand he be the "recorder" and "photographer" of the exchange. I told my son that, this will most likely be a very quiet exchange of automobiles and, hopefully, my other things (although, I'm quite ready to give those up to end a relationship with this man).

On Mothers' Day, this exchange is supposed to take place. Nevertheless, my son and I have plans to complete our "Bird Commune" project, which has grown. The Commune includes a "wild bird" feeder, a Humming Bird feeder, a "Spiritual Center" birdhouse, a barn birdhouse, an "Austria-type" birdhouse, a log birdhouse, among others. Tomorrow we complete attachment of the small birdhouses and planting 'Sweet Peas', with twine for that vine to run up to the commune.

We're also planning to plant our 'Sweet Peas' to surround our small back porch. If you've ever been exposed to this delicious plant, you'll understand why I've chosen it to pull me through this difficult time.

Meanwhile, all supportive words and words of wisdom would be hugely appreciated, by "Just Me", right now. Although I believe I can anticipate a fairly passive exchange, I am frightened by this man's unpredictable behavior. I'm sure we, my son and I will get through this just fine,....I guess I just need,...assurance. Geez, my dogs are barking,...I doubt I'll sleep tonight.

Edited for really dumb typos x(

I once had to go with a friend to get a child,I called the cops and said "We are gonna do this with or without you,but if there is trouble I hope you guys are there." They were.

I did consider asking a deputy I know to be present,...only problem is "Bob" 'can't say when he'll arrvie.

You do prompt me to, at least, inform my neighbors of what's taking place. I'll do that first thing tomorrow morning. That will make me feel safer.

A guest that could just "happen" to drop in?

It's been my experience that people like your ex can act like they have nothing to lose in front of "familiar" people like you and your son. A person outside of your relationship might make him think twice about acting up.

And a baseball bat might put him on the defensive right away.

Two questions I have that you don't need to answer here:
1. How old is your son?
2. Has this man ever hurt you physically before?

I wish you and your son an uneventful exchange with your ex, and a lovely afternoon with your birdhouse commune. And if I can make a bad pun here, I wish you both Sweet Peace.

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With respect to your questions:
1) 15
2) rapeb

And a heads-up to the police would not be out of line, they can cruise your neighborhood on and off. I'm sure they would if you explained the situation, and the violent history.

You must be dreading it, I hope the b*stard come early and leaves quickly.

My thoughts will be with you, you know you'll have the whole lot of us Lounge-types behind you tomorrow, at least in spirit (I wish in person!).

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I will surround you with all my good vibes and as many supportive words as I can muster.....

Of COURSE you're scared....you are in touch with reality.....

But you are prepared....so be calm, and trust yourself....

Keep your cool head about you.....Focus......and you will get through it...

We've got your back......:grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug:

another person to the exchange? Also, is it necessary to bring your son? Sons tend to be very protective of their Moms and may react too agressively to verbal taunts. I wish you all the best and hope all goes well. Trust your instincts and be on your guard.

Hang in there!

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It sounds as if you have good reason to be afraid. I agree with Swede that a police officer is a good idea, and that your son may be more helpful if he's uninvolved in the exchange.

Be careful, please; and let us know how things go. :hug:

...could you call the neighbor quick when his car pulls up and have the neighbor drop in?


Oh, good luck! Please post and let us know how it turns out...


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