My son got his first formal sex education today. He hated it.

First off, the school did an outstanding job. They wrote an informative and completely rational letter explaining what they were going to say and who was going to do it, when they were going to it, and how they would do it.

They assigned the task (for boys) to one of our outstanding young male teachers here, with whom I am personally very happy.

The problem is my son. He is extremely squeamish about the discussion of sex.

His mother and I, who were married for many years before we became parents, always envisioned ourselves as being able to have frank and open discussions about sex when our children approached puberty. I don't think either of us have any hang-ups about the subject. We have always felt free and easy and happy about that part of our lives.

We tried many times to broach the matter, but my son (he's 11) gets real upset when we try to tell him about it. But my son for some reason hates the subject, and actually, anticipating it, wanted to stay home from school. He says he will never participate in sex of any kind.

I finally convinced him that he needed to be aware of the issue if only to be an educated human being. I said it was the same as doing math homework, or learning biology. I told him finally to consider it as he would consider the study of babboons (not far from the truth.) I told him that he never had to have sex, but that he needed to understand what it was and all of the issues involved, so he could understand at least why so many people behave like morons. (I did not tell him that his father, me, could be included among the people who have done moronic things for sex.)

The experience of being a father is amazing. Nothing is quite the way you imagined it would be. I am very proud of my son; he is a fine human being; and I admire him in many ways, but damn if I understand him all the time.

I wanted no mention of sex when my father was around. Even Foreigner, singing 'Head Games' on the radio in the car made me blush. When we saw Fantastic Plantet together at a theater, all the cartoon nudity embarrassed me profoundly. It's a phase. It will pass.

Has he found your porn yet?
:popcorn:

As for my porn, he knows his mother very well.

I have had twenty years of the most magnificient pornography with my wife. :evilgrin:

:wtf:

Am I just :dunce: ?

I don't get it. :shrug:

I think my father did, too.

Plus it mentions making love.

.... give him 2-5 years. He will change his mind, I guarantee it :)

Maybe I'm expecting him to grow up too quickly.

... that even though my kids are getting beyond puberty, they really don't want to talk about things sexual (beyond jokes) and are loathe to even entertain the concept that their elderly father is still quite active :)

Give him 3 years. You'll be DYING to have the 11-year-old back, as I'm sure you remember from your own experience.

:evilgrin:

... I though it was icky and disgusting too. I thought people closed their eyes too so they wouldn't see each other naked.

... I was 8 or so at the time, btw :P