Need advice - quitting a job and you're in debt.

It's close to the point, thanks to management and conniving coworkers (shrouding a lie in with the truth is the intelligent way to do things, no doubt about it) that I'm going to have to walk if I wish to maintain my sanity.

I have little to live for already.

And it's impossible to return to the past.

But I will not be propped up for a fall just because some creep wants to pull the rug from under my feet. (BTW: People who spin and complain about and try to trip up others have to be hiding something far worse if they really need to ruin other peoples' lives... when I do walk, that's what management is going to hear. )

consciously, on-purpose, concentrate on detaching yourself emotionally from all the drama.

for years at jobs they hated, and where they were treated disrespectfully.

(Ours isn't a meritorial or frank society -- you need only to watch tv to see that.)

And you don't want to put yourself in a position of zero power (debt and no income).

So resign yourself to a certain amount of unpleasantness -- and with great determination (courage, patience, discipline, self-control) search for a new job.

Look, venting can be good, but dwelling on bad stuff is a rapid road to ruin. (If there aren't any good things in your life, find some -- or make something up.) And in a world of grabbers and poseurs, you have to be prepared to do a little grabbing and posing yourself, even if it isn't your nature.

Of course, in places where you are known, and where people's expectations and reactions can pressure you back into your existing persona (generally, so they can take advantage of it), it's tough to take on a new persona.

But the whole world is a stage... so act a little. And harden your work-shell.

It's what others are doing -- and it's what's expected, even if one isn't told such things.

And, most of all, think of different viewpoints.

I'm starting to learn that, which in turn opens up other solutions I never thought of.

And I am working on nixing the paranoia; it does nobody any good.

I'd say use whatever social safety net is left while you can.

But DON'T quit this one until you've found one. When you do go, take the high road ... it'll be better than leaving with bitter words. Walk out the door smiling and looking forward to your new job.

Meanwhile, take comfort that you have a plan. Don't let them get you down. Believe me, I KNOW how hard that is!

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If so, take a week. During this time, don't think about your job. This might save your sanity for a little bit.
I have trouble with my workplace since I got there 5 years ago. Strategic use of vacation and avoiding problem people or as many people as possible on really bad days are good ideas. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself either.

You'll be in better shape financially and emotionally if you have an income coming in.

If you think you're being set up for a fall then look at it as a blessing. Who fucking cares what those people at your job think of you anyway? Do your job, keep your mouth shut, document EVERYTHING just in case they try to make it difficult for you when applying for new jobs, and start looking for work.

If they fire you before you're able to find something, at least you'll get unemployment.

I got fired from a bad situation and it ended up being the best thing ever. I got unemployment, had lots of free time to plan my wedding which was happening a month later, and friends gave me cash freelance work to tide me over. After my wedding I ended up working full-time for a friend and it allowed me to completely change careers to something I love. Those people at my old job could say or think whatever they wanted about me (and I'm sure they did) but I never had to see any of them ever again. And while many of them are still stuck in that hell-hole and as miserable as ever (low pay, no benefits, and a boss who is violently mentally ill), I've made a real career for myself since then.

Good luck with everything. You'll be alright, just ignore the people who are trying to bring you down. They don't own you and they can only hurt you if you let them.

I'm just trying to help him hang on until a good position breaks. And I know from personal experience that ignoring the shitheads doesn't neccessarily work when they are set on undermining you, and your superiors are receptive to their BS. But please do take the high road - it will pay off down the line not to burn your bridges. And if you do see the axe about to fall, engage those that support you to put pen to paper and give you a letter of recommendation before you leave - even if they are your peers and not your management. And then leave with your chin high. Trust me on this one, from experience. Few of us get to escape from working with the occasional sociopath.