Help! Domineering in-laws coming for HS grad weekend

We are having a big to-do for my daughter's HS gradation party. Big bluegrass festival planned, plus rented a camp on the lake, plus got hotel rooms for the relatives. Trouble is, sister in law wants to stay at our house. Last time she stayed here, she said "I don't know how you can live this,' when she was preparing her lamb cabobs in my kitchen.
I don't want her to stay overnight in my home and I feel I have gone beyond the call of duty in finding her proper accomodations. She is going to want to blast the stereo and egg everyone on to get blitzed including my husband. I don't want her here.

What can I do?

hand her a list of acceptable hotels and let her know that there is no room at your house this weekend. Make sure your dh backs you up.

It is your house. If you don't want her, point her elsewhere.

And if she bitches, too bad. She has no automatic right to stay at your place, and you have no responsibility at all to host her.

You don't even have to give an excuse - a decent person will hear you say, "I'm sorry, but I cna't host you" and go "okay". Only a useless troglodyte peice of shit would ask why.


If you feel that you must give her an excuse, you can say something like "With all the hubbub of the party and stuff, I don't have the energy or capacity to have house guests."

And if she bitches, that's a reflection of her shitness, not a reflection on you at all.

and set up shop. I know her. I think the only thing I can do is go over to camp with my daughter and let her have the house. She is going to find fault no matter what I do. She has three kids, all JD and she absolutely can't stand the thought of some kid in this family doing well.

As an aside, my husband, said, well we will just stay over at camp so XXX can have our house. Can you imagine?

not to put your foot down.

I don't envy you your situation, but my thought is you should stand your ground. However, I also realize you are the one in this sitation, not I, and if standing your ground would cause a huge scene and wreck the weekend, which is for your daughter, then camping with the guests might be the way to go.

However, once the weekend is over, put on your best pair of kick-ass boots, and do just that: let her know that that is absolutely the last time she will be welcome to stay in your home, and at any further gatherings, she will be expected to stay elsewhere, as she is not going to stay with you. Sometimes we really do have to lose the battle in order to win the war.

Best of luck to you.

I would much rather spend the weekend with my daughter at the camp, and she with me, than to cause any problems. causing any problems would wreck the weekend. But we both have a bit of condesending wit that most surely will surface at the graduation brunch.

Then a few bags of lime and you are good to go :thumbsup: