can a geek fall in love with a non-geek?

you know what they say opposites attract...

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it was always unrequieted. Such has been the story of my life, mostly.

you seem like you would be wonderful guy...I feel sure one of these days some girl is going to go for you in a BIG way...
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but thanks. :hug:

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difference on with whom you fall in love. Can't say for sure exactly what makes one fall in love with any particular person, but I can say there's a lot more to it than superficial labels.

what is language but, a set of labels used to descibe life and all it entails

:P

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A lot of times attraction is on attributes they have that you lack; and vice versa, sorta complementing each other.

I'm a loner geek, but I could go for a guy who was more outgoing than me, for instance. Conversely, I could provide him with a better excuse to go for more moments of serenity. :shrug:

like 2 pieces of a puzzle that when nestled together make a whole different picture altogether...
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for what it's worth I think geeks are uber sexy but, I figure they will not go for someone like, you know, a dumb ass country chick like me...

the question is:
can a non-geek fall in love with a geek?

of course I can't speak for ALL non-geeks...

I'm a geek... and, in my senior year in college I had a relationship with maybe the most popular young woman in our dorm, and I'm guessing was one of the more popular in her old high school, too. She'd walk into a room & heads would turn.

My ex-wife was decidedly non-geekish(a former Hooters girl, very outgoing & personable, a jock in high school, etc) She would also turns heads, but it was mostly guys staring at her chest.

And, my wife now wouldn't know geekness if it hit her in the head.

sounds like they are...just asking for confirmation

In college, 3-4 months could be a long-term relationship when you live so close to each other.

With my ex-wife, we were together for 18-21 months before we got married, then were married for a year when she filed for divorce, and the divorce process took about 9 months.

With my wife now, we've been married for 4 1/2 years and have a daughter that will be 3 1/2 in a few months.

in accordance with your physcial and emotional age...
looks like you are on track for a life time partnership.
I wish you the best. You are truly blessed.

and I'll be 40 in December.

With my demise of my first marriage, I learned to separate fun, attractive, intelligent young women that were fun to date & fool around with, but either were not ready for marriage, or not really the type I should marry from women that were fun, attractive & intelligent, but also would be great for the long term. Before I met my ex-wife, I was kind of naive about those things due to my geekiness... and, I married a woman that had dropped out of college & worked part-time, but did no housework and had no concept of living on a budget. So, while I was working a very demanding full-time job with a lot of hours, I also had to do all the housework and got worn down mentally & physically, and got stressed out over my ex-wife's spending habits.

that is the maturing process...and I am hoping this time you have chosen a mate who is of equal maturity...

My wife is very mature about most things... and, she occasionally pitches in to help with the housework! Though, I think I'd have to draw her a map in order for her to find the laundry room in our house.

just sayin'....

and he is single and owns his own 3 family home that is already paid off.

this is where the non-geek comes in...
I am guessing a geek would know what a 3 family is:shrug:

A 3 family home is a 3 story home that is a complete house on each level (kitchen, 3 bedrooms, living room, bathroom, etc). He rents out the lower two floors to other families and lives on the top floor. Each home has it's own separate entrance. They're fairly common here in New England.

The town he lives in - West Hartford, CT - is a very progressive big town/small city (owing to a large Jewish population) that is pretty diverse for Connecticut (I think it's about 10% each for Asian, Hispanic & African-Americans)

he's 36 years old.

I think he may be a bit suspicious of women after what I went through with my ex-wife, however.

a healthy dose of question everything is curiousity at it's most paranoid:P



but, sadly, I am perhaps too old for him *sigh*


thanks for trying though:pals:

maybe there is hope for me yet...

*SIGH*

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Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune--without the words,
And never stops at all,

And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I've heard it in the chillest land,
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.







And I say to you, wildhorses ~ I believe that without hope there's nothing left but a cold and lonely emptiness.

and how right you are about a life with out hope...very scary indeed!!

Well, she's an engineer, and a computer nerd....

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thanks for sharing
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But its difficult to find the right non-geek.

;)
people fall in love with lots of different people, geekiness is usually not the deciding factor

If the non-geek is still very intelligent, why not?

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just because a person is not a geek it does not mean that they are stupid...

:) I've been attracted to more than one.... :) And I married one too!

and I am happy for you
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:hi: :loveya:

At least, I'm assuming my very geeky husband loves me. :hi:

such a loveable person as you;)
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Is there a particular geek you are wondering about?

wondering if there was any hope for me...

non-geek gets it bad for a geek.

Go for it, however. The times they are a changing!

now if I could just find one:P

I am a "dork".

Haven't seen any geeks around, but, if I should I'll point them your way. ;)

and try not to trip over him:P

a geek can certainly fall in love with a non-geek.

But can a non-geek fall in love with a geek?

know any geeks that would be interested:P




edited cos keyboard has been drinking

I am unloveable and a geek.

You are so totally lovable and CUTE in a very major way!!!

People who know me slightly think I have a "thing" for geeky men. Because I don't fit the stereotypical "geek woman" appearance, people mistake me for not being a geek. However, my SO and anyone close to me know I'm a pretty big geek underneath a bit of semi-glamness. To me, geek means intelligent and willing to be yourself.

Geek is a compliment.


edit: No, I doubt I could love a non-geek. Too boring.