What don't you understand about some people?

This is not meant to be a put down for any gender. Just a chance to post things you just don't get about how some people think. And, of course, just because some people do something, it doesn't mean that every one does it.

I don't understand why some people don't get that if we can't trust them, we can't respect them. (We have a male friend who thought it was alright to cheat on his wife as long as she never found out. Well--she found out! Now, he can't understand why she filed for divorce and refuses to take him back. After all, he said he was sorry.)

:banghead:

I also don't understand why some people resent it when a friend of their's sheds a lot of weight. If they are unhappy about their weight, they should go on a healthier diet and exercise to get rid of their extra pounds.:shrug: Don't get jealous---get with the program!!

vasectomy/tubal, so we don't need condoms" line from someone other than a committed partner.

That's not been pulled on me, thankfully (and if it was I'd run in the other direction), but I've heard others who were shocked when their dates trotted that line out.

of aids or herpes or any other diseases that they might have picked up from another sexual partner. I figure that they think they are immune to getting or passing on these diseases. Ignorance ruins lives and kills!

"herbes" because it's so damn funny!

"Oh shit, I have chives again. Dammit!"

"Well, dude, it could be worse. I heard Joe has cilantro and there's no cure for that."

"Joe does? Man, that guy is an idiot. I figured he learned his lesson after that nasty bout of basil."

Sorry, back to what you were saying...

:) :hi:

:blush:

It's totally awesome! It made my day. Sorry, I didn't mean to embarrass you! :)

I'm a perfectionist about some things. ;(

Sorry again, I truly wasn't trying to be the grammar/spelling police. I just liked the way the word sounded. I really enjoy those little accidents of language. I find them most amusing. :hi:

:pals:

they all sound pretty bad as STDs

plus they can easily ruin a perfectly good rice dish.

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Thanks for the belly laughs grace0418. :D I enjoy those little language accidents too. :-)

edit: caty, don't worry, it's just cute. :D I make mistakes too.

Tip your waitresses! ;)

;-)

She had a tubal and thought that condomns weren't necessary obviously. She began dating a guy who she knew had been promiscous and cheated in "committed relationships" in the past. I suggested to her that perhaps they should use condomns. She said that they didn't because he didn't like condomns, which suggests that he didn't wear them with all the other people he had been with either.
Within the first few months of them dating, she got multiple "urinary tract infections". I hope that he got treated for his "urinary tract infections" also.

I relate to my dogs much better than any human with the possible exception of Ms Durden. She'd say the same thing.

What I especially don't get is how people can treat life the same way smokers in a restaurant treat 2nd hand smoke: if you piss in the pool, we all have to swim in it. Doesn't matter if you just pissed in the shallow end: it'll get where the rest of us are eventually.

:D

They love to drink and sniff at that stuff, and you say you understand them? How do you relate to your dogs? As master to servant? With my dogs I feel like I am the servant. At least people will sometimes get their own food and take care of their own doo doo.

And you think people are obnoxious? Lots of times you can walk by a person and they will ignore you or just wave. You cannot do that with a dog. It's yap yap yap. Yap yap yap. Especially if you've got a dog with you. I said to my dog "you sure do belong to an obnoxious and destructive species". She just wagged her tail and kept on digging up the flower bed, until a squirrel scampered by and she gave chase. You know it's true. Ask any cat, they'll tell ya.

are the biggest whiners when other people break the same rules and cause them any kind of inconvenience.

I don't understand Men that willingly have a child with their wife, then when they separate he's so uninterested in his son? Why did you have a kid? Everyone knows marriage isn't always "until death do us part". I could not imagine not wanting to be a part of my childs life.

How about the guys that absolutely don't want kids but they will have sex with a girl without protection, girls sometimes lie about being on the pill!

Sorry guys, I'm going through a divorce and they were doing a deadbeat vs. good dad on the radio this morning :-)

...the mom could visit....but won't... because she isn't allowed to bring her gun toten' boyfriend along on visits.

So she hasn't seen this little guy in years....so my son is 'the mom/dad parent'.


Tikki

don't mean to imply that all or even most men are like that, your son sounds like a stand-up guy. I think situations like that are so sad, more people should realize that children really need "both" parents around, even if they aren't together.

she appears to be the kind of mother who is never going to be consistent with her interactions with her children...
Her other children are much older, but were raised or are being raised by their fathers.

So I don't know if this sweet little guy needs her or not....really, I just don't know.



Tikki

understand why some people are so hateful and rude to waitresses and waiters. Does it really make them feel better about themselves to use someone else in such a mean spirited way?

a person's character by the way they treat waitstaff, retail clerks and any other service professionals. I really do. You can really tell that some folks think they are better than others based on how much money they make or what they do for a living.

I dated by how they treated waitresses when we went out to eat. I figured that is how they would treat me when the "newness" of our relationship wore off. Rude to a waitress?....no second date.

service professionals and, no suprise to me, one of them is a complete asshole and one of them is so incredibly self-absorbed he can't see past the nose on his face. I cannot believe my sisters married these two guys.

they are enlightened... I had two acquaintances (no longer talk to either of them) who are into all this New-Age stuff, crystals and light therapy and alien abductions and etc., thinking they are on a 'higher plane' and both were sooo damn rude to waitstaff whenever we'd meet for lunch or dinner. Snappy and harsh and so uppity.

Not saying that alternative beliefs/healing/etc. are bogus at all, I think there is much validity in such alternatives (though they do tend to attract flakes) but it was just ironic that they'd both sit there (neither knew the other person) and talk about elevated consciousness and blah blah blah and then be rude as shit to someone bringing them their chile relleno.

where everyone is going, how important it must be, that they would risk life and limb out on the road to get there so fast. :shrug:

(three near misses today, because of these idiots) This hug's for me. :hug:

I don't get how some people are so easily offended. I don't judge them for it, but I don't understand it- most likely because of how I was raised.

Okay and also, I don't get why some people insist on pretending to have a happy family, thus making everyone else miserable. Example: Even in adulthood, Son hates step-mother. Step-mother not crazy about Son, Son's wife, and their not-clean-enough-for-her house. Dad insists step-mom come along and play the part of happy mom. Entire visit = miserable, frustrating, stressful, waste of my time.

Some people are easily offended by criticism or negative words towards them because they have poor boundaries and self esteem. They may also turn a single comment into a larger generalization about themselves.

stupid, generally.

It's not like I went to private schools and Ivy League colleges, but geez, I know that loose isn't "lose", I know that your isn't "you're", etc. etc. That's more than spelling, I know.

Also, these people who don't know who Dick Cheney is? And they're over 12? Aww, hell no.

When I write, I don't think about the letters that I am writing or typing. I think about the words. I usually spell correctly because I am used to to typing or writing the words correctly. I don't think about my letters. I think about my words. I don't let any confusion over spelling affect my train of thought.
I suppose that since my writing on here and for other purposes is shared with other people, who might misunderstand my words or think me ignorant, I should use spell check and/or proof read my writing.
I am explaining my reasoning because we probably think differently.

I realize, and have been told before, that online it's tough to be anal about spelling,etc. And, I've been told I shouldn't assume that everyone else took typing class. All of which is true, and I do need to be told it more than once.

But still, it irks me LOL. And whenever I bring it up, I get replies from folks like you who are so not what I mean! See, I should work harder on being clearer.

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When I write, I don't think about the letters that I am writing or typing. I think about the words. I usually spell correctly because I am used to to typing or writing the words correctly.

That brings up what I don't understand about people. You say you are used to spelling correctly because you are used to typing or writing the words correctly.

So why, then, do some people think it's a time saver to spell incorrectly? Example: I just 8. (I just ate). Don't they know it becomes automatic (typing out eight)? If a person has to think of an alternative, it's not a timesaver.

If they're doing it because they want to write in an alternative version of the language, fine. But don't say it's a time savings.




Cher

I just don't get how they can think the way they do.

I mean cruel to animals, cruel to other people, cruel to the environment... :( :cry: When I was a kid, I saw a little boy kick a cat for no reason whatsoever. I'm not a confrontational person (never have been), but I went over to that little boy (I was six at the time) and yelled at him, "How would YOU like it if that cat kicked you?" He just laughed, so I went over and got an adult, who promptly ushered him away. I found out later that his mother spanked him, and she made him apologize to me. I said, "Thanks, but I think you really need to apologize to the cat now." :P

I just don't see how people can be so awful to each other, or to animals, or to the world they live in. :shrug:

I have not really ever remembered the urge to be cruel to anyone or anything for no reason. I just don't understand why people rather be cruel than kind, especially when they have to go out of their way to be cruel.

I was driving down the street the other day and I saw some boys tearing at the lower limbs of a tree.

I stopped my car and went over to them. I asked them why they were tearing on the tree limbs. They said, "Because it's fun." I asked them why it was fun to destroy something from nature. They couldn't answer that question.

I then told them that they should go home put "plants feel" into Google and see what they find.




Cher

who risk their lives and the lives of others when they talk on cell phones, put on make-up, shave, read, work on their lap-tops, etc., while driving a car. All of those things could have been done before starting the engine or after they get to where they are going. I was almost hit by a woman who was talking on a cell phone. She barely missed me, but hit another car.:wtf:

Really, that would drive me absolutely fucking crazy.

They sure are numerous, but I can't relate to them at all.

not at all. Especially because they seem so blind to it. A classic example is a guy like Tom Delay. Somebody who demogogues lawsuits as "frivolous" and caps rewards etc, yet his family - rightfully in my opinion - sued a company due to his father's death and won a big lawsuit. Ok, that's fine, I'm sure his family deserved it and they did suffer a tragic loss. So then why does he then go out and seek to deny the same recourse to people in that same situation? Denouncing and demogoging an issue in a self-righteous and condescending manner? Does he not see why this is hypocritical? So why is it good enough for him and his family to do, but not others? And that is only one frustrating example. There are a million to ponder for sure and I don't understand any of it. :)

claim to be moral, but lead unethical lives. Or, people who claim to be religious, but go against everything Jesus was supposed to have taught. Love thy neighbor (even if they happen to be gay). Help the poor---don't steal what little bit they have and call it taxes, outsourcing, or good business.

Particularly when they stand on a platform of morality/religion/family values. To me hating, persecuting, exploiting, relegating entire classes of people to second-class status, tearing families apart, neglecting the needy, killing and the like are not moral, are a heinous distortion of what religion could be, and do not reflect anything I consider to be family values.





On edit: To a large extent I do understand such people and the way they come to be the way they are. I just have great difficulty dealing with the reality of their existence and the havoc they wreak upon our world. It makes my mind and my heart hurt. :cry:

and an utter lack of concern and respect for other Earthlings and the Earth itself.

I don't understand entitlement and "It's all about me."

And I doubt I ever will.

Oh all-knowledgeable one?

at 6:42am on a Saturday morning.

I was already up but my husband was not.

I have a neighbor who cuts his grass every Sunday at 8am. Now, on a Sunday, that just seems too early to me. I want to sleep in!:boring:

believe it's 8:00 am before lawn mowing, snow-blowing or any construction can be done.

Sadly, I can't remember the last time I slept later than 7:00am but if I'm ever able to do it on a weekend I will be mad about the noisemakers!

On an intellectual level, I know that it's a way of showing respect and making connections to talk about nothing in particular with people. What I don't get is how people can be interested in doing it. Eh, guess that's why I don't do well with people :shrug:

If a group of people was sitting around in silence at dinner/a party/other awkward situations, I used to be able to get them all talking (about whatever, and I do mean whatEVER) and break the ice for everyone.

Now, I just don't care that much, LOL.

the local drug store, where I saw a woman unload her shopping cart and then let the shopping cart roll into the middle of the driving lane---and she left it there and drove off. I don't get it!!!! :nuke: I moved it to the cart stall.

If I respected as few people as I trust I would have been shot by now.

When someone tells you that you've hurt them, say you're sorry. Even if you don't think you did anything wrong, it's probably true that you didn't mean to hurt anyone... so "I'm sorry. I didn't mean to hurt you." isn't all that unreasonable.

I can't tell you how many times when I've been hurt by a friend, the response has been, "If that's what you think, then fuck you." So much for a friend.

that their behavior was hurtful who still can't apologize, even when they lose friends, jobs, etc over it.

Actually, I do understand it: Their self-esteem is so fragile that admitting they have done something wrong defeats them completely. I'm one of those people who apologizes too much. I have to stop myself sometimes.

I work with a rather hot-headed man who yelled at me one day in front of a bunch of people. The next day he came and apologized to me in front of those same people. I loved him for that. I don't expect people to be perfect and never behave badly, but I do expect them to take responsibility for their behavior and APOLOGIZE.

I work with a rather hot-headed man who yelled at me one day in front of a bunch of people. The next day he came and apologized to me in front of those same people. I loved him for that.

That's the irony of an apology. We all accept the fact that no one is perfect and that we all make mistakes. An apology is, therefore, well with the logical framework of normal human behavior.

But it's so hard for so many people. The irony is that--tough as it is--it's one of the few things a person can do to get instant respect.




Cher

Is less insulting than saying nothing.

If you can't be worry for what you did, you can be sorry for how it made me feel.

right?

Really, people... what's your problem? It's WATER FROM THE SKY. Deal with it. Besides, it smells good.

I think we've had 5 rain-free days in the last 45 days.

Enough is enough.

I don't hate the rain, but physiologically speaking, we need sunshine too.

is the drought. The grass is brown (in New Orleans!) and there's dust everywhere. I wouldn't mind a small tropical storm right about now.

Notice how all the birthday cards act like it's a freakin' crime to be a year older? I have a big stash of blank cards and I write in "Happy Birthday" just because I can't stand rifling through all the birthday cards at the store that make fun of the person because they're a year older.

I say: congratulations on getting through another year of republican-dominated politics. That's an achievement in anybody's book, considering the fact that 18,000 people a year die because there is no national health insurance.

That's my message on birthday cards.




Cher

An old drill Sargent of mine used to say that about rain (usually as were marching through it.Lol)

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I don't see how so many people "believe" in supernatural things like angels, a person coming back to life to save us all (one human in the billions of years history of the Earth is going to magically appear again ... ?? makes zero sense to me), or that some omnipotent creature is up there deciding who is going to die in a train derailment, who is going to win the lottery, and who is going to find their misplaced keys. It's entirely ludicrous to me, but I'm considered an oddball in U.S. society because I can't make myself go along with this stuff.

Why are people intentionally MENTALLY lazy?

I don't get why when I GAINED weight people just assumed that I did nothing, I was nothing, and I had nothing better to do then eat donuts and watch TV. Hello people!!!!! I am not 120 pounds anymore but get over the stupid labels. Not all girls with junk in the trunk are lazy, bon bon eaters, and worthless. I have actually had women turn their head (in upscale Southern California restaurant's) then look at me. And my first thought was...My God...what in the hell has this world become? Manicures and highlights with a nice ass make a person? My boobs are real...get over it! If thats the definition of beauty...I am done trying to run the marathon. Give me some Berk's, my natural auburn hair, no tan, and a size 18 body. I take care of myself and I smell really good as well. Thank you very much. LOL. Get over yourselves. Not all people fit into the box. Embrace beauty in all shapes and sizes. And maybe, just maybe...women will not just be Maxim covers....but beautiful PEOPLE. With a life of their own.