If You Could Go Back In Time And Redo One Relationship....

From your past and change it so that things worked out differently, which one would it be and what would you change?

For me, I'd be more forceful with my ex girlfriend, who always complained that I never argued with her and we never fought about anything.

(if you think that's an odd complaint about someone, you're with me on that)

And in addition to being more forceful, I probably would have appreciated her more in the last few months. I guess it's hard to be in a relationship with someone for nearly two years and be able to treat the person you wake up to everyday as if you've just fallen in love with them again for the first time.

Especially when you're not used to living with somebody for that long at time.

Oh, and I would have cooked more often too. :D

So what about you, where did you mess up in your last relationship?

I should have had him locked up long before I ever did, to save me a lot of emotional and physical abuse. Either that or I should have just done him in and done the world a favor.

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... but later realized that if I hadn't made all the mistakes that I made THEN, I'd be making them for the first time NOW.

I've got a more realistic outlook on what I expect from my relationship and what my own responsibilities are as well. It was a rough nine years (well the last half anyway)... but I wouldn't be who I am today otherwise.

-- Allen

P.S. My unsolicited advice? Quit regretting the past and enjoy today.

"If I hadn't made all the mistakes that I made THEN, I'd be making them for the first time NOW."

And that's a good thing overall. Realize the mistakes you made and learn from them. I wouldn't do them over, but hopefully I wouldn't do them again.

*sigh*

Don't we all have relationships like that? What hypothetical situations always look better with time.

but it probably would be my first serious relationship. This woman and I were together for 3+ years during and after college. She cheated on me countless times, and I was too insecure and timid to dump her sorry ass. If I had it to do over again, I would have done so after the first time (three weeks into the relationship).

A bit on "That 70s Show" reminds me of my relationship with her:

Hyde: "You know your problem. You're really cute, so no one's ever told you to shut your pie hole."
Jackie: "So you think I'm really cute?"
Hyde: "SHUT YOUR PIE HOLE!"

Wish I'd done that at the time.

My answer is that I would not go back and change anything. My every action and inaction has led me to where I am now. I wold not change my current future for anyone I have known in the past.

:shrug:

listening to the request of my ex and moving to Boston.

It was a complete, unmitigated disaster from the day the trip to Boston began. It cost me thousands of dollars, did horrible things to my credit rating as a result, had a hugely negative impact on me emotionally, and basically just made my life miserable for a few years.

Come to think of it, it's still affecting me in some ways, and that was 5 years ago.

... was great. She was absolutely georgeous, could have been in Playboy, I mean a knockout. Funny, we always had a great time, went all sorts of places to do things. She was great in bed, I mean teriffic. She did everything... EVERYTHING!! She would even invite some of her girlfiends to join us from time to time. Yeah, it was fun.

But of course, stupid me being 19-22 thought the good times would last forever, took things for granted, and lost her. So yeah, I'd like to go back and make some adjustments. When's the train leave the station?

HE was more than willing-I was just too insecure at the time to take the chance.

"I shoulda never played the game.... I shoulda f****d old what's her name."
-George Carlin

...with a woman who saw me as a vehicle for entree into a hip world. Surprised? Yep. This Dingbat was the top of the hipness food chain, and she hung out with me for that, and that alone. When that dried up and I moved on to other things of greater substance, she fled, rather surprising me.

I would have put my foot down to certain things that bothered me when they came about 5 or 6 years ago and not been in shear denial about it as I was until a few months ago when I got my head out of the clouds and finally realized this wasn't what I signed up for and I have too much going for me as an individual to have to tolerate it any longer. I have built up too many resentments and it slowly has undone so many of my feelings that I often wonder if it is salvagable most of the time. I was too young when I got married and just didn't have the maturity yet to see certain red flags. Sigh.... :(

UGH.

Ha that one made me laugh. I was the on receiving end of that line too and no we are not together anymore either. I Should have ended that relationship way earlier.

I turned what should have been a one-night stand (at most) into a 10 year relationship. I used him to run away from life for a decade adn I regret all the opportunities I passed up in my 20s because I was "with" him.

That would mean my youngest daughter wouldn't exist. See also post #4.