Have you ever thrown yourself at anyone else?

This behavior always has puzzled me, but it may be because I am a fairly reserved (although highly flirtacious :evilgrin:) woman who tends towards the cerebral.

Have you ever tried this? If so, how did it work out for you?

And you don't wanna know. Trust me. It wasn't pretty.

:eyes:

and I knocked her on the ground....:rofl:....:)

In all seriousness, I have, and I failed miserably the three times I did it...

I had you confused with writing is my religion

I'm 31, m'dear. ;)

I imagine someone would get a good laugh if I did...;-)

It's not my style, and I'd look rather silly. That being said, I can be quite flirty...

And in the end, I looked awfully stupid. Silly. Idiotic....you name it.

*sigh*

Never again. I swear, never again.

:pals:

i can't think of a time when the man thrown at failed to give it up

:-)

I know with this last one I damn well had to have her, and I wasn't taking 'no' for an answer. My animal instincts kind of took over, and I worked my ass off, but I got her. I also bought myself a world of pain, in the long run. I've never really been through anything like that before, and honestly I think next time I'd just as soon be pursued. I don't know if I'd do it again, but I've never had that kind of passion in my life before or since...I don't honestly think, as painful as it was, that I would undo it. At least I know what true passion is...I don't think I'd cheat myself out of that experience...no, I know I wouldn't, but it's easier to say that now that it's over.

That's not a boast, because I'm hardly proud of the fact that -- almost without exception -- I totally failed to be receptive to any such advances. My failures came mostly through a stunning degree of obliviousness, now not quite as bad as it once was, but also through fear, disbelief, general reluctance, shyness, habit, or whatever. If you do 'throw yourself' at someone, or otherwise feel rebuffed when you make the move, it's not necessarily because the person (male or female, though I wonder if this behavior is more common among males) is not interested or does not find you attractive and intriguing. I have inadvertently offended or hurt many women through either not recognizing even their most unequivocal courtship signals or turning them down flat when, really, most of my being would have loved to have come to know them better. I know I am not alone in this. Certainly, I have known quite a few males with similar propensity -- they're alone and lonely when they wouldn't have to be if they just allowed themselves to either make the first step or respond positively to someone else's first step.

I still have a natural tendency to do that but I am keenly aware of it now (especially in the wake of committing a most heinous social faux pas or two in clubs after work, when I'm still done up as Elvis) and I've been working on it over the past few weeks, largely as a result of a thread here on DU and of my very soon afterward meeting a woman with whom I didn't totally screw everything up (not that I know when and if I'll see her again...still, it was a major step for me). When women come up to ask me to dance, for example, I'll usually only try to talk my way out of it just once, now, before I let them drag me up there to do my eclectic thaing. That's an improvement over repeatedly turning down the same woman or group of women (on the truthful basis that I was wiped out from work, though that's only part of the reason) and finally getting kind of curt about it. It's better, but it still doesn't feel natural. And I'd still just as soon stay off that dance floor (one definition of Hell -- or, at least, Heck -- for me, as comfortable as I can be on a stage with everyone watching, would be not only boogying down on the dance floor, but having my every esoteric and hyperkinetic move scrutinized because I'm eight feet tall and dressed in a f***ing jumpsuit). I get mobbed out there, sometimes, too, and it gets a little scary and bottom-bruising.

My current incarnation as 'Elvis' is helping me because I have many, many opportunities to connect with women as a result of it and I receive many invitations and indications of attraction -- more so than would otherwise be the case even when I was at my most pheromonal without the Elvis mojo on my side -- so it's like an accelerated finishing school in that respect. I would be a fool to squander what most people never get an opportunity to have. At the very least -- I'm not interested in notching up a ton of sexual partners (okay, maybe part of me is) -- I can learn how to respond better while I still have so many opportunities to respond to. I may mess up these potential connections (and some of the more overt scare the hell out of me because I don't feel like I want a one-night stand now) but, in a way, it's good 'practice' and I think it'll cure me of what's been ailing me my whole life. And I know I'll be ready when she comes, anyway...it took me some time, but I've known that truth for a while now. But you never know who she is, I suppose, and I'd hate her to be one of the opportunities I never responded to.

To any women out there in the universe who've thought me arrogant or just not attracted to them when, in fact, I was actually quite taken with them...I'm sorry.

I've had female friends say things to me like, "Uh, did you not notice that girl was trying to pick you up?" And I'd always answer, "Really?"

:D

I finally began to notice it for myself, but it toom me long enough and some of my episodes of oblivion are painfully embarrassing. And even now I sometimes miss it, I know. A few months ago a female cousin of mine went to the supermarket and said she saw three women distinctly and obviously flirting with me (my response: "what? they were just being nice") and that I flirted back (my response: "what? I was just being nice"). :-)

Oh, well. We'll get it right one of these days, caballero.

I rarely ever recognize it. :silly:



That's what friends are for, I guess - to let you know about all your missed opportunities...x(

remind me to tell you guys my Alyssa Milano story..man was I kickin my own ass for years.....

I hope you'll tell it...:hi:

You float my boat. :D

tried in my own feeble way. But I don't know if I was too subtle or if he just wasn't interested. :shrug:

It's not my style and the more interested I am, the quieter I seem to get. Yes, I really *am* shy. Laugh all you want! :blush:

:hug:

:hug:

I'm too nice, too shy and too afraid of being rejected. :(

I don't know if I'm too nice, but I know all about being too shy. :hug:

Now I get it....

I know you. I thought we were talking about people we don't know well... :)

Still having trouble getting a particular person out of my head and heart. He has no idea what he's missing...



How are you feeling??

We wouldn't be together if I hadn't done it, he never pursued woman, they always pursued him.

I have always pursued who I wanted and have no regrets. I wouldn't say exactly throwing myself at someone but I never had a problem being the aggressor - most of the time I got what I wanted.

and I always get what I'm looking for. It works out nicely for me and him as well!:rofl:

it's not my style. i am shy. plus, i wouldn't want to make the recipient of my advances uncomfortable, especially if the feeling wasn't mutual and i've never been any good at reading the subtle gestures, signs that tell you someone is interested. i am okay though, with figuring out when someone is not. it might take me a little while but i eventually catch on, before i make a fool of myself, thankfully (if i were to actually act, which we have already established i wouldn't).

I was flattered but not interested. :)

electronically speaking. :hi:

:* :loveya: I guess I was thinking pre-marriage. :P

Well... maybe once, but it was only a half-hearted shimmy towards said man.

If I feel the need to hurt myself, I'll just beat myself up instead.

:)

:loveya:

I flirt, I'm perfectly willing to say what I want, but I'm not about to make an ass of myself.

I get what I want. :evilgrin:

It usually worked out pretty well for me, although not for the other teams' quarterbacks....

Two were magnificently successful... the third time the man in question had a girlfriend. A year later I met him at a bar, w/out girl and he tried to throw himself at me. Turned him down though. Tit for tat :D It's been many years though.

It wasn't pretty.

Too personally denigrating for my taste. Flirting? Sure. "Throwing" myself? No thanks. Shouldn't have to do that in order to get someone's attention; or they're not interested enough to be worth the effort.

Normally i either get ignored..Or I have to take a cold shower

Every Spring Break during my college days, every vacation with my buddies during my single days, anytime where time was short and when I probably wasn't going to see the girl again. :)

It was someone I knew from online, whom I then met IRL for a group get-together, and we seemed to hit it off - though it's sometimes hard for me to judge whether a guy is just being nice or is genuinely interested, so I don't always trust my own judgment. (They pretty much have to spell it out for me in so many words, before I "get it.") After we'd all gone back home and I was chatting with him again on the net, I decided to take the big chance - I typed out a message along the lines of "It was really great to meet you and I'd like to get to know you better in a more personal sense," etc. - yeah, that doesn't sound too drastic, but for my purposes it is, since I'm big into preserving my dignity and personal space.... Well, wouldn't you know it, as soon as I hit "enter," my net connection crashed. After I'd gotten everything booted back up again, I didn't have the nerve to type it out again, and so nothing ever came of it. In retrospect, I think that net crash saved me from making a major fool of myself.

Still got the bruises...

It is very good for the ego boost.

He was so gullible, I guess. But I wish more people had thrown themselves at me.

I'd be better off throwing; to see if they throw in return, throw up in return, or throw themselves toward the opposite direction. :D

....s'what life's all about isn't it?! :evilgrin: