I don't know what to think of this

My kid's Dad and I aren't really talking right now. We email bank and forth to make arrangements for visitation, and that's it.

I got my son this morning and he's been really mopey all day. Finally I got him to answer when I asked if he was upset. "Tomas is dying. He's sick. He fell." Tomas used to babysit him, until he graduated from high school and had real work to do. He's his big brother figure. If that's really why my son is upset, and I can't imagine him making that up, I really wish his father had mentioned it when he put him in my car so I could talk to him about it.

I'm going to email him and find out. In the meantime, has anybody had a kid make up something like that? It just seems so odd, because Tomas is only 18. I'm afraid it's true though, because my son is so quiet and reserved today, and he's never like that even when he's sick.

But this sounds like a time when it might be good to just to find out what's going on here. Unless he's really prompt about answering emails, I think I'd call.

Certainly I've never known my kids to make something like that up but they've been confused about actual events that they've simply overheard adults talking about and maybe that's the case here. I sure hope so anyway.

At any rate, I hope you find out the truth soon so you can comfort and/or reassure LeftyKid. :hug:

It's beyond inconvenient, and his way of playing petty power games. :shrug:

having had two exes that i prefer to limit my contact with (and kids with both). can you shame him into sucking it up when it's in regards to your son and his well-being? maybe you could leave him an email or voice mail to that effect. tell him that your son comes first before any petty bullshit that's between the two of you. lay down the law, sweetie.

If he does not answer, I'd leave a very specific message, that you're concerned about LeftyKid and why. Cut through the bullshit. Tell him you must speak with him. If he's any kind of dad at all, he will call back.

Do you think I'm wrong?

Trust me, he won't call back. "Any kind of a Dad at all" is a joke where this man is concerned. :(

But I think you did the right thing.

Priorities, LM... you have yours straight, don't allow his stupid bullshit to change that.

I have done enough baby sitting, and was involved enough with my younger sisters, to know he is probably telling the truth. Your husband was wrong, too, not to give you a "heads up" about something that serious. :hug:

Maybe you could inquire to them about his health. And no, I don't know why your son would make something like this up, unless he's overheard something and misunderstood the context.

and I think they moved since I was at thier house last.

:grr: