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Nicholas D Wolfwood Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 03:58 PM
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Is the old "rumor" about sex ending after marriage true?
:hide::shrug:
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MrCoffee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 03:59 PM
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1. HELL NO!
at least, not in my experience. :evilgrin:
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ceile Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:01 PM
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5. And you've got the wee-ones to prove it!
;-)
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MorningGlow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:01 PM
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2. It's not post-marriage
It's post-kid(s)--exhaustion, sleepless nights, no time, etc.

Just means you have to be more creative.

:evilgrin:
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XNASA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:01 PM
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3. It depends who you're married to.
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zingaro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:04 PM
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8. I'll second this. nt
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BarenakedLady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:16 PM
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11. Thirded (is that a word?) n/t
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 02:09 PM
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45. fourthed
If I wasn't recovering from a c-section.......:evilgrin:
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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:01 PM
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4. Far from it for Mr. B and me.
going on 11 years and it's better now than before we hitched up! :bounce::bounce::bounce:
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BOSSHOG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:03 PM
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6. We've been married more then 30 years
I expect it to end one of these decades. In the kitchen, in the backyard, in the truckbed, in the park, in the attic, upside down, and occasionally we get kinky and go to bed.
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idgiehkt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 05:48 PM
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19. congrats
you are a lucky man.

:toast:
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BOSSHOG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 07:38 AM
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26. We are just
evil liberals enjoying life and each other. We work and pay taxes and mow the lawn and buy the tacky candy kids sell for fundraisers. We are regular Ozzie and Harriet without the kids; its just that voting record of ours that makes us the scourge of the community.
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catmandu57 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:03 PM
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7. Slowed down a little
Far from ended.
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belladonna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:12 PM
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9. Nope
Hell, during my first marriage, the sex was the only thing that was good, so we did plenty of that. Even did the break-up sex thing.

I'm not "married" now but we're just like a married couple, but the nookie hasn't dryed up.. quite the contrary.
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LaraMN Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:16 PM
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10. Wasn't there some study the other week that reported that
married couples have sex more frequently than single people? I think that was it, but it certainly depends on the couple and their circumstances.
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:18 PM
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12. If it's true, how did I get pregnant four times after I got married?
Yes, that's right! We've done it four times! And we've only been married nine years!
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matcom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:20 PM
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13. ....
:rofl:
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:47 PM
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14. I'll let you know.
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billyskank Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:49 PM
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15. Jeez, I'm wondering when it begins?
:shrug:
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:51 PM
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16. A little less frequent, but not a bit less intense. :)
But the frequency is mostly due to the fact that, as we get older, our backs and hips and shoulders get a wee bit achy and protestful of too much vigorous movement.
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mongo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 12:50 PM
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41. I hear ya ---
ever had to go to the Doctor and explain how you strained your back?

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JackBeck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 04:59 PM
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17. We've been together almost 10 years and have been married for two.
No complaints here. But we're just pervy homos.
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NewWaveChick1981 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 05:05 PM
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18. Let me put it this way...
Edited on Thu Dec-07-06 05:12 PM by NewWaveChick1981
...Mismatched drives can be hell. ;) :(
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 05:54 PM
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21. My dear NewWaveChick.........
You too, huh? God........it's horrible........

I'm in therapy to help me deal with it........

Good thing we love each other........
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billyskank Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 06:02 PM
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22. I'm pretty mismatched too
:(
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 06:16 PM
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24. Let me guess...
His is a 3.5" floppy?




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izzybeans Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 07:44 AM
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27. sorry but
:rofl:

I didn't mean to laugh out loud
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Fuzz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 06:34 PM
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25. I'm with you :(
Going on 13 years now and don't know what to do about it anymore. :(

Driving me insane actually. Tried everything I can think of too.
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NewWaveChick1981 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 08:16 AM
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31. Then you know exactly what I mean.
:hug: I know everyone can guess who has the high drive and who has the low drive. :(
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seemunkee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 08:04 AM
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29. I hear you
Over the years its gotten better.
Plus with one kid out of the house and the other driving the opportunities are there more often.
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av8rdave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 08:58 AM
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32. It happens...
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BikeWriter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 10:27 AM
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36. Been there, done that, didn't get a T-shirt.
:cry:
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 05:49 PM
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20. Less frequent but all the more cherished lol
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KamaAina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-07-06 06:14 PM
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23. Only for repukes
don't worry. :spank:
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HughBeaumont Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 07:55 AM
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28. It's not really a rumor but a problem.
Edited on Fri Dec-08-06 07:56 AM by HughBeaumont
I am another one of the "mismatched drive" crew. Meaning, I'd be happy with once a week (really, I want it 3-4 times a week ) but am lucky to get it once, maybe twice a month. It wasn't uncommon in the first years of this to go 1-2, up to 4 months with no sex.

The only huge fight we've ever had dealt with this very issue - We had the entire house to ourselves for the first time in a long time and we hadn't done anything in weeks, so naturally, the time is right. Right?

She wanted to clean the house instead.

Needless to say, things just went 90 degrees-downhill in a rocket following that.

Oh yeah, and we didn't do the "make-up" sex thing until about 2 weeks later.

Apparently, we're not alone
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NewJeffCT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 08:11 AM
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30. Considering that my daughter was born 15 months after we got married...
I would say "no" to that question.

However, with my ex-wife it did. Before we got married, she was almost insatiable. After we said, "I do" it was like somebody turned a switch to "off" in her head. Granted, we had some outside issues, but it really was like a switch was turned off...
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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 09:00 AM
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33. I've been married for two years.
My husband wants to do the wild thing two to three times a day. I'd be happy with three to five times a week. If anything, the frequency has picked up.
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BikeWriter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 10:25 AM
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34. Yes, but sometimes it takes a while.
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tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 10:26 AM
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35. no
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 10:43 AM
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37. I'm sure it depends on the marriage
and the two people involved. People from whom I've heard that often have unhappy marriages. On the other hand, as much as I love chili with chipotle pepper, if I had it for dinner every night for thirty years I'd wish for something else, now and then. I got called a "fucking bitch" once too often in the first year of my marriage which pretty much killed any desire I felt, forever.
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miss_american_pie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 10:58 AM
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38. Any particular reaon you're asking?
:hide:
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Mad_Dem_X Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 11:13 AM
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39. Nope.
Just after you have kids. That's why hubby and I have none.

;-)
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mongo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 12:39 PM
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40. Fuck no!
Ten years and it only keeps getting better.

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ismnotwasm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 12:52 PM
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42. Hell no
Who started that rumor anyway? Think I'll go wake up my husband.
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leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 01:06 PM
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43. depends on what the meaning of the word "sex" is
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Writer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 01:12 PM
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44. Last night, Mr. Writer and I completely invalidated that claim.
:P
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plcdude Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 02:36 PM
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46. you have to be
open and honest with each other continuously especially on this topic.
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 02:51 PM
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47. Just the opposite
After the marriage is over, the sex gets better...

:shrug:

RL
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gemma Donating Member (38 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-08-06 03:02 PM
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48. Wait, I'll ask my mistress.....lol
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