I'm moving out

It almost feels like I'm breaking up w/ someone.

But that's not it at all.

My son and I just don't live together very well anymore. He's 19, and of course, he thinks he knows it all (and correspondingly, that I know nothing).

In the last year or so, he's turned into a major slug. He's slacking off at school (which is a big deal because he had a scholarship and if he doesn't make grade, he'll lose it). He doesn't eat right, he never gets any sleep (oh and when he's up all night w/ his friends, they're usually keeping me up too), he's gained a lot of weight (this wouldn't be a big deal to me if he were an active guy, but he's a slug) and he's managed to pretty much piss through a hefty inheritance.

I've begun to feel like my counsel is unappreciated, and that my requests and wishes are completely irrelevant.

He's 19, and he thinks he has the right to live however he wants to. And you know, I won't argue that point w/ him. But I think he's forgetting something: I also have the right to live my live the way I want.

And I won't live it this way. I won't watch him ruin himself. And I won't live where I'm not appreciated and where my feelings don't count.

So, as much as I didn't want to me an empty-nester this soon, looks like I'm going to be one nonetheless. March or April is my target to move.

I've never lived by myself. This ought to be interesting....

:shrug:

Why can't you kick him out?

He's got friends that are going to move in.

Besides, I think I want to be closer to my aging parents.

not a laughing one. I hope you didn't think I was making light of the situation.

Good luck to you! :hug:

no problem

You could be in for a real shock if you don't. My godchild lived in my apartment when I moved out and got married and I got quite shocker for a cleaning bill because I was the one on the lease.

Good luck to you, Miss Millie. :hug:

No one talking to you
You can just sit there with the TV as loud as you want
You are completel in control of the cleanliness of the place and how to do the laundry and the dishes

Oh how I miss those times. Those simple quiet lazy times.

Oh well. Good luck. Sounds like he has quite an awakening in front of him.

..but, from the sounds of it, I feel compelled to say you are doing the right thing.

Hugs for you... :hug: :grouphug: :hug:

Sometimes tough love is the way to make your point.

are you moving nearby?

I'm probably moving north about 30 miles.

and yet close enough when he discovers that Mom maybe a lot smarter than I gave her credit for.

Boy, is he in for a big surprise!

I think you are definitely doing the right thing.....

He needs a wake-up call, and you need to live the way you want!

Your moving accomplishes both in one fell swoop!

You go, girl! :bounce: :bounce:

It doesn't sound like an easy decision at all, but I agree, you don't have to live like that. Lots of good wishes and good luck to you. :hug:

sounds hard to be in your shoes but I'm sure it's time to do something different for both of your sakes

:pals:

happens sometimes for some reason

I lived by myself for 3 years before I got married and I loved it. As much as I love my husband, I sure miss living by myself.

when you think about it, young adults today seem to have a lot more done for them by their parents than we used to at that age, and as a result, they often have to learn to be responsible the hard way. (and I guess we did too)

I suppose if he were living in a frat, or in a college apt., he would have to learn it anyway.

Just give him the birth control lecture! ;)

Good luck to you and enjoy your freedom.