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Edited on Sat Feb-03-07 01:29 PM by AchtungToddler
And let me say at the outset that I don't know specifically what kind of counselor or therapist supposedly said this.
The set-up: My ex-gf is dating a man who, as it turns out, is still married. She has been referring to the woman as his "ex", so I was a bit surprised to learn of this. (btw, the man is a long-distance trucker, and his wife, (or ex, as he calls her to my gf) is with his kids 1K miles away from where my ex-gf lives).
He's characterizes himself as "divorced" on his myspace page. He's told my ex-gf that a therapist (counselor?) told him and his ex that they should not tell the kids they were getting divorced, to minimize the impact on the kids. So apparently, they did just that, with them having separated but the kids not knowing (remember he's on the road a lot), but this went on for something like two years. And now, the kids know, but the situation hasn't really changed for another two years or so. He tells my exgf that the girls want to come live with him (I don't know if he has another house or not, I do know that he is staying at the wife's house right now, for a visit before he hits the road again), and he is waiting to file till they are 14 and can have their say.
It just all sounds fishy: would a counselor recommend a long state of what is essentially living a lie around kids? I mean, if the two people can get along and be adult, why wouldn't the recommendation be to be upfront and honest with the kids? Also fishy sounding: he has his story for not filing for divorce, but what is his wife's story for not filing?
I'm just suspicious that this guy has set up a situation where he can have a wife and a gf (and there is even another story of another gf that he is just finishing a relationship with, but that's fodder for another topic).
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