Freaky. My BIL just called "to chat". In all the seventeen years

crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 09:03 AM
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Freaky. My BIL just called "to chat". In all the seventeen years

I've been married, he's never called to chat & in fact has gone out of his way to avoid me (I dated him first but married his brother... bad blood, unfortunately). Has my MIL put him up to it? (She isn't speaking to me either because I've broken God's law.)

??? It was so awkward but he made a heroic effort. Hmmm...

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AllegroRondo

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Wed Mar-21-07 09:04 AM
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1. I suspect alterior motives.

check your wallet.

:shrug:

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 09:10 AM
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2. I'd be concerned about that but he lives 300 miles away.

In fact, in case he wanted to borrow money I mentioned our financial situation. Strange. :eyes:

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zanne

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Wed Mar-21-07 09:14 AM
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3. Unless he's dying,

It's fishy.

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 09:47 AM
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5. He sounded healthy enough! n/t

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Hugin

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Wed Mar-21-07 09:16 AM
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4. I'm thinking it's the MIL performing indirect 'dipping' into your situation...

Your suspicions may be right on the mark.

:|

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 09:48 AM
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6. Yes, it's even more likely if you consider the fact that he lives

with her. She may have been sitting right there.

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wildhorses

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:02 AM
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9. bingo!!

you hit the nail on the head--so to speak

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youthere

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Wed Mar-21-07 10:58 AM
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7. If I can ask a personal question...Which one of "God's Laws" did you break?

There are so many, I get confused. Did you forget to set your servant free after six years? Did you plow your field in the seventh year? You didn't cook a young goat in it's mother's milk did you? I know! You included something with yeast when you made your sacrificial blood offering...didn't you?

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:16 AM
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11. All of the above and so much more!

She's Catholic: the divorce is a sin and I've also doomed my kids to hell by not raising them as Catholics.

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youthere

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:26 AM
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18. Oh..

you little minx you!
:rofl:

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:28 AM
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19. As it happens, my husband is also going to hell

but she talks to him because she loves him. :rofl:

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youthere

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:39 AM
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20. Well at least you didn't do anything REALLY offensive to God...

like eating leftover sacrifice on the third day or plant any seeds that a dead body fell on. Then you'd REALLY be in trouble.:rofl:

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:41 AM
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21. I did once allow my husband to touch me while my monthly courses

were flowing. :rofl:

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youthere

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Wed Mar-21-07 12:27 PM
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25. OMG...

I hope you made the appropriate guilt offering for your unclean act. :rofl:

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Smooth Operator

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Wed Mar-21-07 12:29 PM
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26. oh yeah

you're very naughty.

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mzteris

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:00 AM
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8. maybe

he's still interested??

Now that you're going to be free again, he wants another chance?

It's a thought . . .

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wildhorses

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:03 AM
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10. he lives with his mother---

kind of a turn off doncha think:P

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:17 AM
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13. wildhorses, you have no idea!

:puke:

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wildhorses

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:20 AM
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15. maybe not...but, i got a clue

;)

:rofl:

:hug:

you just keep moving forward, ok

plan YOUR work
and
work YOUR plan

there is a light at the end of the tunnel, can you see it, yet?

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:23 AM
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17. I'm not seeing the light, I'm afraid.

I just had a guy over to appraise my piano... :cry: Somebody said I should sell it if I needed cash, and I guess I'm going to. I'll buy something lesser to replace it. But between the money problems, my husband and I remaining in the same house long past the time when we can stand to look at one another, and it being March... things are looking blackish at the moment. I'm not even sure this freaking tunnel has an end!

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wildhorses

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Wed Mar-21-07 12:18 PM
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24. always remember---

a 'thing' is just a 'thing'....

a piano is an inantimate object...yes, i know some 'things' are dear to our heart

let it be a freeing process and empowering symbol

i am sorry you are having to sell your piano, that sucks

maybe it is the match you need to light your own torch so that you can see until you do find the light at then end of the tunnel:shrug:

hang in there!!!

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SPKrazy

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Wed Mar-21-07 12:31 PM
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27. The Tunnel Will End...

even if you have to crawl at the end to get out, you have friends who love you and care about you who will help you get through the tunnel-- any way they can!

:hug:

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:17 AM
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12. Ewwww.

I hope that's not it!

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mainegreen

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:18 AM
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14. Sounds lovely!

Not.
Careful. Sounds like a setup by the wicked stepmother indeed!

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 11:21 AM
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16. She's an amazing woman.

:rofl:

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SPKrazy

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Wed Mar-21-07 12:12 PM
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22. There Are No Coincidences In Families

he didn't just call out of the blue to chat rest assured of that...

whatever his motives, time will tell...

Probably as others have stated-- either he's doing the speaking for MIL, or he's wanting $$$$, or he's wanting to know if there's a chance for him now? :shrug:

there may be other motives but it's usually money, sex, or some exchange of favor for someone else...

:shrug:

:hi:

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 02:59 PM
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32. I'm sure you're right.

I hope being friendly and completely noncommittal was the right way to be.

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CaliforniaPeggy

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Wed Mar-21-07 12:15 PM
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23. My dear crim son...

We've got your back, sweetie......:pals: :hug: :loveya:

Forget him, OK?

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BarenakedLady

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Wed Mar-21-07 01:03 PM
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28. Odd

Watch your back.:scared:

My BIL calls to chat some times. That is one thing I'm going to miss...my BILs

:cry:

They are gonna hate me.

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 02:56 PM
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30. Maybe not.

My BIL obviously doesn't hate me, and I know that no matter what happened to my sisters' marriages I'd still love to see all my BILs, any time. :hug: Now, your MIL might be another story.

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BarenakedLady

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Wed Mar-21-07 03:45 PM
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35. Well I don't have one anymore

She and my FIL both have passed away. She would have despised me though. She did most of the time. It was only a year or two before her death that we made amends.

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NMDemDist2

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Wed Mar-21-07 01:07 PM
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29. I dumped my husband and ended up with the BIL for several years

he died last spring (we had stayed friends after the break up) and I miss him still

sounds like a weird call to me though under the circumstances

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 02:57 PM
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31. I would never be with this BIL though a friendship would be a

refreshing change from the indifference of the past many years.

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NMDemDist2

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Wed Mar-21-07 03:01 PM
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33. just to clarify, I didn't dump the husband FOR the BIL

there was a several year gap in there

it's actually one of the only things i'm grateful to the ex for, and that was introducing me to his brother

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 03:55 PM
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36. Oh, I didn't assume you'd done that.

In my situation, separation from ALL my in-laws is one of the few good things I am looking forward to.

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JustABozoOnThisBus

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Wed Mar-21-07 03:05 PM
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34. You put on a sweater

that people want to get their hands under.

Then your BIL calls.

Coincidence?

:rofl:

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crim son

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Wed Mar-21-07 03:57 PM
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37. Again,

the desire to get under my sweater isn't universal! Quite the opposite, which is why I remember it being said :rofl:

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