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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:24 PM
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A sincere and open apology for my use of the word "girl"
After a conversation with a person who i highly respect I have come to realize that even though i mean "Girl"
in an endearing way when i use it that it doesn't negate the fact that it is a belittlement when referring to a grown woman.
I actually was caught using it twice in a conversation.
And was called on it.
And I needed to be.
It is a bad habit and I am doing my best to stop it.
My Sincere apologies to anyone i may have offended.
You were right and i was wrong.
I am an old dog..And I am going to try my best to learn a new trick.

Thats all carry on
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RandomKoolzip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:26 PM
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1. Uh....
:o

Ah.....what the hell: :applause:
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:33 PM
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8. gracias
:7
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:28 PM
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2. Ah, dude -- you haven't done anything wrong
I KNOW you're respectful of us, okay?

You ARE a good guy.
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:32 PM
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4. I know i am a good guy and i am ok
I just realized with a little help.
That I need to adapt a little.
Thank you for your kind words.
You rock!
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:33 PM
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5. Even if your butt is scary
:scared:

:pals:
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:34 PM
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9. I only had one complaint so far
And it was on the types of draws I was wearing. :hide:
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:49 PM
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14. Uh oh
I bet it was Midlo, right?
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:06 PM
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19. it Miss_ Strawberry actually
:hide:
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wildhorses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:28 PM
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3. its alright dude
;)
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:33 PM
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6. Thank you wyldhorseys
I have been pondering this for the last few days.
and i just wanted to put it out there :)
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:33 PM
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7. You *are* a good guy
:hug:
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:35 PM
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10. Thank you Lizziegrace
And you are one hell of a good Lady :hug:
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:39 PM
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13. Thank you
:hug:
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sammythecat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:36 PM
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11. I think in many instances
"girl" or "boy" is perfectly fine. In general, I think it's friendlier than the sometimes impersonal sounding "man" or "woman".

If I'm dealing with strangers and want to be real careful, I'll use the latter terms.
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:50 PM
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15. Exactly -- it's your audience and their knowing your intent, etc.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:38 PM
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12. Yeah boy...
as long as you use girl and boy and not girl and man, are consistent, then you are at least being intellectually honest in your verbage.

However, having been to school with feminists who would scoff and get mad if I were to hold a door for them, I can tell you that you are better off changing your ways old dog. :P

Women and men= adults
boys and girls= children

at what age? age of majority is the rule of thumb i try to follow, a boy is a boy until he's 18 and then he's a man. a girl is a girl until she is 18 and a woman.

:shrug:
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:51 PM
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16. Oh hell, I use it all the time.
To Miz t.
It's somebody's birthday and they're taking her out to lunch.
"So...where are the girls going for lunch?"

And she'll say to me "You boys going fishing Friday?"

I think we get to 'tetchy' sometimes.
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taterguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 05:52 PM
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17. Big Star made you do it right?
Those songs I'm in Love With A Girl and September Girls

Or are you just a big fan of the Indigo Girls, oops, I mean Indigo Women
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LSK Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:04 PM
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18. I got roasted for doing that in GD once
I wonder if Seattlegirl or NYCGirl gets flamed everytime they make a post?
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Scarlett17 Donating Member (754 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:09 PM
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20. The older I get,
the more I enjoy being referred to as a girl. Doesn't bother me one bit.

;)
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:11 PM
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21. LOL, I am right there with you.
It doesn't bother me either. ;)

A belated welcome to DU :hi:
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Scarlett17 Donating Member (754 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:13 PM
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22. Thank you!
:hi:
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JitterbugPerfume Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:17 PM
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23. "girl" can be a very endearing sentiment from a friend
It is one of those words that requires context.


You are one of the good guys from what I see here at DU
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:19 PM
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24. My dear GoPsUx!
Well, sweetie.......this girl doesn't mind being called girl....

No sir, not one little bit!

I don't see it as disrespectful at all......

But that's just me!

I know you respect me....as I do you. :hug:

Major props to you for making amends to those who were offended!

:yourock:
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:26 PM
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25. I call women "girls" and if I'm called a girl I don't consider it
disrespectful or belittling.

It's going to become more and more difficult accommodating everybody's individually perceived insults. *sigh*
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Serendipitous Donating Member (216 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:39 PM
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26. It's good to take notice and try to change it around women you don't know.
If someone I didn't know at all or only knew casually, referred to me as a "girl", I'd be offended. If it's a close friend, totally a different story.

Unless it's like "You go, girl!!"
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texas1928 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:40 PM
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27. Yeah but if you call a guy a "BIG GIRL" they get mad...
:shrug:
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Shine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 06:45 PM
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28. Well, that was nice of you but, in my mind at least, not really necessary
I'm not really offended when people call me girl, but I suppose it's all about the context and the familiarity in which it is used. For example, I call my girlfriends "girl" all the time....as in, "Girl, long time no see!"


I see it as endearing term, like you said.

However, I can understand how some might be offended by it. That's just not my reality.

:hug: Good on ya, though, for trying to be more sensitive. :hi:
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HEyHEY Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-28-07 11:19 PM
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29. So what
Edited on Wed Mar-28-07 11:21 PM by HEyHEY
You used "girl" tell whoever got mad to fuck off.
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buddhamama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-29-07 05:31 AM
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30. Locking...
Per the request of the author.


Sincerely,
buddhamama-DU Mod
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