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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 08:12 AM Original message |
Would you call this sexual harassment? |
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Lyric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 08:14 AM Response to Original message |
1. People are notorious for portraying their "side" |
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Bassic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 08:21 AM Response to Reply #1 |
2. Agreed |
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blondeatlast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 08:54 AM Response to Reply #1 |
7. Yep--especially if he never brought coffee and bagels in before, you can bet there's lots |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:27 AM Response to Reply #7 |
14. Yup, what I said below |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 08:21 AM Response to Original message |
3. not enough information, i agree. |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 08:47 AM Response to Reply #3 |
4. As you and another poster said, we've only heard one side. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:08 AM Response to Reply #4 |
8. this is weird for me |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 08:52 AM Response to Original message |
5. I would say yes |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:14 AM Response to Reply #5 |
11. he pestered her? |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:30 AM Response to Reply #11 |
15. I've taught courses on this, and the answer would probably be "yes" |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:33 AM Response to Reply #15 |
19. well, then the warning serves as the notice that the behavior is unwanted |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:35 AM Response to Reply #19 |
22. It wouldn't have to go to court |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:37 AM Response to Reply #22 |
23. that's fair (n/t) |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:45 AM Response to Reply #15 |
29. I agree with you, Lost. I wish I knew more of the details. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:46 AM Response to Reply #29 |
31. The "trying to be NICE" is a bit of a giveaway, eh? |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:33 AM Response to Reply #11 |
17. He brought in bagels for just her and two other Admin. Assts. nt |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:34 AM Response to Reply #17 |
20. Right |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:34 AM Response to Reply #17 |
21. Do we know that these 3 women were not the only ones in that physical office? |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:11 AM Response to Reply #11 |
44. He knows that the behavior is unwanted now. |
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Zuiderelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:51 AM Response to Reply #5 |
32. I agree. The presenting of the bagels occurring directly after being turned down |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:10 AM Response to Reply #5 |
43. for once i agree with you |
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some guy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 01:15 PM Response to Reply #5 |
78. thanks |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 08:52 AM Response to Original message |
6. IF that's the whole story.... |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:11 AM Response to Original message |
9. How did he serve the doughnuts? |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:31 AM Response to Reply #9 |
16. Ring-toss style over his.... Hey-Hey kids! |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:38 AM Response to Reply #9 |
53. ever pLay ring toss as a kid? |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:02 PM Response to Reply #53 |
66. ... |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:11 AM Response to Original message |
10. If things actually happened they way he said then no |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:38 AM Response to Reply #10 |
25. I read the links |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 11:18 AM Response to Reply #25 |
57. Forgive me, but... |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 11:41 AM Response to Reply #57 |
59. She was asked on a date, she said no, he continued advances |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 11:46 AM Response to Reply #59 |
63. Ah--I see |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:59 PM Response to Reply #63 |
75. See, I see it as more of a second offense |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 01:32 PM Response to Reply #75 |
79. Two weeks?!? Yikes! I missed that part. Doh! |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:14 AM Response to Original message |
12. What flavor bagels were they? |
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realisticphish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:21 AM Response to Original message |
13. depends on whether |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:33 AM Response to Reply #13 |
18. Not true -- the one woman had already told him no |
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realisticphish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:06 AM Response to Reply #18 |
40. granted |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:17 AM Response to Reply #40 |
47. Friends? Yeah, right. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:20 AM Response to Reply #47 |
49. I really am glad to see a guy "get it" |
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realisticphish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:20 AM Response to Reply #47 |
50. um, ok |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:19 AM Response to Reply #40 |
48. No, not at work |
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realisticphish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:24 AM Response to Reply #48 |
51. oh, sure, no worries |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:30 AM Response to Reply #51 |
52. Friends are totally not the same as a business environment |
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Dora (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:37 AM Response to Original message |
24. It's not sexual harassment. But the guy is an asshole. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:39 AM Response to Reply #24 |
27. I think asshole is a bit off the mark, he sounds like a tool |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:40 AM Response to Reply #27 |
28. To me, it sounds like he did get revenge |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:46 AM Response to Reply #28 |
30. How? It seems like he got rebuffed and thought he could butter her up... |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:51 AM Response to Reply #30 |
33. Exactly -- she told him NO, I'M NOT INTERESTED! So, he started "buttering her up." |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:56 AM Response to Reply #33 |
34. I know it's unwanted attention. Assholes are not traditionally passive agressive, tools are. |
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Dora (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:59 AM Response to Reply #27 |
35. Okay, |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:00 AM Response to Reply #35 |
37. oh yeah, definitely. nip it in the bud. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 11:42 AM Response to Reply #35 |
61. I totally agree with that |
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Dora (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 01:38 PM Response to Reply #61 |
81. Social manipulation and subtle peer pressure. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 03:52 PM Response to Reply #81 |
84. Your first paragraph is what I was thinking, too |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 09:39 AM Response to Original message |
26. no, but thats only one side of the story. |
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Gen. Jack D. Ripper (547 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:00 AM Response to Original message |
36. There very well may be more to it |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:07 AM Response to Reply #36 |
41. No, I'm not being too sensitive -- this si a real problem in the workplace |
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Gen. Jack D. Ripper (547 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:16 AM Response to Reply #41 |
46. I never said YOU were being too sensitive, nor did I say this wasn't a serious problem |
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Little Wing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:01 AM Response to Original message |
38. Depends how he was *ahem* carrying the bagels |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:02 AM Response to Reply #38 |
39. See #16 |
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Chan790 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:08 AM Response to Original message |
42. It's creepy. |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:14 AM Response to Original message |
45. yes, definitely. entirely actionable. |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:44 AM Response to Original message |
54. I don't see it as sexual harassment, just harassment. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:48 AM Response to Reply #54 |
55. She did ask him to stop -- it was implied |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 11:34 AM Response to Reply #55 |
58. It's all about control, isn't it? He was turned down, now he's going to MAKE |
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Zuiderelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 11:42 AM Response to Reply #58 |
60. Yes, exactly. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 11:45 AM Response to Reply #58 |
62. That's how I see it too, Bunny |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 10:54 AM Response to Reply #54 |
56. the romantic/sexual intent is sufficient |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:35 PM Response to Reply #56 |
67. is this how the law reads? |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:37 PM Response to Reply #67 |
68. i suppose it would depend on the jurisdiction |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:45 PM Response to Reply #68 |
69. sorry, I'm confused ... |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:49 PM Response to Reply #69 |
70. asking her on a date |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 01:52 PM Response to Reply #70 |
82. so, how can people in the workplace become romantically involved |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 02:44 PM Response to Reply #82 |
83. that's just it |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:55 PM Response to Reply #69 |
73. Asking her on a date Can definitely be harassment |
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alarimer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 11:59 AM Response to Original message |
64. Never ask out anyone in the workplace |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:54 PM Response to Reply #64 |
72. i think you have said the smartest thing in this thread --- |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 01:05 PM Response to Reply #72 |
76. excessive displays of personality that aren't employment-related |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 01:11 PM Response to Reply #76 |
77. i swear i like you -- |
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petronius (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 06:29 PM Response to Reply #76 |
86. Geez - I can see how the camera joke crossed the line |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Apr-26-07 06:05 AM Response to Reply #86 |
87. yeah i know, |
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cwydro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 01:35 PM Response to Reply #72 |
80. Yeah... |
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marzipanni (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:02 PM Response to Original message |
65. He could buy acceptance with gifts of bagels anf coffee!...NOT |
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BluePatriot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:50 PM Response to Original message |
71. Hm. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 12:57 PM Response to Reply #71 |
74. delete |
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Lil Missy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-25-07 04:36 PM Response to Original message |
85. Not enough information, but it certainly sounds annoying. |
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