16 yrs ago I was flying home to watch my mother die.

uppityperson

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Tue May-08-07 06:47 PM
Original message

16 yrs ago I was flying home to watch my mother die.

The call came the night before, sibling called "don't think she'll make it through the night." I asked for phone to held to her ear since she was on heavy pain meds (cancer in pleural cavity) and told her I was coming as fast as I could, would be there the next evening and if something happened in the meantime, that I loved her. She muttered "thanks" to the astonishment of sibling who said she was basically unconscious from meds. She waited for the whole family to arrive, went into coma about an hour later, died tomorrow morning. 16 yrs ago.

RIP Mom, I miss you very much.

To mothers everywhere, thank you. With love, UP

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

MichiganVote

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Tue May-08-07 06:56 PM
Response to Original message

1. She must have raised a very loving son....

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

uppityperson

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Tue May-08-07 06:58 PM
Response to Reply #1

2. Thank you...

Thank you. She got only daughters, but there are a bunch of us and my sibs are my best friends.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

uppityperson

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Wed May-09-07 10:42 PM
Response to Original message

3. And this morning, 16 yrs ago, she died.

It gets easier, but it doesn't go away. I cannot imagine feeling this way about my child.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

AlCzervik

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Wed May-09-07 10:45 PM
Response to Original message

4. April 29th was the 22 anniversary of my mon's death.

she dies at home and thank god for in home hospice care, they made her last 2 months bearable for and quite frankly for me. I still remember everything about that morning including how the room smelled, weird all these years later and it's the smell that stays with me.

Love ya UP

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

uppityperson

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Wed May-09-07 10:49 PM
Response to Reply #4

5. I hate the night of May8, know I will do the death scene and not be able to sleep

It is something I never wanted to do, but am very glad I did not miss. Smell memory is stored in our reptilian brain bit, most basic brain bit, many yrs later a smell can evoke memories, emotions. It is odd. Hugs to you too.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

u4ic

(1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore

Wed May-09-07 11:04 PM
Response to Original message

6. It'll be 10 years on July 10 that my mom died

In one sense, I can't believe it's been that long; in another, it feels so very long ago, like 20 or 30 years.

It was in the summer, in between semesters, and I looked after her for the 3.5 months until her death from pancreatic cancer. It was fairly quick, but she suffered tremendously.

Many :hug: to you, uppityperson.

Printer Friendly | Permalink | | Top

DU AdBot (1000+ posts)

Sun May 05th 2024, 12:20 AM
Response to Original message

Advertisements [?]

Top

Powered by DCForum+ Version 1.1 Copyright 1997-2002 DCScripts.com
Software has been extensively modified by the DU administrators

Important Notices: By participating on this discussion board, visitors agree to abide by the rules outlined on our Rules page. Messages posted on the Democratic Underground Discussion Forums are the opinions of the individuals who post them, and do not necessarily represent the opinions of Democratic Underground, LLC.