Yeah. I am really unhappy being home.

I was so looking forward to being off school for the summer; now, three weeks in, I think I am going to lose it.

I am cooped up in the house constantly (except when the weather cooperates enough to allow me to take the kids outside,) JackMN is being inexorably hideous, and my husband is having (I can only assume) stroke-related personality/temperament issues that I'm having a really hard time with.

I thought I would feel so much better once I was on break and could relax; instead, nothing makes any sense, and I feel worse than I can remember, in years.

Ugh.

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It's not much, but it is the best I can offer. Try some fun projects around the house that Jack can help with on a smaller scale....gardening, etc.

I hope you feel better soon...

I peeled it loose and then let him rip it off. Then he tried to stick it back up. It was amusing.

Thanks, hon'.

It's REALLY hard. My son had Asperger's with a serious ADHD component. He wore me out.

And my husband was not very supportive. It's tough to do that 24/7 without any recognition/support/diversion.

I love my kids, but some days it was all I could do to not slit my wrists. Other days were sublime. :shrug:

Hang in there. :hug:

I know it's important, and I like being with them, it's just monotonous and taxing and I need adult diversion. I'm sure you can relate.

he still has AS, but the ADHD component is not as pronounced and he doesn't live at home full-time anymore.
He is in college most of the year and working during the summer.

Back in the day, he was a wildchild, and he was home with me all of the time. :)

BTW, he's the greatest! :loveya:

An Aspie with an ADHD problem myself, if your child has made it to a semblance of a functional adult, you did a damn good job. :thumbsup: :yourock:

My parents keep telling me I was a good kid. Unfortunately, I have a gift for memory recall and I'll tell you that's one of the few lies they'd ever told. I remember lots of things and I too have contemplated the wrist slitting deal. Even made a joke about it once by photoshopping my wrist (which had a genuine scar on it) by adding a realistic zipper. I think mum understood but does not wish to ask anything of it. A logical assessment...

AS isn't curable. Well, what can't be cured must be endured... until we get put six feet under. Then it's cured. At least he's got a functional intellect, regardless of personality deficiencies (for lack of better adjective). While our society prefers people with the ability to manipulate social cues over having actual intelligence, he may find a niche in which to survive. Assuming the rest of the world does too.

and behaving "normally" isn't necessarily one of them...at least, IMO.

My son was a good kid, smart, kind and sweet....he was just hard to keep up with as a little one. ;-)

He has found people who accept him the way he is. Just as we love you, HT! :hug:

sounds like some major stress

hubby taking anything for the stroke related temperament issues? might need some mood stabilizer?

:hug: hope it gets better.

send JackMN to some kind of day program once in a while to give yourself a break.

:hi:

He's getting mad at me about things he shouldn't and I'm used to him being the level one. I can't do the balancing act for both of us. I just can't do it.

this summer to 'help' out and play with Jack while you are home, but doing a project? I am sorry you are going through this. Will Mr.MN seek couseling? What if you both went as in Marriage counseling?? All I can offer is :hug:'s!

about people with traumatic brain injuries and how temperment issues can crop up after that, the impulse control is sometimes compromised. It makes it doubly hard if he doesn't recognize that there is a difference. :hug: :hug: :hug:

Someone else sometimes can give that kind of info to a person and it takes it out of the dyadic relationship :shrug:

stroke related personality changes are common, so even if they are subtle, talking to his doctor about it might not be out of the question either, especially if he's signed a release of information so the doctor can speak with you.

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hang in there Lara!

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We should talk soon, on da phone...Although my situation is different, I am also in post-semester fallout mode... x(

You're gonna be ok...One day, one hour, at a time, whatever it takes. And my man Jack loves you so. And we do too. :loveya:

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:hug: I'm so sorry it's not working out. :pals: It's gotta be really stressful. :(

or a hike a possibility? If available (I don't really know your circumstances but sounds like plenty-going-on,) anything like that might provide an outing for you, some motion, and some freedom and quiet. ??

In any case, I really hope that some relief comes, from any direction...hang in there :hug:

- D

But, having you home probably helps remove the suckiness (is that a word?) that everyone else is experiencing in your household.. I'm sure things will work out fine.

Check this... I just told my mom I was moving and getting my own apartment downtown (I don't currently live with her). She told me we should get a place close to Safeway. WTF, I'm 29 years old. Why does she assume she gets to move into my new place. And now I have to tell her it is MY apartment. She is fucking insane.

See Lara, it can always be worse. You could be living my life.