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Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 05:15 AM
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Are you a smoker?
Do you smoke cigs in bed? I'm a big baby with lots of weird phobias (bicycles, clowns, storm drains, dying in a mattress fire) -- new BF smokes in bed and I'm wondering if this is common amongst smokers? He'll go outside to smoke if I ask but I feel it's sort of snotty to tell someone how they can smoke in their own home.
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MonkeyFunk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 05:16 AM
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1. I smoke
and I have never smoked in bed. Way too dangerous.
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fizzgig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 05:19 AM
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2. i very rarely smoke in bed
it's usually when i'm having a private conversation right before i lay down or if i can't sleep and am reading. i never, ever light up as i'm about to go to sleep
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taterguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 05:32 AM
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3. I smoked in bed when I was single
I didn't have any problem giving up that habit when I met my wife. It's just not very polite. OTOH, if my wife asked me to give up my bicycle I'm not sure how long we would have stayed together :)
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 05:49 AM
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4. We don't even smoke in the _house_.
I would never tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do in their own home, but we decided several years ago (for a variety of reasons, including the health of The Wiley and Excellent Boy Cat Named Ginger, who is not a smoker) not to smoke in our home at all. When we smoke, we go to the patio. :hi:
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Maine-ah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 05:54 AM
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5. former smoker.
I used to smoke in bed (both of us actually) after sex. Now hubbie has to go outside or to his cave in the basement since I don't smoke anymore.

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NMDemDist2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 05:54 AM
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6. we don't smoke in the bedroom at all. it's a habit we picked up when
we never closed the closet doors in the old house and didn't want our clean clothes to reek before we could wear them.

it's a habit now...
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Rhythm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 06:55 AM
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7. I don't smoke, but my beloved does...
She does smoke 'in bed', never when i'm there with her. She almost only does so when she's in the midst of a good book, or occasionally playing with the GameBoy. Never when sleepy.
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bluecrush Donating Member (212 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:25 AM
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8. Not in bed.
Now, maybe if you moved my bed out to the balcony...
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:27 AM
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9. Ex smoker but NEVER smoked in bed.
A friend of mine lost the love of his life to smoking in her bed. She was in an ICU and on life support for 3 months before her parents allowed her to die gracefully. Please don't let him smoke in bed...PLEASE.
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Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:22 AM
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23. This is my inclination
I don't smoke and I don't want to be a smoke nazi. I also don't believe in going into a relationship with the expectation that the other person is going to change so I'm loathe to start asking him to change, you know? He's already said that if I ask he'll leave the room or even go outside. Maybe this one aspect, because of the safety aspects, I will ask him to not smoke in the bedroom at all.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:45 AM
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35. That is what I would do.
My husband still smokes, but he does not smoke in the house at all.
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:34 AM
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10. Ex-smoker
Yes, I smoked in bed all the time. It was where I watched TV from during the day. My cave has most of my amenities.

:hi:

BTW:
Time Smoke-Free: 15 days, 8 hours, 33 minutes and 23 seconds
Cigarettes NOT smoked: 614
Lifetime Saved: 4 days, 16 hours
Money Saved: $90.00

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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:41 AM
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11. woo hoo inchworm - way to go on the not smoking....
:woohoo: :applause: :woohoo:
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:45 AM
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14. Thanks!


:hi:
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:44 AM
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34. That quitnet calculator helps put things in perspective too...
Here is mine:
Time Smoke-Free: 140 days, 13 hours, 43 minutes and 42 seconds

Cigarettes NOT smoked: 703

Lifetime Saved: 5 days, 8 hours

Money Saved: $282.00

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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 09:05 AM
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37. Congrats yourself!
I hope I never catch up with you!

hehe

:yourock:
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slj0101 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:42 AM
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13. Nice work!
I hit the one year mark about four weeks ago. You can do it!
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:47 AM
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15. Thank you!
woohoo! A year.. I cant wait!



:hi:
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Bassic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:14 AM
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18. How did you calculate all that?
It is interesting information.
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:18 AM
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19. quitnet.com does it
I have no idea how they figure "Lifetime Saved" but the other is based on how many cigarettes you smoke a day. Its constantly updated.

Time Smoke-Free: 15 days, 9 hours, 16 minutes and 21 seconds
Cigarettes NOT smoked: 615
Lifetime Saved: 4 days, 16 hours
Money Saved: $90.00

:hi:
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Bassic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:22 AM
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22. Thanks,
I'll give it a try!
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:26 AM
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26. Yeah Inchworm
getting easier right???


Congrats



:bounce:


lost
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:34 AM
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31. It sure is getting easier
Im even cutting down on the gum accidently. I am trying to go "by the book. as told by doc, but hec.. if I dont want gum I don't want gum :)

Thanks!

:hi:
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BarenakedLady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:32 AM
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28. Awesome!
:bounce: :bounce:

:yourock:

:woohoo:

:hug:

:loveya:
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:37 AM
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32. Thank you sweety!


:loveya:
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zanne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:34 AM
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30. Congratulations!
I am also an ex-smoker and I also have a cave. It's the only room in the house with air conditioning and it also has a television. Every once in a while, I have to crawl out of it to see what the world is like!
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:39 AM
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33. hehe
I have been doing the same lately. Crawling ever so gently out of the cave to check out what's changed out there. Latest gig is volunteer work. So far so good :)

:hi:
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zanne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 09:16 AM
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38. Separated at birth
Inchworm, I have also started volunteer work lately. Helps, doesn't it? (Are you by chance a French-Canadian woman with dark curly hair)?
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 09:20 AM
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39. Negative ma'am
My hair is more or less "freestyle" and brown, and I'm from a hill in NC. :D

Yes, volunteering does feel good. I had forgotten how much.

:hi:
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slj0101 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:41 AM
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12. When I used to smoke,
the bedroom was pretty much off limits.
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Corgigal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 07:53 AM
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16. I'm a smoker
I don't smoke in the bedroom, can you just ask him not to smoke there? Step out into the livingroom or something. I guess it's a basic fear of the whole smoke in bed then fall asleep thing.
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Bassic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:08 AM
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17. I used to be a big smoker
but I never did it in bed. Not because I was perticularly afraid, I just never nedded a smoke in bed.

(2 months off the cancer stick, and counting :D)
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:19 AM
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20. Congratulations on quitting!
I hope to get where you are soon :)

:yourock:
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Bassic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:21 AM
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21. Thanks!
Hang in there, it does get easier :D
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ChoralScholar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:23 AM
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24. after my mother died
the amount of cig burns on her side of the mattress, the end table and the carpet next to the bed, were unbelievable.

I remember looking thinking, each one of these is a potential time she could have burned down the house and everything/everyone in it.
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:24 AM
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25. when I smoked
and when I smoked in the house
I would smoke in bed, sitting up so I wasn't to comfortable...


lost
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Tikki Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:27 AM
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27. Former smoker....never smoked in bed.
Tikki
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 08:34 AM
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29. Snotty?
Blow your nose, then tell him not to smoke in bed. I think not burning to death in the middle of the night is a mite more important than being "snotty."
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Thirtieschild Donating Member (978 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 09:03 AM
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36. First cigarette 9/1954 (sophomore in college), last one 9:40 a.m. Aug. 3, 1982
Smoked in bed when I read before I went to sleep. Not smart.

Still love second-hand smoke.
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Omphaloskepsis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 09:23 AM
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40. I don't smoke inside the house.
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 10:22 AM
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41. I used to be.
I don't recall ever smoking in bed, but I won't say definitively that I never did. It's definitely dangerous. Remember Jack Cassidy?

I quit smoking July 1, 1998, and couldn't be happier about that.
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RebelOne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 11:24 AM
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42. I never smoke in my bedroom. n/t
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AngryOldDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 11:27 AM
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43. He's taking a hell of a chance....and so are you
No, you can't tell someone what to do in their own home, but jeeze, common sense applies. It's your well-being at stake here, too.
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Connonym Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 11:46 AM
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45. You're right
I just don't want to be THAT girlfriend. But I've decided that this is a big enough issue that I'm not being a bitch for being firm on it.
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LaraMN Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 11:30 AM
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44. When I smoked, I never did so in the house.
Of course, I had kids and wanted to keep them away from it, but I still wouldn't have smoked indoors if I didn't have them. Definitely not in bed.
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rucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 11:49 AM
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46. Smoker, but never inside the house. n/t
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EstimatedProphet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 11:50 AM
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47. I used to
In college, the first thing I would do in the morning is light a cigarrette. Sometimes I'd doze off with it going. Bad thing to do. Don't smoke in bed.
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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 11:50 AM
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48. I never smoke in bed. I hope to be quit tonight. ..... again.
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The Straight Story Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-23-07 11:50 AM
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49. My wife tells me I smoke in bed :)
:rofl:
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