All Male DUers check in ... I need your perspective.

If you really care about a girl and like her, would you give a damn about what your guys friends thought ?If they teased you about it all the time would you let it come between you and the girl that you care about? Especially when its obvious that you like her - and the only reason you get pissed when they tease you is because they are telling you the truth that you really like the girl,but you are being too much of a punk ass to be a man about it.

If you had a beautiful girl would you get mad that every guy looked at her no matter how much she shows you that she only has eyes and a heart for you?

If you call a girl everyday ... do you like her or are you just bored ?

Why are you guys so hard to figure out ?

I swear my life was a lot better before I got interested in boys (that was nearly 20 years ago now)

And any answers I gave wouldn't apply since I'm not the guy you're concerned about.

In all matters of the heart it pays to stay light on your toes. Lots of guys just don't know what they want. But if a guy won't stick up for a girl he likes, then that probably says something about his priorities. OTOH, if he's calling every day, then there's something going on in that brain of his.

I don't get jealous of other guys no matter who I'm with. But it took me to about the age of 30 to learn that. From what I've seen, most guys are pretty willing to be led around by the dog leash, just so long as he doesn't appear to be getting led around. When boys learn to accept this reality, they start to become men.

I am thinking of just dumping him and moving on. Its feeling like a waste of time.

If you really care about a girl and like her, would you give a damn about what your guys friends thought ?If they teased you about it all the time would you let it come between you and the girl that you care about? Especially when its obvious that you like her - and the only reason you get pissed when they tease you is because they are telling you the truth that you really like the girl,but you are being too much of a punk ass to be a man about it.

A mature man does not care what his friends think if he really cares for a woman.

If you had a beautiful girl would you get mad that every guy looked at her no matter how much she shows you that she only has eyes and a heart for you?

Again, and mature (and secure) man would not get mad about that.

If you call a girl everyday ... do you like her or are you just bored ?

In my experience as a man, men do not make phone calls when they are bored. Drunk, yes. God yes. When sober, men generally make personal calls because they want to.

Why are you guys so hard to figure out ?

Because we are humans. Most of us.

Thanks Richardo, I was going to type pretty much the same thing!

would you please stop getting bombed and calling me? :eyes:







:hi:

:beer:

It's all about maturity.

That makes grown women WEEP!

(For joy of course, assuming that they find one of this elusive breed.)

1. If any of this is going on past the age of 15 or so, something is seriously amiss. The last time I let my friends tease me about my girlfriend, I was 13.

2. Only bothers me when it bothers her (i.e., won't leave her alone, hit on her at a club, etc.)

3. You like her (at least in my case)

4. We're no more difficult or easy to figure than anyone else. Just talk to us (and guys, this just as applicable to the ladies - don't try to "figure them out," just talk to them).

mikey_the_rat, celebrating 17 years with Mrs. Rat this Saturday

and here's to the next 17 :toast:

highly unlikely, it would probably turn into 'what friends?'

nope, always got a kick out of it

you like her or you're in denial about it

pot, kettle, living in harmony ;-)

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and I am asking myself wtf just like you are. I want to smack him it pisses me off so much.

with time, I don't know anyone I knew when I was younger, where they are, what they're doing. It may be important now that peers make your decisions but, in a few years from now they'll be gone. Peer pressure is hard to fight, it gets easier after the pack has thinned out. Follow your heart, a little hurt now is better than a big one down the road.

If you really care about a girl and like her, would you give a damn about what your guys friends thought ?If they teased you about it all the time would you let it come between you and the girl that you care about? Especially when its obvious that you like her - and the only reason you get pissed when they tease you is because they are telling you the truth that you really like the girl,but you are being too much of a punk ass to be a man about it. - The type of people who are my friends might say something once, but after I told them "thanks, your opinion is duly noted" they'd shut the fuck up - and no, I wouldn't care what they thought.

If you had a beautiful girl would you get mad that every guy looked at her no matter how much she shows you that she only has eyes and a heart for you? - No, I'd love it.

If you call a girl everyday ... do you like her or are you just bored ? - Every day? Never happen. It'd be stupid to smother a girl like that. I've been going out whth the same girl since September of 2004 and I don't even call her every day.

Why are you guys so hard to figure out ? - Most of us aren't, but if you tell me what you're puzzled about I'll try to clear it up. As a general rule, we're not that deep.

I swear my life was a lot better before I got interested in boys (that was nearly 20 years ago now) - My life was easier before I becaome interested in girls, I'll say that. Better? Maybe not, but a lot easier.

-If you really care about a girl and like her, would you give a damn about what your guys friends thought?-

Yes, but not in the way you're talking about. I would value an outside opinion of her as a person, her actions, etc.

-If they teased you about it all the time would you let it come between you and the girl that you care about? Especially when its obvious that you like her - and the only reason you get pissed when they tease you is because they are telling you the truth that you really like the girl,but you are being too much of a punk ass to be a man about it.-

My friends teasing me for liking someone, and I'm letting it come between me and the girl I care about? Not going to happen. I also haven't had friends like that, that I could even picture doing that, since I was 20.

-If you had a beautiful girl would you get mad that every guy looked at her no matter how much she shows you that she only has eyes and a heart for you?-

Heh, heh. No. And I AM the jealous type.

-If you call a girl everyday ... do you like her or are you just bored?-

Me, personally, I must like her. I spend all day on the phone and like any excuse to NOT be on it.

-Why are you guys so hard to figure out?-

Ego and testosterone are a bad mix.

that the guy in question is really immature and probably quite insecure.

Better take a close look at the guy... From an objective point of view, does he seem well adjusted and mature for his age?

He is getting kicked to the curb today. If have been your girlfriend for 10 months ... act like it or leave me alone.

>If you really care about a girl and like her, would you give a damn about what your guys friends thought ?

If they're wrong, I'd tell them to stop and if they can't, tell them that -they- should get a girlfriend.

>If you had a beautiful girl would you get mad that every guy looked at her no matter how much she shows you that she only has eyes and a heart for you?

Sure. Men are men. If you were a man, you'd know our dirty secrets and would not even ask this question. It's not about the woman, it's about what men are, especially in America. Selfish, selfish, selfish.

>If you call a girl everyday ... do you like her or are you just bored ?

If you really liked her, wouldn't you just move in together?

>Why are you guys so hard to figure out ?

Sadly, we're not. It's only hard to -admit- the truth about men, and to adjust your style to it.

>I swear my life was a lot better before I got interested in boys (that was nearly 20 years ago now)

Ah, the eternal dance.

That I will sit out.

Good luck.

Edited for p'spelling.

If you really care about a girl and like her, would you give a damn about what your guys friends thought ?If they teased you about it all the time would you let it come between you and the girl that you care about? Especially when its obvious that you like her - and the only reason you get pissed when they tease you is because they are telling you the truth that you really like the girl,but you are being too much of a punk ass to be a man about it.

1 are they teasing or trying to break you up? Can you co-exist with his posse long term?
Is it going to be the girl or his friends? Peer presure is a bitch- do any of the other guys have relationships

If you had a beautiful girl would you get mad that every guy looked at her no matter how much she shows you that she only has eyes and a heart for you?

2.overly jealous type-warning flag for abusive relationship--be careful!!


If you call a girl everyday ... do you like her or are you just bored ?

3. lonely? romantic? just checking up on you--see number 2?
On the other side, maybe he just wants to hear your voice.

Why are you guys so hard to figure out ?

4. Because we (or me atleast) are so totally clueless.

yeah I can coexist with them and I can easily say now that since I have posted this that I am done with the guy. We were not on the same page. A stress has been lifted from my shoulder.

1. No. A man shouldn't give a damn what his buddies think of his girlfriend.
2. No. That should just remind him why he wanted her in the first place.
3. Calling every day is obsessive and bad.
4. They aren't really hard to figure out, men are only interested in their own immediate needs and not much else.

I have bookmarked this for future reference!

:-)

Partially out of jealousy for the girl, partially out of not wanting to share their friend.

Again, I think an Eagles lyric sums up us guys perfectly

Now it seems to me, some fine things
Have been laid upon your table
But you only want the ones that you cant get

OK...shoot me now. I've quoted the GODDAMN $%*#$@! Eagles.

I don't want to take him from his friends but his friends know that I don't want anything to do with them because I have told them in the past that they don't have a chance in hell. Its like I can't have it then you can't have it. I would rather leave now then to settle down with this guy and find him still acting the same way.

Any chance of getting good with them? You'd be surprised how quickly we men shift alliances.

I have no problem with them at all ... its just that my guy (ex or whatever) does'nt feel comfortable because he knows they are going to tease him about our every move. And that sucks because we really care for each other. And if I was so important he would'nt let them get in the way and act differently when I am around. So I let him have it and told him I need my peace. None of them have girlfriends so there you go. They want him to have a girl because they can't get a girl.

This may sound harsh, but...run. Run far and fast, change your locks and learn how to take out a restraining order. Even if this guy was 18, this kind of immaturity and jealousy rarely ends well. At 27, it's downright scary.