I did something stupid today...

...my son called yesterday, and after giving me the excellent news that my daughter-in-law is having a girl, he said 'I talk to dad. He wants you to call him, it's important.' So I called him during lunch today. His earth-shatteringly important reason? He has a paper he needs for me to sign. And he wanted to know how I'm doing, since 'you don't call me to let me know how you are doing...' :banghead: Why do I do this to myself? Now I'm all depressed again. :grr:

you aren't stupid

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that's pretty fucking stupid. At least I didn't give him my cell number. I *67'ed it first.

you did a stupid thing

but you aren't stupid

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lawyer and you should inform your ex (?) forthwith. Do not put yourself through it.

...we're doing a 'do it yourself' divorce.

Men are missing the Empathy gene. They got a double dose of Conceited instead. Keep your head up. :pals:

on edit: Even if this is a "no-fault" divorce, for reasons such as this example, I would consider hiring a lawyer, if you can afford one. Especially, since you left the state.

Please. Not all men...

:hi:

RL

I think some of you overslept that day ;)
m

:D

RL

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why couldn't the git mail the damn form with a note saying he needed you to sign it...

the git needed my address, which I refused to provide him up to this point.

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...Or he'd be wasting my minutes checking up on me. :eyes: I have no doubt that is EXACTLY what he wants to do.

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You do NOT need that!

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*67 first. It comes up private or unavailable.

That wasn't really right of him (your ex) to mess with your mind like that. :hug:

I'm still in a far better situation than I would have been. I could just do without the drama, you know?

Your ex is the stupid one. Wondering why you don't call him to let him know how you are doing? Gad. He's the jerk.

You had no idea why he needed to talk to you, and it could have been something important.

Quit beating yourself up, huh?

You need a hug. :hug:

...after 20+ years he knows exactly which buttons to push. :hug:

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you're not stupid

thanks, dear. :hug:

that way he doesn't have your address but can still get stuff to you

...this is the end of it. I signed the papers before I left Ohio, but this one got missed. I wouldn't put it past him to have left it out. :eyes:

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you showed a lot of smart in *67 and all that. It could have been something important, how were you to know. Might be a good idea to ask you son to not get in the middle though. :hug: exes SUCK

...It's the only way STBE could get a message to me. My son just passed it along.

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I did the same recently...but I was driven...you were not.
You just did what was asked of you by your son...
And congratulations! Is this your first grandchild?
I love being 'Mimi'....

You will be fine...I think you're a very strong woman...very.
I never could have done what you did...you're a free spirit..
Depression sucks....here's another

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peace~

(just reread scattered writing...will let it be)

...:hug: it's appreciated.

...yes that is my first grandchild. She's due in January, but I won't get to see her until she's a few month old though. :(

You'll be a grandmother! You'll be there in spirit...it's all good. Holding a grandchild for the first time ...well, there are no words.
Here's something I did...
Before my grandson was born...I started buying books for him, and dated them with a little love message...On his first birthday, he got a wonderful box filled with beautiful children's literature....
Books are so expensive these days, but the little board books for babies are great...and then when you have a little extra, you can get one of the classics...One can buy a lot of books in over a year and not even realize it!
I just remembered this out of the blue when you said she was due in January...
My grandson will be 10 in January....He's finally old enough to understand 'The Giving Tree'....one of my favorites...

Think happy thoughts...
Smile sweetie~

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peace~

and the insensitivities of others.

You're fine. Just don't allow yourself to get caught up in the emotions too much.

And as others have said, you're not stupid!

...I doubt I'll have much more contact with him. He doesn't know my phone number, he has my current address, but that's changing in January or early February. So it's all good.

He can temporarily shake me up, but there's no way in HELL he's derailing me, or my plans for the future.

manipulative POS. At least he's consistent.

As for you, you're not stupid at all.

...I shoulda known better...or had better shielding from his manipulation. :shrug:

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it was nice.