Quick question about dating....

OK, I met a guy yesterday. He was the manager at a store I went to. I hadn't thought anything at the time, but when I called back to tell him how the referral he made me worked out, he asked me out. I thought he seemed nice enough, so why not?

He called me this morning to confirm. We are supposed to meet somewhere for a drink tonight, after he finishes inventory at a store. Since inventory is something that can't quite be pinned down to a timeline, he was supposed to call me at some point today to let me know how it was going and estimate when he'd be done. It is 5:20 now, and he hasn't called back.

So, the question: I have his cell #. Do I call him, or not? He had kinda said I could call, but the bottom line was he was supposed to call about when he'd be done. So, now I am not sure! Help!

I hate dating.

EVER!

My old ways have gotten me to 35 and still looking, so I figure I should start taking advice! Thanks:-)

He should call you and give you a progress report..

If he calls past 7 pm, I would just ask for a rain check (shows you are not desperately sitting by the phone)and pin him down to a real time and date :)

Boy I don't miss that stuff :)

and track down their quarry. It's more interesting when the quarry isn't so easy to catch.

but then, maybe that's why I am single! But it is so hard for me to play games! It's not natural for me! If only I had mental telepathy, everything would be SO much easier!

You said you never played that game and you don't have to play games. But Rad is right, if you respect yourself then expecting this guy to call and update you is only expecting him to act decently. You do deserve to be treated decently don't you?

Men like to be chased too. It's hard work doing all the work and convincing. The ladies should try it for a while to see how they like it. Put that shoe on the other foot and try walking it.

lol..

in fact, I think aversion to dating was probably what kept us together!LOL

Hell he is working could have slipped his mind?

Dont call and kick yourself in the ass years down the road when he wins the lottery or is the next brad pitt?

I am just not sure if I should call, or let him figure it out and call. I have always been the type to just call if I wanted to, and not play games at all, but look how far THAT has gotten me?!NOT!! So, I thought maybe there is something to being less available... Thanks for the input.... maybe he'll call before I finish getting feedback here.

"I forgot to ask earlier, where did you have in mind for a drink? Im asking because I would like to know whether to dress up or casual?"

we're both going straight from work, so casual it is.

"Should I bring condoms or have you got it covered"?

If he was having second thoughts, that line will seal a sure "show up" :P

Im kidding ;) But what an ice breaker :P

I think I'll just keep busy and "lose track of time."

mind???? He should be OBSESSED with calling you on the dot, at the PRECISE moment he said he would.

If he can't see how amazing you are, and then disrespects you by NOT calling when he said he would, he is NOT worth your time, in any way, shape or form.

If you don't respect yourself, no one else will either.

If you want to go out with him...call him. If not, don't. Don't get sucked into the stupid mind games of dating.

So, I thought maybe I should try being a little more difficult... *sigh* dating is complicated!

.. he lost track of time.

If he acts like an idiot or bails, then you'll know for sure - then you shouldn't call again.

good luck

so he has it in his cell phone. I know nothing about the guy, or it would be an easier decision to make.

if he honestly lost track of time he can make it up later.

Bummer.. if you knew someone that knew him to see what kind of guy he is that would help.

Time will tell...

in, anything you feel comfortable with and sounds plausible, because you are going to ask for a rain check with a firm date and time, but the same low-key, meet for a drink, or lunch, even better, in a public place.

That will put you back in control instead of waiting by the phone for him to act at some indefinite time, but by setting a date and time yourself, he will not feel rejected, in case he really did lose track of the time or something.

But the other part says, "Hey! this was supposed to be a FIRST DATE! Shouldn't he be on his BEST behavior? Is it all downhill from here?" LOL

When he eventually remembers you he'll have to bring flowers or something

is not a first date. drinks or coffee is for checking each other out to see if a date is worth while.

He simply could be late and this may ruin a very nice evening for two people :(

He said he would call and he is probably busy and anxious to get finished so he can see you. You made an agreement that he would call, stick to it.

You sound interested enough in him to come here and ask all us loonies.
Call him for that rain check.

There is way to much game playing in dating.

Better safe than... TERRORIZED!

Listen, in my teen dating years (don't know if you're a teen or not---sorry!), we didn't have cell phones. But if I was at work and needed to contact a girl I had set up a date with, who I KNEW was waiting to hear from me, I would have found any excuse to go out and fine a pay phone.

He asked YOU out. Good. But who knows what kind of jerk he is? Certainly, he should have called you by now.

but this thread is depressing.

A friend called, and she thinks I should call, but I think I am stuck on the "first impressions" factor, and that I don't know enough about him to really cut him slack and call. I don't think I will call. Maybe he'll call while I am on my way home from work.

Anyway, I am not obsessed over the guy or anything. My friends have usually told me I handle things wrong, so I figured why not take a survey! :-) Thanks for all the input. At last count, it was about 10 nos to 4 yesses, and one call later for a rain check.

If there is anything to update later, I'll be back!:-)

Ahh Im just a big romantic :P

He's starting out on the wrong foot. He is being inconsiderate.

Don't take shit from anybody!

:P

so many nice guys out there who WILL call, why waste time on those who don't?

I just checked the message. He said he'd had a bad day at work, and then wasn't feeliing well, and apologized. I'm still not inclined to return his call though. I guess if I was more interested, I'd accept that excuse, but I still think it would have only taken him a minute to call and reschedule, and he didn't bother.

Anyway, thanks for all the input! It's good to hear other POVs! :-)

If he can't even be bothered to make a 30 sec phone call, what does that say about his interest level? Or the kind of guy he is? If I was in his situation, I would've called when I said I would. I take that sort of thing seriously.

I take his lack of a phone call last night to mean that he really didn't care enough about you to make that call.

He did apologize and all..

But he better not screw up again

You are not high up on his priorities list. He'll see what he can get out of you.