How do you tell if a guy likes you?

Especially, how do you tell if he likes you as a friend or as something more?

Thanks.

We have a winner! :hi:

can you fog a mirror?

just hit him on the nose with a rolled up newspaper.

I think the better question is... how do you tell if he likes you as a friend that he'd have a cheap fling with, or does he like you as something more?

huh?

that's cheap.

:)

I'm sorry. :hug:

:spray: :thumbsup:

;)

...of course, I get most of my information from sources that are "somewhat less than informed."

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he looks when he thinks you aren't paying attention

For about 15 minutes (when he wasn't sitting right next to me) he sat across the room. I glanced over at him and caught him glancing over at me and we both looked away awkwardly. :o

But you're supposed to lick your lips or something.
:hi:

some 30 miles to the east.

...T-shirt.

and chalk them being pathetic up to me being pathetic? :shrug:

Don't go getting my hopes up.

he likes you.

If he can carry on a conversation with you without totally losing his composure, then he likes you as a friend.

are around.

:hug: :hi:

:pals:

do YOU like HIM?

These days, it helps to tell him so.

:P

you impress me as a no-bullshit kind of woman. You could do this. Really. Uh-huh.

Or have a friend ask him. Or just flirt with him a little and see what he does.

against the wall across the gym, horsing around with his buddies or staring at his shoes.

you forgot "he punches you in the arm in the hall between classes"

First, is he clumsy when he is around you? That's a BIG tell, guys lose all coordination when they are around someone they really like. Another clue would be if he finds any excuse to hang out with you, or to see you, I'm not talking about creepy stuff like stalking you at home, but like, if you work in a public access place, like a store, he ends up being there almost every day. Other clues include being incoherent around you and not complimenting you when you think he should. I know that last one is weird, but if the guy isn't sure you like him the same way, he will avoid, at all costs, complimenting you, even though he wants to.

OK, those are some of the clues, others have already been mentioned.

Good luck! And a bit of advise, life is too short to torture yourself in this manner, if you like him "that way" then go for it. Guys LIKE directness, 9 times out of 10, remember, we guys are dumb, and any subtle hints you are dropping will either go unnoticed or will only confuse him.

Yesterday he said when I walked in the room I looked like a deer caught in the headlights.

Later, he was sitting across the room and I was checking my email and had just noticed that half of my recent saved emails were from him when he suddenly sat down next to me. I closed the computer rather suddenly, and he said I looked guilty. :blush:

Like I said, guys are dumb, so yeah, those types of things are clues about how he really feels. Not outright insults, but from what you say, he's downplaying his own feelings for you, probably to prevent himself from getting hurt, if you don't reciprocate. I figure that he has some feelings for you, but doesn't know how to properly express them, a sign of immaturity, but guys don't mature until they are about 75 years old or so. Anyways, I would suggest that you find a way to "clear the air" with him. If you are feeling uncomfortable around him, or are having a crush on him, then I suggest you be direct, just don't over do it, you may scare him away. Did I mention guys are cowards as well?

One thing you could do is ask him out on a date, a real date, not a "friends hanging out" thing, and see what he says. That will, at the very least, clear the air with him.

If you hear from him a lot, more than you would expect from just a buddy, that is another.

Is it someone you like back?

until the next morning

:D

it's more of an intuitive, in-the-moment thing. If you really want to know, ask him out for lunch or coffee or something and see how the energy flows.

And hell, if you're really courageous, you could always be direct and ask him...or tell him what you feel.

Good luck! :hi: :hug:

Where do you see the guy? Surroundings matter.

You know, if you guys only see each other in church thats one thing, but if you meet at a club, school, etc, thats something different. You also have the whole "is the guy a little on the shy side" thing to deal with.

Best bet.. Bite lip then charge in and ask him. :)

:hi:

And if he doesn't ask you for a date, forget it and move on to someone who's not going to leave you guessing.

a) a complete commitment-ophobe who can't even get a relationship started, much less make one serious.

b) a total coward.

c) has enough self-esteem to consider himself marginally better than a sea slug.

d) not interested in you.

And in any of those cases, you probably shouldn't bother with the dude.

Already in a semi-committed relationship with a woman who has 10x his income

:)

;)

n/t

Not so much, imo. I am definitely in the school of they almost always want "something more" at some level. They may be mature enough to know how to control it because the friendship part is of value to them, but it is there. Always.

I've got female friends that I'm simply not attracted to, and I see them entirely as friends.

Would it ruin the friendship for you?

just curious :shrug:

Not sure it would "ruin" the friendship but it definitely would introduce a new dimension. Likewise if it were a woman friend.

the dude might just be a little too timid to make the first move. It's difficult for some guys since we don't want it to come across badly or ruin the friendship. It's best to just talk to him sometime when you're alone and feel comfortable. Don't wait too long for the "right moment" because it may never come.