Anyone else missing their passed away family?

Something hit me just right this morning, and I was crying at work....The people on the other side of my cube wall were talking about how they fight with their siblings over mundane stupid things, like claiming their parents (Calling on the phone and asking sister "Can I talk to MY Mom?"), and I started boo hooing. I really miss my sister this time of year. I know I'm such a dork, but I really miss my sister. I miss just joking with her. I miss BEING a sister...
Anyone else missing their family?
Duckie

My mother died in June, and I miss her a lot. I've been dreading the holidays because she loved to decorate for Thanksgiving and Christmas. I miss my other relatives, too. Please rest assured that there are plenty of other people feeling the same as you these days.

My grandpa died just a few weeks ago... it's going to be strange and sad spending a holiday season without him.

Hopefully you'll get to be with family during this time :hug:

But hanging out with my mom isn't really like hanging out with my sister or my dad.
My sister's been gone since 2000, and my dad since 1996, but it still feels like yesterday...
Duckie

goes by that I don't miss my mother-in-law. And now that it seems like I need her more than
ever. She was such a wise and awesome person. Can only hope someone will feel the same way about me, someday.

I'm sorry you are feeling down. Grab all the pictures you have of your sister and talk away...
you can still talk to her, you know, she just won't answer back.

Tikki

From where I'm sitting at my computer, I can see a corner of the big house that once belonged to my grandparents. Specifically, I can see the windows of the sitting porch and the dining room, where great holiday gatherings happened. A bevy of aunts in the kitchen with my grandmother, fussing over the New England baked beans that had cooked all night, and the fresh hot dinner rolls and the relish tray. Grandfather and great grandfather shuffling around, lighting the candles, getting the chairs to the tables. And in the sitting porch next to the dining room, eight cousins playing killer monopoly while the seven younger cousins entertained each other underfoot. Uncle Bob, the war hero, arriving with his cigar and only one leg. Much merriment and good will. As I look out my window right now at that house, I can only think of this:

"Backward, turn backward, Oh time in thy flight. Make me a child again, just for tonight!"

:hug:

This holiday season is going to be hard on my family. We lost my aunt this past March in a car accident and everyone's still kind of messed up over it. :(

She was the glue that held this big dysfunctional group together.

Now, we're just relatives. We used to be family.

I haven't talked to his sisters since my sister died, and they only came out of obligation. He was one of those people who people gravitated to. He was a character, never met a stranger, and he loved everyone who walked through his door.

Duckie

Don't they?

Peace to you, this holiday season.

but especially at the holidays. She's been gone 2 1/2 years, and I think of her every day. I'm still amazed at how often I think "I need to show this to Mom." Or I pick up the phone to call her about something that's happened to me.

Sorry you're feeling this way, Duckie. :hug:

He died last March from that leukemia that gets "older" people. He was only 65. He had other problems, but the leukemia killed him, about 6 months from diagnosis. He lived in Florida and us in Texas so when he got sick we got a new cell phone plan so the two of them could talk unlimited, averaged about 4 hours a day. I still think about him every time the phone rings.

Especially around holidays.

my parents are gone, all my grandparents and my aunts and uncles, and some cousins and my two best friends, too. I haven't seen what family's left since my mom's funeral in 1999. So I spend my holidays at home alone. It's much easier than trying to act like I'm enjoying myself at someone's else's holiday gathering.

I found myself teary-eyed at work today, too. For some reason I started wondering when I became such a hard-hearted bitch. I'm still not sure when that happened.

Happy Thanksgiving, Duckie--we love you . . . .

We love you too....Happy Thanksgiving....
Let's be thankful that we knew these wonderful people and that they touched our life so much that we miss them so terribly. :hug:
Duckie

I wouldn't be half of what I am today if I hadn't known those folks.

I lost my Mom in May and my sister in July. I miss them both every day.

and lots of days in between for that matter but she loved Thanksgiving and having her kids under the same roof.

You should miss your sister. I have several and I'd miss each of them in a different way if they were gone.

:hug:

remember lots and lots of thanksgiving dinners with her when i was younger

:hug: :hug:

I lost my dad this June and my mom eight years ago. I have one brother who isn't married. My husband's parents are both alive, but are distant and cold hearted. His sister, who has three children isn't interested in our family at all and as a result, my two kids really have no cousins at all. ( the kids like each other too, but my sister in law has to have Mommy and daddy's exclusive attention, so they never see each other)

If i wasn't already an orphan, my in-laws would make sure I know I am an orphan, No one invited us for Thanksgiving this year, so it will be just the four of us and my brother which will be sad.

So yes, I sympathize completely. I wish it would just roll right into January.

First Thanksgiving without my Dad.

:cry:


I just want to skip the whole thing, but apparently that's not allowed.

:(

I'm sorry.

:hug:

May god, or whatever is out there, grant you the power and the strength to get through the difficult months ahead.

strength this holiday season, Laura. :hug: to you and the boys.

This is our first Thanksgiving and Christmas without my Mom. I don't feel like doing the holiday things at all, but I have to still have the holidays for my kids. I just really miss her, even though I know she is finally at peace.

She died almost 8 years ago. She never met my little girl, her only granddaughter. I can only tell my little one stories about her grandmother. To this day I find myself thinking about calling her in the morning from the office. It hurts. I miss being a daughter and I miss having a mom to talk to about bringing up a kid.

:-(

:hug:

:cry: She died in 1991, but holidays are very hard without her. We were very close.

I know just how you feel. :hug:

:hug: Duckie

Grama,dad,then mom and just this year my sister-in-law. I miss them very much.

But yes holidays make it harder.

:grouphug: to all those who are missing their friends and family

He died in February and I think about him everyday.

He was my cousin, but more like a little brother. I'll never be the same :cry:

It's going to be strange not seeing him at the Thanksgiving table. My dad is still living, but he had a stroke, so I feel like I've lost part of him, as well.