What would you do?

OK...I am so steamed right now that I really have to count to 10 at least 20 times.
My daughter has been married for 6 months. HIS family is "cool" toward her or should I say disingenuous. Her husband is a hell of a nice guy but grew up by a domineering mom. He has 2 sisters (older with toddlers) and he is the only boy. They bought a house 4 months ago and they wanted to to host Thanksgiving at their new house.
Well, 2 1/2 weeks ago my daughter had to have surgery for a disc in her cervical spine which blew out and she had to have a plate put in place. Well, she is doing OK and they insisted to continue with this dinner. They set the time for everyone to come @1 pm, that way everyone would be out at an earlier time because her pain kicks in high gear by late afternoon - early evening (that's WITH pain meds). Well her husband said, "our family always ate at 3 pm". I know the 1 pm time upset the apple cart with his family but he is too intimidated to stand his ground and say anything. ( They know the circumstances from her recent surgery)
I was there all day yesterday cleaning and cooking for her and everything was all set to go...except the turkey of course.

Well, LAST evening at 7 pm his sister called (who lives an hour away) and said she will be late as her children (ages 3 and 4)wanted to watch the parade on TV and it doesn't end until 12. She couldn't be there till at least 1:30-2!!
I called my daughter this morning to see if she had a good night and she told me her husband put the turkey in at 8 am which means they won't be eating till 3- 3:30!! WTF!!!
She sounded so resigned this morning I felt bad...she is the type of person who wouldn't hurt a fly..very sweet disposition. FUCK...why are people such assholes??? I really like my son in law, yet this move today shows me he is either self absorbed or whipped by his mother ...a little bit of both. In short of bitch slapping all of them today for their inconsideration...I need to go for a walk and calm down is what I have to do. Thanks for listening :rant:

I dumped him because his mom domineered over every aspect of his life. After six months I got sick of it. Sorry your daughter has so much pain. Just go for a walk, okay? It really does help.

I wonder if your fiancee WAS my daughter's new husband. I hope you are happy now and I hope you have a wonderful day today.

When our children hurt, the pain is all ours. I hope your daughter gets through the day as best she can...she needs to be pampered, so I hope that he can at least come through with that...
It's difficult when things are out of our hands, and we are left with only 'feelings.'
Like you, I can't understand how people can be so selfish, unfeeling, and unthinking...

You are very wise, a walk is the best thing for you right now....:hug:


peace~

I think blending families is no easy task, especially at the Holidays,and you should all give each other a break and lighten up.

Your daughter sounds lovely and it's a shame she's not feeling well but it isn't just her Thanks Giving,it's everyones and everyone needs to make concessions,not just HIS family.