If you knew then, what you know now - Democratic Underground

lost-in-nj

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:12 PM
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If you knew then, what you know now

what ONE thing would you do differently???

me

I had my son with no support.. we did not take birthing classes then but we didn't know we had to......

I had toxemia with him...
almost died....
thats what i would do different......
have my husband there...

lost

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bicentennial_baby

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:14 PM
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1. Nothing that I know of, b/c

If I changed something from my past, I might not be where I am now, and I like it here. :)

But if I really had to choose....I would have never dated my psycho Ex. 7 years of hell spared, that would be. x(

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BarenakedLady

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:16 PM
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2. That is so hard to say

Because any changes that would lead me down a road of not having my kids...

BUT, if we pretend that isn't a factor:

#1 I would have stayed at Emerson College in Boston during the late 80's
#2 I wouldn't have gotten married.

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Cabcere

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:17 PM
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3. Wow...first of all, that's really scary, and I'm REALLY glad you're OK!

:hug: As for me, I don't know. I've made some bad decisions along the way that ended up hurting some of my friends...I think I would change those if I could, knowing now how much pain those decisions, words, etc. would cause. :(

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DarkTirade

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:20 PM
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4. Hmm... hard to choose.

Either I would have made a move on one girl that I didn't the first time around, or I would have chosen to avoid another that I made the mistake of getting together with more times than I should have... :P

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TrogL

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:23 PM
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5. There's no such thing as blood money

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lost-in-nj

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:26 PM
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6. I dont

understand what that means.....

:shrug: :shrug:
this question is hypothetical, like so many others.......

no harm-no foul

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Rabrrrrrr

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:27 PM
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7. Treated my horse better so that I could have had a second year of college.

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Shine

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:28 PM
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8. I try not to have any regrets. It doesn't always work, but I try.

I like to think that everything that happens in my life happens for a reason...even the "bad" things.

I trust and affirm that I am right where I need to be at all moments.

The choices we make move us forward in the direction we need to go, on some level or another.

Hopefully we can bring some level of awareness to the choices we make, but if not, the appropriate lessons we need to learn will unfold with time, too.

It's all good. :D

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skygazer

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:30 PM
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9. I think about things like that sometimes

Because my life has taken a lot of detours and some were pretty unpleasant. But good things come out of some of the worst things so I tend to overanalyze. :)

But if I could choose one thing, I would have put my horse in the barn on the last night of April, 1976. That was the night he got out of the pasture, wandered into the road and was hit by a car. :( Black horse on a black night. I'm still haunted by that.

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SPKrazy

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:31 PM
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10. I would have

tried to have kids sooner in life. We waited until we were well into our 30's. Discovered that we never had needed birth control. Started trying to have a kid. Spent a long time at that.

If we'd started sooner, who knows... :shrug:

I'd also have studied harder as an undergrad, but, I was also quite impaired and don't know if I could have studied harder without changing other things.

Ultimately, I wouldn't be me if I hadn't been through what I'd been through.

Your story sounds scary... :hug: :hug: :hug:

:hi:

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Wapsie B

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:34 PM
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11. Listen to my gut instincts more and trust them

rather than listening to others who may or may not have my best interests at heart. To just go for it and take a chance once in awhile. To find my happiness. Everything is just details.

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Parche

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Sat Dec-01-07 08:57 PM
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12. Hey Cheney

I would have been a better Dicktator........:rofl:

:hi:

found better

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laylah

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Sat Dec-01-07 09:00 PM
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13. I would not

have allowed myself the "Menopausal Moment" that made me leave Colorado after 29 years, and move back to Illionis! :cry:

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