Some marriages are so weird....

I'm sitting next to my "friend", a fellow Econ major. We've been good friends since last spring, but ever since his now wife, then fiancee, met me and got the delusion that he wanted to fuck me, he's not "allowed" to talk to me if she's in the vicinity. So she's here, and he hasn't even said hello...I'm glad I'm not in a marriage like that...how utterly lame. :eyes:

geez, some people.

If not trust, what?

I'm married too! :crazy:

may be a good idea to stay away from her.

And I would never touch another woman's man...unless they were both okay with that.

and I'll be sure to send him an email later informing him of that. I mean, grow up!

:hi:

She doesn't even let him watch sexy movies or shows because she gets jealous. Maxim magazine is also verboten. It's ridiculous.

I wonder how this bodes for my friend's marriage, they've only been married since June. And this started prior to the wedding. :crazy:

Good luck to them working things out.

I spent a few hours with her last spring...She's insufferably miserable to be around as well ....

:hi:

the folks than are terrified their spouse will cheat are guilty of cheating themselves

she's either doing it, or thinking about it I'll bet......

A friend of mine was engaged to a guy like that. He was ALWAYS calling to check up on her, checking her phone messages to see if any guys had called, etc.

One day he borrowed her truck and when she got it back it had some sexy women's underwear and a fake fingernail wedged under the seat. Now she would never in a million years were sparkly underwear or fake nails, so she finally figured out what was up.

My ex was like that too. Creep. x(

My marriage to my ex-wife was not a lot of fun - luckily, it was short-lived and we did not have any children.

However, after we started the divorce process, we started getting along okay again. We didn't speak a lot, but we were pleasant to each other and would chat a bit here & there.

And, after the divorce was official, we stayed acquiantance friendly at least - we'd exchange an occasional email or phone call.

But, about 9 months later, she suddenly called me and said I was not to contact her anymore because her new boyfriend didn't like that she had been married before and had forbidden her from contacting me, to the point where he even had all of her email passwords, etc.

This was a woman that was liberal, strong-willed and very outgoing & energetic personality-wise, and I just know if I had ever tried to "forbid" her from doing something, she likely would have ripped my head off and then immediately gone and done what I had forbidden her from doing, and then drop-kicked my head out the window. Heck, if I had even thought about forbidding her, she probably would have picked up on it and ripped my head off, etc, etc.

So, it was really stunning to hear her say that.

That was almost 7 years ago now when she last called - I have not spoken with her since. (for a few years afterwards, I would get calls from creditors trying to track her down, as she was terrible with money...)

an ex of mine was über-jealous of my female friends and convinced I was cheating on her. She called me at work (I managaed a bakery with two locations and was also at restaurants a lot trying to get new customers for wholesale accounts), and would not leave a message - just checking in on me. She never told me she called either, but I found out when I finally broke up with her because she accused me of not being at either place, so by her logic I was out screwing someone at lunch or something.

After we broke up, I found out she cheated on me.

Granted the "best friend", but she should also understand all guys have others like you in our life. Unfortunately, in the deepest most secret recesses of our mind, we always want to "fuck" our female friends. Certainly I never acted on it (some do), but apparently someone gave her the "man book". She just didn't read the fine print.. "It's ok to think about it but actions are prohibited". Some day your friends wife will finish reading the book. Sorry for you loss.

Peace,
MZr7

You are in a loving and trusting relationship with not only your husband, but also your best friend.

That couple will never know the joys that you and sniffa know and will never appreciate each other to the fullest.

When you have a good one, you thank your lucky stars everyday for them.

:hi::hug:

between myself and my parents and siblings. The way I saw it, eventually all communication would have had to gone through her to talk to my own parents.

I like being poly.

That's ridiculous behavior.

sounds like she has some trust issues.

:D

That would be hot :D

...I actually, consciously (though unwillingly and regretably) cut off contact with a female friend of 20 years because my fiancee (at the time) was so upset by my friend's "touchy-feely" affections for me at a party we attended. (My friend put her hand on my knee and rubbed it; that was her sin. She does it, fairly impulsively, to everyone she cares for.) My fiancee and I later married. My friend (the touchy-feely gal) was not invited. I can honestly say that in four years of marriage, my inabilty to confront my wife on this subject, and to resolve this issue with my friend (I still consider her a friend, despite my abandonning her) has led to many of the problems we are now experiencing in our marriage.

Jealousy is poison. Often it's the case that there is a legit reason for the jealous person to act as he/she does. Sometimes there isn't. There wasn't in my case.

jealousy is natural. How we deal with it is another thing altogether.

"John! I'm only dancing!"

maybe you're just that hot? :shrug:

Kidding aside, it does suck-- I've got a similar thing like that right now.