So Lounge, how do you deal with tremendous frustration

along with a fair helping of disappointment? It's been a shitty couple days and I can't seem to find a good way to deal with it.

Any suggestions?

-edited because typing is a pain one-handed

I would do that if I could

so what is wrong?

:hug:

got pulled over today, relationship stuff, etc. I don't really want to air all my dirty laundry in the lounge.

if you have multiple different thing goign on, its best to have a professional hear you out. a trained listener is always better than a friend imo.

I think it may be coming to that, I'm just really stubborn about doctors and such.

Also booze, but I suppose that's a drug. :silly:

maybe I'll get to have a drink later...

This has been a rough couple of weeks for me. So far I've attempted the following with little to no success:

1. clean while listening to my iPod (my attempt at distracting myself)
2. drink a few extra glasses of wine in the evening (my attempt at escapism but the hangover wasn't worth it)
3. getting overly involved in my friend's life (her dog just died so I'm planning a memorial service for her)
4. exercise (normally this works, but it hasn't this time)
5. go to the movies (escapism again, but only for a couple of hours)
6. unleash my internal drill sergeant and tell myself to "get the hell over it already" (just made me feel worse)
7. cognitive behavioral therapy. Doing CBT helped me realize that I'm just not ready to release the anger and frustration yet because my feelings have been genuinely hurt by people I love. Once I realized I wasn't ready to forgive yet, I understood why steps 1-6 haven't worked.

Sometimes the feelings just have to roll over you for a while before you can move on. PM me if you want to talk about it. :hug:

doing things one handed sucks :(

(check my journal for the back story if anyone curious of the hand injury)

I'm so sorry to hear that. I highly recommend cognitive behavioral therapy then because it can be self paced and it helps very quickly. If life feels too overwhelming though, talk to a professional.

A rough overview: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy

Book recommendation: Feeling Good by David Burns http://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Therapy-Revised-Updated/dp/0380810336/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1198866055&sr=1-1

Redstone

hard for me because it's my nature to try and 'fix' things

:hug: No advice, just a hug.

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thanks though

most of the last 10 years have been mostly disappointments.

I can give you a :hug: and demand a photo of you in that kilt...

;)


Hang in there.

I don't know either. No kilt yet, still waiting on my da to send me info on how to measure myself for it.

Zornhau needs to be measured for his kilt. Line up ladies!!! :evilgrin:

and herb(s). ;)

I'm sorry you're beseiged, Zornhau. Please, instead of ruminating, try to find a way to turn the circumstances to healing and moving on. :hug:

I'm trying...

Always puts a smile on my face :7

that's just futile ;)

Something action-packed, maybe, to distract you?

How about a book? A Clive Cussler book about Dirk Pitt kicking some evil corporate ass is good escapism. I would recommend "Shock Wave" to start with.

Stephen Kings "Dark Tower" heptalogy is also very engrossing.

How about a puzzle?

blowing lots of things up (virtually, agent mike)

I've got the second dark tower book to start too...

I've both read them and listened to them on audiobook a lot!

but then I have to work out, clean my house, and get back to life.

So, I guess in the end, it's remembering that the sun still rises and life goes on.

(and yeah, that can be part of the frustration too)

I'm trying to remember that

...turn the master volume up past halfway on my amplifier, and proceed to bother the neighbors.

and I don't play guitar. That does sound fun though.

Don't Back Down by Tom Petty, Badlands by Springsteen, Get Up Stand Up by Bob Marley, and more Clash songs than I can list here ...And I sing along , also LOUD. Also exercising helps. And this may sound corny to you and other DUers, but I say prayers of gratitude, even when I feel like I'm faking it. I've been having a pretty rough go of it myself lately, and I hope things start working out better for you soon.

Thanks for the kind thoughts

Yeah, that's when I back it back down to about 20% and engage the headphones.

Only thing is the crawl space is already full.

:P

I try to make a mental list of all the ways that my life is good beyond the current crap making it seem shitty. It doesn't always work, but it usually helps me get through the difficult spells.