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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:05 AM
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A parishioner gave me chocolate-covered pecans.
So, first I violated a boundary by accepting them. Then I violated my diet by NOT BEING ABLE TO STOP EATING THEM!! Chocolate-covered pecans are ambrosia!!

Discuss.
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:07 AM
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1. You can't accept gifts?
Chocolate covered pecans sound divine!
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:10 AM
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4. At a boundaries training Wednesday, we were warned about
the "mixed messages" we send when we accept gifts from parishioners. All of us oldsters met this advice with a :eyes:, while the newbies took copious notes and boasted about how many Christmas gifts they turned down. Because they had boundaries training last year in seminary. :eyes: We wondered how many parishioners' feelings they had hurt.

And yes, chocolate covered pecans ARE divine!!

Critters
longing for the day when all pastors married their organists
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:12 AM
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6. Turning down a car, a condo or a trip to Europe yeah.
A box of chocolate? Sheesh.
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:14 AM
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10. Cookies were on the list of no-nos.
Honestly. Did I mention...:eyes:
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Pacifist Patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:16 AM
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12. Actually, that might solve one of my problems.
One lady in our congregation fancies herself a baker....um, not so much.
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:20 AM
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16. In a church where I served years ago, we had a cat lady
Edited on Sat Jan-19-08 12:24 AM by mycritters2
I accepted her cookies, thanked her sincerely (it was nice of her, after all), and kindly passed them on to the garbage haulers. I guess I could've made her sit through a boundaries training dvd, so she'd understand why I couldn't accept.
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:17 AM
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13. That's downright unChristian!
Somebody bakes you cookies, you say yum, thanks! I think the boundary rules people have boundary issues in reverse.
And turning down someone's homemade baked goods would hurt feelings for sure!
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:22 AM
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18. I agree completely. nt
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some guy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:08 AM
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2. sounds like the start of a lovely weekend
:)

Never mind the boundary violations, they're not important.
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:13 AM
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8. And tomorrow, a parishioner's 80th birthday party.
I'm sure I'll be smashing several boundaries there!!
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Pacifist Patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:09 AM
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3. You can't accept gifts?
One of my parishioners gave me home made chex mix and a loaf of pumpkin bread a couple of weeks ago. Boundary schmoundry, they were good!
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:11 AM
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5. It's a slippery slope. Apparently.
There was a lot of this going on at the training Wednesday-> :eyes:
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Pacifist Patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:15 AM
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11. LOL! I just read your response to redwitch above.
I can so totally see the difference. Goodness, if someone can't tell the difference between a box of sweets and a diamond pendant they've got problems we can't solve. I'm going to side with the proposition that ethical clergy can pretty much tell when the slope begins to get slippery. Too funny!
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:17 AM
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14. Exactly. And unethical clergy are going on that trip to Tahiti
no matter how many trainings they've been through. I'm guessing.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:12 AM
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7. Next you'll be inviting them over
giving them the keys to the church

letting them run the church

and all because of chocolate covered pecans :rofl:
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:13 AM
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9. Ordinary people running the church.
O the humanity!!
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rug Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:20 AM
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15. First it's the pecans, then you'll be groping them in the cemetery after dark.
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:20 AM
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17. Precisely. Slippery slope. nt
Edited on Sat Jan-19-08 12:22 AM by mycritters2
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TK421 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:27 AM
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19. You are a sinner, and you make the baby Jesus cry.....REPENT NOW
or suffer the eternal damnation of hellfire upon ye.........................:evilgrin:
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RevCheesehead Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:37 AM
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20. Boundaries???
What about "breaking down the fucking walls that divide us"?? (RCSV - the RevCheese Standard Version)

Can you hear it now? Jesus says "This is my body, broken for you.... but I can't give it to you, because it would break a boundary." Hell, "I'd even die for you, but, of course, it would break the bounds between sin and death."


God save the church from ourselves. :banghead:
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elfrangel Donating Member (661 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 01:19 AM
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23. As usual, you cut right to the heart of the matter...
Edited on Sat Jan-19-08 01:20 AM by elfrangel
I do so LOVE your posts. :rofl:

BTW, how are you these days?? Haven't seen you around much, but then I haven't been around much either. Hope that all is well.

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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 01:10 PM
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24. They also warned us about appropriate language,
at which point someone behind me whispered, "Oh, fucking A. We're all adults."

And you're right. For people who are sure death itself has been overcome, we're surprisingly scared of mere lawsuits, istm.

Yes, Jesus had weak boundaries. Bad Jesus!! Bad, bad Jesus!! :eyes:
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 12:39 AM
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21. Maple pecans are yummy too...
:9
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Cabcere Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 01:00 AM
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22. Mmmmmmm.
:9 I'm probably violating one of the Ten Commandments right now, because I am definitely coveting some of those chocolate-covered pecans. :9 Lucky you! :hi:
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Tektonik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-19-08 01:12 PM
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25. Henry's sells cinnamon chocolate covered pecans, and they're only like $3 a lb
:9
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