Would any woman be interested in a man

who cannot perform sexually at all.

I had problems in that area to begin with , no doctor can tell me why , now the SSRI is making it worse, but I feel a huge amount to relief that I don't care right now.

I still crave human companionship with the softer sex , someone to care for and love , someone to hug at night , to kiss and fondle , to share my life with

But I think that it is selfish to demand someone to abstain from sex just to be your soul mate , thats a very big sacrifice that even if the other party is willing to make I don't think I can accept.

I will probably die alone .

At least I am feeling much better nowadays , lets see what tomorrow brings.

absolutely


as long as there is warmth and a sharing of feelings.

you bet

some people say that sex is only 5% of a relationship.

But if there is no sex , it becomes 90% .

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I don't know that I could commit to a man permanently knowing we could never have sex. What are your feelings about an open relationship, ie, the woman has the emotional intimacy with you but is still able to get her physical needs met elsewhere?

(PS I am married so this is all hypothetical of course.)

Just sayin' :)

There are ways to enjoy one another that don't employ one's johnson.

:shrug:

"if someone asks to see your sex organs, show them your fingers and stick out your tongue"

Dear Abby did a survey some years ago on a similar topic to the OP. The overwhelming majority of women replied that cuddling, having someone to hold them, etc, was infinitely more important to them than sex.

For me, most of the time, I'd much rather have someone who was willing to scratch my back or brush my hair for an extended period of time.

so its a question of finding someone who has a bigger defintion of what sex is

I hope you find someone who values you for YOU and is willing to be creative.

Even oral sex was not satisfying for her anymore, she got so frustrated and I felt utterly helpless .

I know not all women are similar , but this hurts me a lot , that ultimately something as physical as blood flow into an organ can destroy a relationship.

Nothing is sacred for the blind forces of life , even love.

sigh

You need to explore the role sex plays in your relationship, and to learn some useful techniques in the process. There are professionals who can help you with this.

It's been too late for a whole year now . year and 13 days....

just keep trying. :hug:

trying to not be too explicit here - no locking!

the partner needs to be willing to experiment and be open to adventure. Then both parties can find what will satisfy their needs.

There will have to be A LOT of trust involved but I think the OP wants to have a relationship so I think that openness and trust in each other will occur before any physical act will happen.

:shrug:

I could handle giong without intercourse...but there are other *ahem* satisfying activities that I don't know that I could abstain from.

I could definitely be with someone who couldn't perform intercourse. For me personally and I suspect for a lot of women it really isn't that satisying in and of itself. As long as my partner was open to a little "creativity" I could live quite happily without intercourse.

Without getting into any details, my marriage has been essentially sexless for about 5 yrs.
I still love my husband very much. He's a good man and my best friend.
And there are many things a couple can do to satisfy each other.

Sadly, most people today define "relationship" as a sexual entity; or sex being a mandatory condition. 500 Britney videos just can't be wrong... (or can they?)

And I've read up and observed relationships that failed solely because of sex (cheating/infidelity/other selfish formso f pursuit).

Most of today's youth think "courtship" is what you play naked tennis on during a singles' cruise in the Caribbean...

So many women have access to sexual intercourse in a relationship but crave the hugging, kissing and fondling which is necessary for a happy sex life. It's bizarre how alone you can feel right after intercourse when all other forms of contact have been ignored. If I am to believe the various women's magazines, many women don't climax from sexual intercourse anyway which makes the "hugging/kissing/fondling" part even more important.

I guess the important thing is to know that you are a still a sexual person and you have more than enough tools at your disposal to please someone else. You have to open yourself up to the possibility though.

and, as others have said, depends on what your definition of sex is. Although there are also certainly women who have no interest in sex. I would hate to think that you're avoiding looking for love because you're worried about this. It may make the search more difficult but I don't for one minute believe that it makes love impossible.

desire. Actually I do have desire but it is very low and I have always found sex to be a source of contention in my relationships.

And no, I am not kidding. :)

There are many women out there who have issues with penetration -- it's painful or uncomfortable, due to sexual dysfunctions such as vagimus (sp?) or the thinning of the vaginal walls with age. They want everything that goes along with a partner -- the closeness, the cuddling, the emotional/physical intimacy -- but without the penetration.

Also, there are women out there who understand that penetration isn't the end all and be all when it comes to "sex". I am one of those women who find penetration just so-so, and think there are a multitude of other sexual activies that are just as good, if not better to share with her partner. :shrug:

And if a woman desires penetration that her partner cannot provide, I say a visit to the online Good Vibrations shop is all that is needed to take care of that problem. :)

Have no fear, she's out there...

For the last year before my boyfriend passed away he was unable to perform sexually because of his illness.

Did I miss it? Yes
Did I love him any less? No way!!!

With a loving, caring person who made me happy, I am pretty sure sexual matters wouldnt be the deciding point when I am ready to have a relationship again.

I wish I can be more than sorry , I wish I can figure out what life and death are really about so that loss doesn't sting as much , but I am useless , yet still sorry , so, there you go.

I am actually afraid , terrified of death to tell you the truth. I think I would be a burden on anybody , on top of not being able to perform.

I feel so fucked up.

It's a British site but I wonder if there's anything like this in the US. :shrug:

https://www.platonicpartners.co.uk/index.php?

on edit: spelling error as usual ;)

launch the torpedoes to enjoy playing in the ocean. It's not even necessary.

Some of the best you can do all originates in your brain and leaves quite a bit less of a mess afterwards.