Stick-thin women or curvy women: tell us what kind of male physically appeals to you?

I have tended to date tall, lean men, but have married two Irish guys of average height. I tend to like men who are either average height with a teeny bit of extra meat (maybe a 32-36 inch waist) or if they're tall, on the thinner side. I don't like them short/average and skinny nor do I like tall and large. Not particularly attracted to long hair on guys and like either clean shaven or neat full beards. I feel men from any race can be attractive. My mileage has varied depending on the person.

Does this even matter? No, it doesn't because people are who they are and their brains matter much, much more.


*I don't need anyone giving the green light to my curves or lack there of. My body doesn't exist to be a stamp of approval for men (or not). I'd want someone to want me for me, not the size (or not) of my parts.

Bill Richardson with the beard.

George Clooney

Denzel

And I've had the occasional fantasy of John Goodman in his earlier days.


So I have quite a range.

:yourock: Your confidence inspires me, woman! :bounce:

I'm just good at acting as though I am. Eventually, my thoughts keep following (sometimes I even get glimpses I'm almost 'there'). :loveya:

How're you guys doing?

Fake it 'til ya make it, right? :loveya:

We're doing pretty well. J's still in p.t. for his hand, making good progress. I'm in over my head at work, mostly in a good way, lots of challenges to keep me occupied. We're doing a lot of prep work for our move, lately... other than that, not much exciting 'round these parts, which is ok with me right now. I can't wait for spring.

is that people are odd. So even if someone isn't attractive to a lot of people he/she will still be attractive to at least some people.

I like men who are taller than I am...

I love beards...

And long hair too...

Good sturdy bones and an open smile are very attractive...

Most important of all, though, is a sense of humor and an active intelligent mind!

Just like my husband!

6' even, 29"-36" waist (in all our years together), the best hair on this earth, dark eyes, chiseled jaw (sometimes bearded, sometimes not). He could behave like a boy, and also a man. He made my tummy flip each time he walked in the door, up to our last day together. He took my heart with him, and I loved him most for what was on the inside- for saving me from myself, giving me the most wonderful life, providing for our two children, and sharing all of himself with me. He was the only person on earth that ever "did it" for me. I shall miss that all the rest of the days of my life.

At 23:

Damn, I wish I looked that good.

In many ways I know. :hug:

that the media wants me to like.... :P

I used to date the pretty boys but that's often all they have to offer - a pretty face (at least, the ones I met only had that going for them).

Tall, short, heavy, thin, blonde or brunette - I care about personality and values. Except one type: I'm not all that attracted to really huge muscle-builders, the ones who can barely bend their arms because their muscles are too big and literally get in the way. I never say never, but I'd be surprised if I was ever attracted to someone with that physique.

but i tend to prefer curvier.

i like very skinny men though :silly:

More that 6'1" or 6'2". Otherwise I like a bit more meat. Go figure. :shrug:

As much as I'm trying to prove a point with my thread, I like women with curves too. Pat likes to tease me and say I'm a narcissist. :P

For the life of me, I can't understand what's wrong with saying "I like 'thick' women" — or "I like tall men" or "I like bungalow-style homes" or "I like blue, two-door cars." Stating a preference doesn't imply that anything falling outside that preference is unacceptable.

The thread to which this one is a response didn't ask "Are you attracted only to women who are..." or "Do you judge women by their bodies?"

Everyone has preferences in almost everything. We're wired that way.

We should take care in how we express some preferences, though.

We just have to remember the person behind the features is what we really have to like. I have no doubt my husband loves my DD's. I also have no doubt he'd love ME any less if they were B's. I hope that makes sense.

But if two people first see each other in a real-life social situation, it'd be extremely rare for them to be initially attracted to the other's brain or personality. (That, btw, is why I prefer the internets for The Dance, and why I've sometimes thought there's an advantage to blindness. When you like someone's insides, their outsides — well, I won't say they don't matter as much, because we still want to know what others look like. But an attractive mind and heart do much to enhance physical attractiveness. Ever notice how people get better-looking as we grow more fond of them?)

My point is, we aren't talking about love and relationships here, but simply about hitting the right buttons in the "Va-va-va-VOOM!" area of the pleasure center. But there has to be more than that, or it's not gonna go very far.

Now, for those who do say, "Shit, I'm not gonna touch that because she's too..." whatever — well, they're missing a whole lot, other than just a crucial section of gray matter.

you know those times when you just have this... zzzzzzzzzzzzzzing-ing when you see someone you've never met before? that...eye thing? like, you want to look at him but you don't want to but then see he's looking at you, too? so it's sort of like talking with your eyes across a room or something?

I don't think there's a particular physical type for that. It's chemistry...

but chemistry doesn't mean you'll like the person after you meet them, does it? this stuff is so confusing to me. :freak:

But that makes it more fun. :D

;) :P

and when I say bulky, I don't mean overweight, I mean just physically large...large boned, big muscles, etc. I'm 5'3" and small boned. Large men are just too physically intimidating for me. Is that weird?

I like tall men with long hair. Not a fan of body or facial hair, except the occasional soul patch (it can look good on some guys). You're right, it doesn't matter. I once fell for a guy who was pretty much my ideal physical type, but was an emotionally distant, borderline sociopathic asscarrot who treated me like I was an unpaid prostitute.

That said, I've dated short men, hairy men (my GF and I lovingly call our current BF Sasquatch :P), men with shaved heads. I've experienced profound physical attraction to men who weren't necessarily my "type". But that's because for me it's ultimately less about body parts and more about a person's spirit and the way they carry themselves.

My body doesn't exist to be a stamp of approval for men (or not). I'd want someone to want me for me, not the size (or not) of my parts.

WORD! This cannot be stated enough. :yourock:

I had certain "guidelines" I stuck to, including attractive hands (!) but as I got older I changed. I like a certain expression in the eye and a willingness to smile. Beyond that I am entirely open-minded and my dating history proves it.

I don't have a particular type I will only date.

My ex was 5'11" with just "regular" dark hair and amazing legs because he'd played soccer for twenty years. Of course, I didn't know about his legs until later... and the majority of guys I ever dated had dark hair and were Catholic, at least most of them, a couple born in Europe... which is odd since I grew up in Protestantland... but now, at my age, that's not really a marker. I really like the way bald guys with a soul patch look. Or guys with pony tails... I just cannot say I have a physical type I like because I'm older now and don't have a lot of experience dating older men.

Last guy I really, really, really, really, really had the hots for had dark hair with gray in it, he was lean and he played jazz and blues. Actually, he looked a lot like Bob Dylan on the blonde on blonde cover, except with darker hair. He was Jewish and from New York originally. But we never went out... because then I found out he was married. :/ I bet he got a lot of traction with that dylan thing.

I don't go out with married men.

I was never a hippy - happened before me - and I don't seem to favor that - but if I met someone interesting that looked like that, I would date him. I've never had an "I won't date this kind" list. I don't like body builders, but did go out with one once. We shared an interest: him.

To me, what's most important is a guy who is intellectually interesting to me... and who knows what that might be.... has something interesting to talk about, has a sense of humor, has an interest in music beyond the crap on the radio, and, ultimately, someone who gives me sexual zings... again, can't quantify that. but it can't be just about that.

As I've said before, if I have a "type," in terms of guys who'll turn my head if I don't know them from Adam and they're just pumping gas or something, it's tallish lanky guys with light skin and eyes and dark hair, with bonus points if they have tattoos or hair that looks like they just rolled out of bed. I've only dated one guy who actually looked anything like that, so apparently I'm flexible.

So yeah, the guy I'm head over fucking heels over? Couldn't look any less like that. And I'm fairly sure he's the sexiest thing on the planet, and have been from the first time I ever laid eyes on him.

Love does funny things to people.

I have always had a weakness for Black Irishmen...like Patrick Duffy from Dallas. Dark, dark hair and blue eyes, but I am open minded on appearances. At my age, they are more likely to have at least salt and pepper hair anyway, if not grey.
I am only 4'11", so I don't have issues with height. I had one boyfriend who was 6'5".

Most of all, they need to be intelligent, and have a great sense of humor. High ethics are also important, and I prefer a man who is handy around the house since I am as well.
Knowing how to cook is icing on the cake. I know how to cook, but it would be nice if they knew how as well.
These are the printable preferences anyway....