My son is in his room with his girlfriend of 17. Should I intervene?

I hear them laughing. Well, she's giggling! :D Oops! Now there's silence.

I hear rapid gunfire and then tires squealing. Might be a movie, but

I'm not sure. :P It's getting late but he's 19. An adult. What do I do?

:shrug:

If not, bust in on him. No rent. No nookie in the house.

I want MY cut!! :rofl:

J/K (JUST KIDDING!) :sarcasm:

...but I have always found the idea disturbing that the right to privacy and sell determination has to be purchased in the form of rent or mortgage payments.

I actually like that saying a lot! ;)

"the idea disturbing that the right to privacy and self
determination has to be purchased by rent is not acceptable."

And you are right! He lives here and he now pays rent and our relationship has changed in the last year.
He's still my son but he is a paying renter and I really do try to respect his privacy. It isn't an easy
thing to do and I was goofing around on DU about it tonight but my son has my utmost respect. I give him
as much space as a room mate should but the lines get crossed sometimes, as expected, but we get along
and like each other. We watch movies together and cook food together. But I'm not a 'hanging vine'.

Well, it's obviously too late to tell him that he can't do what he's doing!

I'd open the door, and toss in some condoms, lol!

Good luck with that, sweetie...:yoiks:

OK... I kicked in the door (actually is was open an inch or two)

and they were.... watching a movie!!!!!! O.M.G.!!!!! :rofl:

and they had clothes....
















ON!! :P

:rofl:

Sounds like a typical day in my 19th year.

Ah, the memories.

Oops. On edit, yes, you should worry.

:P

She's a minor and he's not. That could be bad. :scared:

I'm screwn!1!1 :P

I'd check the age of consent laws in your state. Just to be safe.

can't hurt to check.

Actually, I hear them moving around...

she's laughing and ...there it is...

She just said good night to me. ;)

He's walking her to her car. What a gentleman. ;)

:evilgrin:

:evilgrin:

:hi:

:evilgrin: :hi:

:P

:D

:rofl:

:P

She is such a cutey. ;) And we both told him the same thing at the same time and she went
Ooooh! in surprise and solidarity and then jumped off the bed and slapped me five!! :rofl:

Too funny!! :P

no closed doors in mixed company no matter what time of the day or night. Also no boys in the house without a parent home. But 19? well I don't know. I guess you might want to have a talk with him about the legalities of being with a 17 year old and encourage him to use condoms if they're going to be fooling around. I've always been pretty blunt with my daughters about that kind of stuff. It must be harder being the parent of an opposite sex child though. I've told my girls that if they're not old enough to make arrangements to get on birth control AND use a condom that they're not old enough to have sex. I've also encouraged them that they can come to me if they need to and I'll take them to the doctor myself. But it's sort of an attitude that I've cultivated ever since we first discussed puberty, birds and bees. Sometimes it's embarrassing (my 11 year old asked *in front of my mother* if I ever had orgasms!) but I figure that in the long run it's better to be embarrassed than to have them be misinformed and end up pregnant or with a disease.

They know all about it and it wasn't difficult at all for me to talk to them about sex.

Who do you think taught them to pee in the toilet and aim straight? :P

Not because of his age but due to his naiveté's'; when he first introduced me

to this young lady, I said two words to him, so that he'd remember.

'JAIL BAIT!' 'JAIL BAIT!' Then I explained what THAT meant. ;)

He already had heard it before but young men need reminders ... hourly. :P

I gave condoms (pastel) to my older boys at 15 years old... 'just in case'.

Seemed like a good idea to me and I gave them info. on AIDS too and STD's.

Not that the school wasn't also teaching it, you know. They were but SEX is exciting!

And young women and men lose their frigging minds over it!! I know you know that! ;)

But I wanted to reinforce abstinence and safety with them all and this one. ;)

I love my sons and want them to remain healthy. All is good.

'Little' red haired Misty is home with her Momma now, right on curfew. ;)

And all is peaceful at my home, except for the XBO 360 games!! :rofl:

That's over the AOC in many states, even if she's still a minor. :D

Hack into his webcam or something.

He needs a bigger room.

when things get quiet.

It works like that, you know. If he knows the ins and outs, as it were, of reproduction and is a responsible guy, ....

if you are uncomfortable with your son having sex in your home, you should tell him that. It may not be entirely "fair", but it is your home and your feelings, and both you and he should respect that.

Your son is well old enough to get his own place. It would cost him, but that's part of the deal of being an adult and having adult priviledges.

JMHO :)