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grasswire Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 01:06 AM
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why oh why didn't I marry a musician?
I adore musicians. Well, those who play certain kinds of music. But particularly those who exhibit a joie de vivre that comes with doing something that brings people pleasure.

Why didn't I know this before I married an accountant?

Think of all those years I wasted!

And then when the accountant and I had enough of each other thank you very much, my musician friends were all snapped up by others.

Live, learn, and regret.
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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 01:23 AM
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1. Lucy Van Pelt wrote to 'Dear Agnes'
"I'm in love with a man who doesn't even know I'm alive. All he ever thinks about is his stupid ol' piano and that stupid ol' Beethoven."



Dear Agnes responded, "Never fall in love with a musician."



:hi:
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grasswire Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 11:26 PM
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24. too late.
I did. A long time ago.

But you've heard this story.
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VenusRising Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 01:37 AM
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2. I can tell you all the horrible things about living with a musician.
I married one, so I know. Don't get me wrong, there are great and wonderful things, but there are also downsides.

The grass is never really greener.

It's about finding someone that you love for them, loves you back for you, and someone you can't even imagine living without.

:hug:
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 01:41 AM
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3. Because you have brains?
I worked at Berklee College of music for years and dated half the faculty and a smaller proportion of the students. These people... they live in an odd world. They could not play or sing or write without inspiration, seriously, and inspiration takes all forms. The marriages don't last. MHO.
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billyskank Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 02:40 AM
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4. Actually that great guy will be someone you never pay attention to.
He'll be somebody with a boring job and a boring life, but you won't pay attention to him, and neither will anybody else, because he's boring.
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 03:10 AM
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5. Because you like to eat?
Just sayin'.
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Honu one Donating Member (118 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-23-08 10:21 AM
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29. You said it!
I married a guitarist. He's still having fun working in the film & TV industry and I get to hold down the real job with benefits.

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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 01:58 AM
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30. I narrowly missed a lifetime of that with an indie filmmaker
Wonderful man, bless his soul, but I was not prepared to spend a lifetime covering his ass.
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 03:26 AM
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6. Guys with guitars will always break your heart.
I would focus more on how the person makes you feel and not their talent for making others feel good.
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michreject Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 08:38 AM
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14. Good thing I'm a drummer
and only been married three times.Headin for the third divorce too. :evilgrin:
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-23-08 03:56 AM
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25. I WANT TO KICK SOME DRUMMER ASS
YOU WOULD BE A GOOD START :7
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BlueJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 02:05 PM
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37. Am I on your Ignore List ??
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 03:20 PM
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38. NO!
:hi:
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BlueJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 04:26 PM
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43. Whew...Good....I asked because last month..(while on vacation)...My..
.."prick" exfriend used my account here on DU and from what I can tell...pissed everybody and his mother off...
..something about "all people from Minnesota are wimps and stupid..etc" (and that's just what I know of..)

I found it out by accident...anyway..Thanks Skittles :)
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LeftPeopleFinishFirst Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 10:33 AM
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19. Yeah they do.
Date a drummer or pianist instead ;)
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miss_american_pie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 05:12 PM
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44. Hey! That's my line!
:hi:
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Karenina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 07:33 AM
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7. Girlfriend, WHAT are you THINKING???
:spray: Just asking as a female musician who in the past week has had to deal with 2 women driven to clinical insanity by their musician spouses. :rofl:
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zanne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 07:38 AM
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8. You can't go home again.
And you'd probably have a miserable life with a musician. Consider yourself lucky, grasswire!
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LeftyFingerPop Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 07:41 AM
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9. I'm both an accountant and muscian....
Here's a song I wrote for someone I love:

Debits on the left
Credits on the right
Let's not depreciate our assets honey
I don't want to fight

You turn me on like no other
When you work that Excel spreadsheet
And when you put that pen to paper
No one has you beat

So take my hand and show me
Your revenue recognition policy
And I will be a happy man
As we punch the calculator with glee
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kwassa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 08:15 AM
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10. I had a friend who was only going to marry a long-haired musician
well .... fifteen years later she married a real estate agent. First marriage.
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 08:22 AM
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11. I was married to one for 18 years
he was a professor and performer. He ended up having an affair with a former grad student. He was also married to his music. (Lelapin hates when I say this, be careful what you wish for...)

;)

:hug:
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1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 08:30 AM
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12. My SO is a musician
And I love him dearly. But there are many downsides to daily life with a musician: no concept of time, working weekend nights, endless rehearsing, and head in the clouds all of the time.

Sometimes an accountant seems pretty darn appealing....:D
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 08:35 AM
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13. Did you get your new car?
;)
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1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 09:38 PM
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20. I did!
It's beautiful, fun, and -- I'm told -- cool!
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 09:39 PM
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21. Then that makes you cool too
:hug:
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grasswire Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 11:22 PM
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22. yeah? well.......
....my accountant turned out to be an emotional batterer and a pathological narcissist, as well as a cheater. And I met him in church!
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1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 03:43 PM
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39. I'm sorry you had to go through that
I shouldn't have been so glib.
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u4ic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 02:20 AM
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31. No concept of time?
Now there's irony for ya. :P
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1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 03:43 PM
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40. As in..."I'm going into the studio to do one thing, will be done in an hour"
And emerging five hours later, firmly believing it's only been one.
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bbernardini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 08:56 AM
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15. Perhaps you should consider a part-time musician?
For example, among the fine gentlemen in my band (www.thevibetribe.net, available for weddings, private parties, corporate events, etc.), we have a programmer, a realtor, a public relations officer for a bank, and a teacher (that one is me...admittedly, I'm a music teacher, but still...). Yes, there are gigs on the weekends (we're booked almost to the end of the year), but the financial rewards make it worthwhile. And we're all able to do most of our part-learning away from rehearsal, so full rehearsals don't take up too much time. (Hell, I often learn tunes in the car while driving to and from work.)
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 09:00 AM
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16. There's a certain joie de vivre that comes with
not worrying about when your next paycheck is coming, too. ;-)
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Enrique Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 10:28 AM
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17. you can't hold the hand of a rock and roll man very long
Or count on your plans with a rock and roll man very long.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=Eh9Z8OsfxEo
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grasswire Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 11:25 PM
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23. God, not rock and roll.
That's not the kind of musician I know. My best friends for many years were jazz musicians. Nearly always with a day job -- a career. But with that especially interesting joyful spirit that musicians have.
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LeftPeopleFinishFirst Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-22-08 10:29 AM
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18. I've always wanted to
I feel like it'll happen, as I'm a total groupie for musicians of every stripe.

;)
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unpossibles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-23-08 08:40 AM
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26. as a musician - if it helps - not everyone appreciates us
I get frustrated sometimes as a musician.
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-23-08 09:52 AM
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27. Honey, there are musicians, then there are bagpipe players.
At least an accountant isn't playing Scotland the Brave in the basement at 6am. It registers on the Richter scale. "Divorce? Never. Murder ....?"
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crispini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-23-08 09:54 AM
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28. LOL!
Too funny! :D
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BlueJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 07:43 AM
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32. Definition of a Gentleman:
One who knows how to play the bagpipes but doesn't.

Why do Bagpipe players march so fast?

To get away from the noise...

What's the difference between a Chainsaw and a Bagpipe?

You could tune a chainsaw if you had to...
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 08:24 AM
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34. What's the difference between a terrorist and a bagpipe player?
You can reason with a terrorist.
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BlueJazz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 02:04 PM
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36. LOL!..I'll have to remember that one.
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kineneb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 04:00 PM
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42. ...and accordion players
Use an accordion, go to jail. Its the law.
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WritingIsMyReligion Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 08:13 AM
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33. Musicians are pretty chill, but unless you want to put up with their insane schedules,
get an amateur, someone who plays very well but doesn't bother to do it for the money.
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 08:34 AM
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35. "Are you the police?"
Musicians can be an odd lot. Just imagine being married to one of these guys. :P

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tjGfnsjdJec

:hi::hug:
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kineneb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-24-08 03:58 PM
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41. ...'cause you like eating and being able to pay bills?
I am a musician. I went into my studies knowing it was like taking a vow of poverty. At least I was not disappointed (I am poor).
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