Last night's date was a bust. There were a bunch of problems but when he informed me

that African Americans don't want to work while the Mexicans will work their tails off, I realized I'd found yet another dud. I should have gone to the party instead.

I'm speechless.

:hug: :hug: <-- Translation: I'm happy to see you!

:hi: :hug: :hi: :hug: How are you?

All is good here. It's a beautiful day: 70° with lotsa big, fluffy clouds. :)

Wow. See, you don't get this kind of information from progressives. :D

Repuke men like me. :rofl:

and white. Blonde's have more fun.

*snort*

:shrug:

Honey do you put out an asshole attracting pheromone?
:hug:

sorry

Crim son likes assholes..Become an asshole and you are in like flint! :sarcasm:
I am sorry my friend. You will find a good one eventually.
There has to be at least one smart guy out there. :hug:

I quit.

I'm a freak magnet with americans. After a while it's just not worth wasting time with nutters. Though you can bet I've let some nice, normal ones slip by as I stood back wondering what their particular loonie tune was.
:shrug:

It seems unlikely.

I just don't get why women always want to be 'just friends' :rofl:

but are you normal?

I work, pay all my bills, have no vices, I keep myself in shape and watch my diet, I'm not needy, I'm confident but not cocky and I have a tendency to help people in need without expecting anything in return. Is that normal?

;)

with entries like "Bush Worshipper," "Xenophobe," "Gangbanger," "Racist," "Heroin Addict," "Warmonger" and give yourself a nice prize everytime you bingo

just for them.

Asshole attracting pheromone. It's a possibility, a distinct possibility.

:hug:

you have to spend the rest of the evening with this idiot?

after I'd listened to him talk for hours about how his ex-wife, a beautiful, sexy, petite woman (I was informed), screwed him over and how he's going to do the same to her. He mentioned needing a woman to "make her notice." I am not that woman.

Jeebus, I think I'm going to go cry now. I DO emit asshole-attracting pheromones!

around, the odds are pretty high that you'll bump into one of them.

Don't you dare cry! I mean, cry if you must, because that person just used you and took advantage of you, forcing you to be his learning post, without giving you anything. He's the shame, not you.

Don't feel bad. Laugh about it. He's a bad joke.

Just be glad you found this out right away. Imagine if you'd gone out with him AGAIN!

It's good that the assholishness was just boiling out of him last night or I might have seen him a few times, gotten attached, and then learned about his racism &etc. Though to be fair, there was never any danger of my getting attached.

Sorry, but talking about how his ex screwed him over on a first date would be enough by itself to send me running. The racist crap would just be the icing on the cake. And I do not envy you being in dating mode -- I hated it.

Look on the bright side, crimmie. It only took one date to figure this guy out. Those are the best kind of assholes, the ones who minimize the time-wasting.

There are some great divorced men out there, but so many make it obvious within the first hour of the date why their ex divorced them.

You coulda went months before finding out he was an asshole!

But you're not alone. My lead girl at work years ago was the original "asshole magnet". She could be driving down the road and hear a car horn honking, look to the lane beside her and someone would be mooning her. (True story, and happened more than once!) And she was an incredibly attractive woman.

:hug:

why a "nice guy" like himself doesn't have more success with women. :eyes:

I'm sorry, Lisa. :hug:

What a no-brainer...see ya creep!

What a jerk. At least he did you the favor of showing his garbage up front.

There was a show on tv years ago where they followed this 45 year old man who had never had a long-term relationship. He's on a first date and talking to the woman about how sad he is at the recent death of his pet. The woman relates to his sadness and talks about her mother's death. Pretty soon the guys says, "Getting back to my pet..."

I don't believe in dating anyone I haven't known casually for a while. My last girlfriend (who's still my bestest bud in the world) and I worked together for a year before I asked her out. Although I was attracted to her immediately, I took a year to make up my mind that we might be good together. A bit extreme, I suppose, but I never have to endure dates from hell.

Good luck to you. Men are like streetcars: there's another one coming along every ten minutes.

That's it, exactly!

"I don't believe in dating anyone I haven't known casually for a while."

For 2 reasons: 1- I've had more than my share of crappy dates.

2-Dating someone is a poor way to get to know them. Most people are putting their best foot forward when they're dating. Not all, as this guy obviously wasn't. Or if that's his best, I'd hate to see his worst.

:hug:s for you dear Crim Son.

:rofl: I'm feeling much better this evening. Everybody has pointed out the positive, that at least I parted ways with no ambivalence. Thanks for the hugs and here's some for you: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

but you are sad, attractive, and he probably picks up on vulnerable if I'm gonna guess...

it's not the pheromones...

I'll pm you what it is...

The papers and court stuff may be done, but he's not "over" her. He still wants her to "notice" something? This ain't your problem, crim son. The racism is just icing on this nonsense.

Look at the bright side - at least you GOT pheromones!! Keep on emitting!!

:hi:

One of the last blind dates I had. I sat across the table from a guy who was nice enough, seemed sane....

until he started waxing rhapsodic about how he wished he could be back in the late 1950s, you know when women stayed home and men went to work. That's natural. That's what women are supposed to do, stay home. They are happiest like that.

I surprised myself that I didn't immediately want to claw his eyes out across the table. Instead I calmly noted that most women have always worked to survive, regardless of the date on the calendar. That's, you know reality.

He countered with yeah, they like big cars, big expensive houses. Definitely implying that we work just so we can spend more money, get more bling. Anything to say that we aren't satisifed with what men provide. We didn't even touch the issue of needing to get out of abusive relationships. That was a mountain best ignored.

I realized the night was hopeless and he was just a sad, confused guy trying to get along in a world that has moved on without him.

We left the restaurant and said our goodbyes. I sincerely hope he finds a woman who wants to be stuck back there in 1957 with him.

I've run into one or two of those men myself. Everything would be just great if the little woman stayed at home looking after the kids and baking cakes. :eyes:

:hug:

I'm sorry you had a bad night. I'm glad he showed his true colours on the first date though.

hang in there.

:hug:

aA

i'm sorry you had to waste time with a MORAN.


:headbang:

Better to find out earlier than later, however.

:hug:

At least, that's why they run faster, according to my enlightened high school track coach.


On the plus side, now you don't have to wonder if your date was an asshole--he waved a big sign declaring it!

Did you grow up in Colorado, or are there lots of these extra-foot-bone-believing morans around?

After losing an important sprint during my senior year, the coach attempted to console me with his wisdom:

"Don't feel bad," he said. "They have that extra bone in their foot that makes them faster. Gives them an edge."


I suppose he thought that men had an advantage over women because men aren't burdened by that extra rib, too...

I'm sorry he was an asshole
but HE WAS

and as others have said...

better to have found out now.....

don't worry....it will happen, you will meet some one
when you aren't expecting it...


:hug:



:hi:


lost

that last dude was just a waste of your time.

beginning of a date that shows what your opinions are with penalties for lying.

If my best friend was not such a bastard at times, I would set you up with him-he is on paper great.

x( :hug: Sorry it didn't work out, crim son, but then again I have to agree with what others have said...at least you didn't have to date him for a long time before realizing he was a douchebag. :pals:

Suitor shall not be a republican, a dumbass, or both...

:rofl:

These waters are way too shallow.

:hi:

to work through your feelings from the past relationships, figure out why you seem to be drawn to assholes, get to know yourself better.

Just a suggestion. . .

:D

:hi:




*sigh*

win that lotto????


:hi:

There are so few in Maine. :shrug:

As other folks have said, be thankful that you found out that he's an asshole so quickly.

avoid walking past a group of black men (not gangbangers, just ordinary, working-class black men). That was strike one.

His totally flat affect and dead eyes were strike two.

And because I was already in a foul mood, I didn't need a strike three.

:-)

These days, Republicans think the Nazis, the Communists and the terrorists are all leftists.

:hug:

:puke:

Sorry about that. :hug:

You will find yours. Keep your head up.

:) :hi: :hug:

But, better you found out on the first date than the 3rd or 5th.

I actually found dating as much as possible helped me a lot more than being selective and only dating once in a while... if I only dated once in a while, I'd get too psyched up before the date and then would inevitably be let down afterwards. However, if I dated a lot, I didn't have time to get all excited over a date, and if a date didn't go well, I had another one lined up soon.