People are disappointing

discuss...

i will be back later to tell you why i think so

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sigh

more so than in real life :hug:

It does make one appreciate the times when others surprise you, though.

So that works pretty well most of the time. :)

:D Why?

:hi:

I didn't expect it from DUers...

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would start a discussions of visas, nuclear armaments, generalized xenophobia

nothing wrong with the OP,just some of the responses.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=389&topic_id=3241857&mesg_id=3241857

;-)


Yeah, I've been disappointed more and more frequently by people lately-both here and in "real life". Our society as a whole is colder and more selfish than it once was, and personal attacks are now viewed as "sport" with many people. There's also a severe lack of intellectual curiosity out there. I'm often asked just why I'm still single; the honest answer is that I've never met anyone that I wanted to spend a significant portion of my life with. I'm unwilling to "settle" just to avoid being alone. Down here we are overwhelmed with Baptist Bible thumpers, Libertarians and bigoted republicans. Sign me up for "none of the above". :-(

Cats never disappoint me; people do on a daily basis.

I'm too slow. I second the entire thing. But I only have one cat.

This Cat woman in Kansas agrees with you! :hi:

and our own self disappointment causes us to project that disappointment onto others. that's probably not correct, but it sounds good.

If all people were great, than the good ones would be nothing special.

"People" aren't disappointing, it is you who feel disappointed in them and therefore, it is you who are ultimately responsible for your own emotional reaction to them.

They're just doing their own thing, in some cases, being incredibly insensitive or unconscious.

It is your judgment about them that causes the emotional stress, disappointment, or whatever. The stress comes from resisting the present moment, of whatever is "showing up".

Nobody MAKES you feel disappointed in them. They're not holding a gun to your head saying, "Feel disappointed in me, dammit!" It doesn't quite work that way.

I think we are all too often willing to give away our own power by viewing other people as being responsible for our emotional reactions.

Bottom line: You are responsible for what you feel, not other people.

Just sayin'.

That said, however, I'm sorry you're bummin'. :hug:

disappointed or angry or contempt?

What I'm saying is that I don't hold them responsible for what I am feeling.

Furthermore, I try to see a very clear distinction between their behaviour, attitudes or whatever and the people themselves.

There are various levels of consciousness and those people we label as "bigots" are manifesting levels of consciousness which don't understanding the connection we all share.

The more of us who awaken to the awareness that we are truly all ONE, the more light we will bring to the planet.

who told you differently? :shrug:

I've got stacks and stacks of reasons why people have disappointed me this year.

I actually prefer the feats of strength portion of the celebration... :D

I only read the OP, not the whole thread...I thought Lioness was talking in general terms of the universal tendency of people to disappoint at times...I didn't realize the discussion was about something specific...

...your wording should be impeccable... :D :hi:

And I'm not just basing that on the actions of one person.

I've often been told I expect too much out of people, though.

A little honesty, once in awhile, wouldn't hurt though...
if you know what I mean (?).