Question for, well, anyone.

Do girls actually like it when you give them flowers? Or do they think it's lame? I mean, I should know, because I'm female, but I don't. Gah...dorkiness!

I'm thinking of getting the girl I'm seeing (I guess I can call her my girlfriend?) a boquet of roses for when I see her in a few days.

Yeah, it's cliche. But do you think she'll like it?

But i think it's a really sweet gesture. I actually like mixed bouquets a lot -- especially if you're worried about being cliche. I love bright ones with sunflowers, lilies, stuff like that. Roses are gorgeous too, just more typical.

:hi:

Edit to add, gerber daisies too! Those are sweet! :D

Although maybe for a first date you might not want to do roses..Maybe something like carnations. Roses just seem a bit much for a first date

:woohoo: :woohoo:
:hi:

keep in mind, different rose colors have different meanings.

I don't know if your girlfriend might know all this, but just in case...

http://www.rkdn.org/roses/colors.asp

It's scary how much meaning could be attached to a flower! :Protocol of the Elder of Roses? Maybe a living plant would be a good idea?

her ex husband asked her what she had to do to get them. She said: I love someone and that someone showed love to me, so fuck off.

flowers are not dorky. They can still be powerful.

He obviously has no clue and didn't deserve her! His loss....

I think it's sweet. Roses might be a bit much for the first date, especially red ones. Go for yellow or pink ones or some other flower if it's first date.

Have fun!

If it comes from someone that is too forward, so to speak, then it all just gets scary!

Wish there was some way to get her opinion about it without giving away your intentions...

If you don't do the flowers, pick up something for her that you know she likes... something personal.

:)

so i know i am stereotyping but chances are if she is girly and femmey she may like flowers

I also think it depends on how far the relationship has gone! I am not femmy, but love flowers! But if someone that totally scares me is sending them, I would start thinking about the witness protection program...but like i said, I am just about the last person to consult on relationships! So in effect I should shut up!

When I was a teenager, there was this guy that wasn't totally there(he ate one too many hits of acid--long story that--) whom was obsessed with me; sent flowers, chocolates, etc. and also harassed me and my family. I never really cared for that kind of gift ever since-- just gives me the creeps, mostly. Maybe I am reading too many crime novels, too?

I can see that I am taking this way too seriously here! Send maybe not roses but other really cool flowers, better yet--a plant that she will have to take care of and think of you every day?

XXXXOOOO
Jo-lee

Plus, while she's ooooing and aaaahing over the ice, you don't have to talk about all that emotion shit.

but perhaps roses might be a bit much. maybe get her a nice spring bouquet.

he's a...i don't want to call him a creature...but a character, i guess, from the dark crystal. it's an old jim henson flick that is near the top of my list of favorite movies

Send some bright sunflowers to a goth chick and she might just dump you on the spot :D

YOu never know what will offend or delight another person!

something I can keep and nurture and remind me forever of the person who gave it to me.

The thing I hate about cut flowers is that it seems so sad when they start wilting and dying and then I have to throw them away. Even though I usually tell the guys this when we start dating, I have had roses sent to me anyway. I do still have some pressed rose petals from one very special man.

Dying flowers are depressing, to me anyway. A pretty plant that's easy to care for is a nice thing to give someone.

If not, then squishing men in between the pages of my favorite books would rate!! No wonder I don't have a lot of boyfriends these days!! They finally figured it out?

XXXOOO
Jo-lee

But I'm a guy, so what do I know. :shrug:

Never got any complaints yet!! Even my dad hasn't given me a hard time about it!! I send him flowers on Father's Day. He already has all of the tools and stuff that he needs...

or one picked from my yard. If it's pretty, I want to give to to a nice woman. I think maybe some women see it as "it's the thought that counts." I'm not sure how any others see it.

It's overplayed and a bit awkward to walk around holding. :P

I've always been a big fan of the single rose.

(rarely!) buy flowers, since they don't last. I prefer plants, stuff I can put in my garden - but that's just me! If we were dating, or if I didn't have a garden, I'd be thrilled with flowers, not necessarily roses - there are lots of lovely choices that are more eco- and cost-friendly!

Hope you have a fun night!

something fun and possibly cheeky which shows that you're thinking and paying attention can be nicer.

There is this girl I met on the intertubes who I kind of like...I know she likes orange tootsie pops...I'm bringing her a bouquet of orange tootsie pops bouquet-wrapped and presented as flowers with the tissue paper and the baby's breath and some approximation of long-stems (I may tape each individual tootsie pop to a pipe-cleaner.) on our first date. Why? Because I'm pretty sure that I'm the first guy to come up with that idea, thus it's novel.

I'd stay away from red roses...they mean more than you probably want to say on a first date. I'm one of those people who believes in floriography, that is...the language and meanings of flowers as gifts. Not only is it neat, it leads to less-common and thus more interesting bouquets. I particularly like the combination of asparagus fern and white camellia. Not only does it look interesting...it means "You're adorable, I'm fascinated by you." Avoid overcrowding...stick to combinations of one (or two at most) central types of flowers and 1-3 supporting smaller flower varieties or greens. Sometimes a single variety stands on it's own, needeing no supporting cast: Calla lilies, for example

More on floriography: http://victorianbazaar.com/meanings.html

But they mean "magnificent beauty" (usually, but not always, in the metaphysical sense):

Hence their funeral usage to express "(S)He had a magnificent beauty (or magnificently beautiful soul/warmth/generosity/life/etc.)".

There is no reason you could not use them to express "I think you have a magnificent beauty (and I'm not just talking about your looks.)"

or to express "We (or this couple) has a magnificent (spiritual) beauty." as a wedding flower. (which is how I've usually come across them.)

As people lost the meaning of exactly what they meant and came to associate them with being a common funeral flower, they simply came to be a safe-choice for a funeral flower. I wasn't suggesting that she give Calla lilies, I was using them to point out that some flowers when given stand alone better than in a mix. A bouquet of nothing but Calla has an elegant simplicity which mixing would detract from.

I didn't stop to think of them as a funeral flower either...I associate them usually with weddings actually. Also, I don't like them. My funeral flower of choice is a potted white or purple cyclamen expressing acceptance and "Goodbye, I'll miss you."

in hindsight, I couldn't have picked a more appropriate flower, the short marriage was as happy as a funeral

Carly

Maybe girls I've dated want flowers, but I doubt it. I've had a couple relationships that lasted at least a year, and I can't think of a single case where the reason for the break up was flowers or lack there of. I just don't think that I'd be interested in a girl who wanted flowers.... I would somehow know before I asked a girl out if she was the type who wanted flowers.

At least she wouldn't place any serious monetary demands on you! I am starting to think that the original question might be more like on the lines of "how far to go without coming off as too intense?"

I cant' think of ever breaking up with someone because they refused to give me flowers. Hunny, not all women are that shallow! Well, I'm sure that you will rack up some more experience eventually! until then...Send me flowers or die!!!

XXXOOO
Been there and done that!

ps: are the flowers on the way, or what?

I've been sending them every day for weeks.... now I know why you haven't called back!!

wow.

I've only ever had two "long term" girlfriends, as in 3 years +. My point was that an amount of about a year is long enough that you're past the stage of just going on dates and probably know the other person quite well.

:rofl:

She loves flowers. Once she dated a guy who absolutely didn't get it. They didn't break up because of lack of flowers, but his cluelessness about what she liked was certainly part of it.

But get a very unusual color. Red or pink or white is soooooooooo last year!!

They are like little dead bodies because after they're out of the ground, they're dead.

This is what I told my kids to get them to stop jerking leaves off of trees and flowers out of the garden. I don't appreciate a cut flowers arrangement; I'd rather have a plant. Or balloons. Or a poem. Or a CD full of hand-picked music just for me (this is my own personal favorite).

I do realize, of course, that not everyone shares my feelings. :)

And, not a red one.

one that is still small, and tell her that it, along with your relationship, will grow in time. And then pray it doesn't die. lol. Not that that ever happened to me. :yoiks:

Maybe it's a European thing, but I doubt it.

It also depends on the intent. You might scare her if it's too soon in the relationship! She might think you are like too intent? Take it slow, just like anything else...I know I like getting them from people that don't "threaten" me in any way. But do keep in mind the "proximity" factor and take it from there? I guess roses are supposed to denote seriousness, which might scare another away, expecially in the situation that you are in? Oh heck send 'em to me if she doesnt like it!!

Good luck and best wishes!

Here's my disclaimer: I am, have been, and probably always will be a total failure in relationships! so don't listen to me!!

XXXOOO
Jo-lee

At least 80%.

The other 20% would like to get auto parts!! I'll take both, thanks!! Send it all on to me...

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Everyone gets to enjoy how pretty they are and it's a nice, sweet gesture.

I would not like to receive a dozen roses. They cost way too much for something that's going to die in a few days. A less expensive bouquet or a live plant is always welcome.

Harleydad once gave me a rose bush that grew the most beautiful and fragrant roses. Now I can't stand hot house roses. They smell almost moldy in comparison and they don't last nearly as long.

Cut flowers arent a winner with me usually. My daughter doesn't like getting them either she says. I think she picked that up from me though. I've said "flowers just die" too many times I guess :D

Do what feels right

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would appreciate the gesture.

it doesn't happen nearly enough for me.

But all women are different. So, to make a blanket statement that all women like getting flowers is wrong.



But you know, you could try the flower thing once and see how it goes over.

Go ahead and do it.

especially when it's a surprise. like no birthday or holiday or "i'm sorry", just out of nowhere, you know? it all depends on the girl :)

personally i'm not a huge fan of roses. so my bf buys me carnations or pretty little displays of lots of different colorful flowers. my brother in law will pick up random bouquets for my sister and she just adores it, he always does it out of nowhere and buys something different, other than flowers, for special occasions.