If you had to deal daily with someone who has betrayed you, how would you handle it?

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Wed May-21-08 10:35 AM
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If you had to deal daily with someone who has betrayed you, how would you handle it?

This is an open question. I'll take your responses off the air. Thanks!

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SacredCow

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Wed May-21-08 10:40 AM
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1. It's difficult. n/t

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La Lioness Priyanka

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Wed May-21-08 10:40 AM
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2. betrayed how? professionally? personally?

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SacredCow

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Wed May-21-08 10:42 AM
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3. Yeah... I guess "betrayed" can cover a lot.... n/t

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petronius

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Wed May-21-08 10:46 AM
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4. Divorce them, fire them, quit my job, kill them, spread ugly rumors about them - it really depends

on the situation. No matter what, I would not be nice about it (although I'm sure walking away would be more rational)...

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Tuesday Afternoon

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Wed May-21-08 10:48 AM
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5. ativan

is working for me

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Chan790

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Wed May-21-08 11:01 AM
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6. Knife fight?

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JackBeck

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Wed May-21-08 11:04 AM
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7. Assess whether or not you think the relationship is worth continuing.

Look at how much you already have or you are willing to invest in nurturing this relationship back to where both parties were happy and in agreement.

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raccoon

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Wed May-21-08 11:15 AM
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8. Be civil and polite. No more, no less. nt

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Inchworm

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Wed May-21-08 11:21 AM
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9. I'd let him sit in jail

So I get a little vacation from the drama.

Looong story :D

:hi:

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EstimatedProphet

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Wed May-21-08 12:40 PM
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10. Three to the back of the head

BLAM!BLAM!BLAM! Then dump the body in the river.

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Richardo

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Wed May-21-08 02:03 PM
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12. "Fishing with Fredo" we called that back in the day

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kwassa

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Wed May-21-08 02:00 PM
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11. Reduce contact to the minimum necessary, and not one bit more

and start looking for a way to have no contact at all.

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joneschick

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Wed May-21-08 02:03 PM
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13. took the high road.

Edited on Wed May-21-08 02:12 PM by joneschick

didn't let many people know for my own reasons, mostly protecting people that didn't deserve to get any of her shit on them. then she finally was asked to resign from her job and she left town.

edited to say sorry. meant to respond to OP

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sarge43

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Wed May-21-08 02:05 PM
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14. Live well. It is the best revenge. n/t

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kwassa

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Wed May-21-08 02:22 PM
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17. Indeed it is.

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AlCzervik

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Wed May-21-08 02:06 PM
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15. i'd go with the Schrute family method and shun them.

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leftyclimber

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Wed May-21-08 02:15 PM
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16. Kill them with kindness.

It makes them paranoid.

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jobycom

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Wed May-21-08 02:27 PM
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18. Depends on how I had to deal with them.

If the relationship required trust, I would find a way out of it, or find a way to verify everything. If the relationship didn't require trust, I would continue to be the same person I am, but not let that person beneath the surface again. Superficially nice, but with no depth.

Depends on whether this is work, a marriage, a friendship, a casual acquaintance...

My worst betrayal came from someone I could not just separate from without destroying other things in the process. That was a bad situation, and I wish I had handled it differently. Broke it off, and let events happen as they must. Sometimes acceptance turns into appeasement, with all the future betrayals that entails.

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hunter

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Wed May-21-08 02:39 PM
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19. It usually catches up with them, no need to help them along.

From the high road you can sometimes get a very good view when their crap explodes, and you'll be far enough away not to get any of the stink on you.

A saintly person wouldn't gloat when than happens... but I've never been a saint.

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datasuspect

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Wed May-21-08 02:40 PM
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20. i probably wouldn't deal with them

i don't HAVE to do anything.

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BarenakedLady

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Wed May-21-08 02:41 PM
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21. Depends

On what they did, who they are, how remorseful they were, etc.

Nothing is ever an easy answer without knowing all the factors.

Good luck.

:hug:

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Commie Pinko Dirtbag

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Wed May-21-08 07:03 PM
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22. Some place other than the Internet. -nt

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BlueIris

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Wed May-21-08 07:15 PM
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23. Get a divorce or a different job. Not much more to it.

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flvegan

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Wed May-21-08 07:18 PM
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24. Depends on the betrayal, and in what capacity I deal with them daily.

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greenbriar

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Wed May-21-08 07:36 PM
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25. polite speak only when i have to

is how I handle it

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