Do women really just wanna have fun? Or do you think they want love and romance?

This question has puzzled me, even as a woman, most of my adult life.

Any thoughts?

Depending on our mood at the time. Or simultaneously.

I guess it doesn't have to be one way or the other. Thanks.

Loving and being loved makes me very very happy.

Sometimes... not so much.

But then again, what man understand women?

A big wiener helps.

A big wiener is overrated. Damn... should have put that in my overrated list! lol

"It's not the size of the ship, it's the motion of the ocean."

Think about it.

Sorry if you have had bad experiences.

... but I was mostly being facetious in that post. Although, money doesn't hurt.

My husband and I were very poor when we married. My wedding ring cost $200. My engagement ring $250.!!

I totally want fun and romance. (Honestly)

Love not so much as to have love in a relationship it has to be "serious". I'm anti-serious because serious is seriously not fun. I'm really about the fun; if I'm not longer having fun in a relationship, I'm not long for it.

I want to meet someone who will be fun forever. That's romantic to me.

That is what perplexes me to this day.

Seriously. Any man that could make me laugh was halfway into my bed.

If he got most of my jokes and could just hang with me and drink a beer or two, go fishing for an afternoon--or watch a dumb movie and be ok with it--we were good to go. The ones who got booted to the curb were the ones that were busy trying to "educate" me or somehow try and change who I am. Made no sense to me--WHY were they there if I was a mess and in need of change?

If you are not having fun why bother to even DO this thing called dating? My philosophy was ALWAYS that you stayed in my life as long as you ADDED something to it in some way. It wasn't that I was in it only for the good times, but mostly because there just seemed like no point to it if it was not fun to hang out with that person anymore.

There is enough in this life to cry over--laugh while you can, and find somebody to share that with!


Laura

"The ones who got booted to the curb were the ones that were busy trying to "educate" me or somehow try and change who I am. "

Is it okay, from a relationship point of view, for a guy to be fun to be around, but not very romantic?

I'm kind of wondering about this because I've not been in the dating scene for 13 years. I'm just now getting back in, but I'm afraid my romance skills are going to need a little work here in the beginning. I guess I'm a little rusty.

and how people fit together. I'm sorry if that is not a good answer. And, I'm probably the wrong person to ask about relationship advice! lol

edit: spelling

I remember times all I wanted was just some fun, maybe some sex, somebody to be with at that point in time. It was kinda like scratching an itch. Other times (less frequently, I have to confess) I wanted to be with that ONE special person.

I think I have always kind of been of the mindset that there are multiple "right" persons for us all. I love my husband, and would choose him all over again, but I think I could have found happiness with another (different) man.

YMMV.



Laura

Thank you. :hi:

:shrug:

Just seems picky and selfish to want it all, I guess!

:)

and
I want it now!

See what I just typed at the very same moment! lol

:toast:

No drinking, tonight, for me though! :hi:

the possibility for upward mobility.

Hope you someday meet a woman who seeks you just for you.

Ugh.

and eating it too. :D

In other words, both, thank you very much. I'm a lucky woman.

:D

As for many years I had neither. :hug:

And lots and lots of 'em want bebes.

I say again, women as a group are no mystery.

:hide:

I wonder how? hmm...

:rofl:

:hi:

At least, in my lifetime, I've only met one woman who wanted a lot of children. She ended up being infertile, as fate would have it.

I don't know about all the women I've ever MET. My heavy metal clubbing days are kind of a blur.

But most of the women I've ever known personally want(ed) at least one. But I'm great with kids and I love talking about them, so maybe the've just felt comfortable talking to me about it. But that's about as far as I'm willing to travel down the amateur psychology road.

(I started that last 3 sentences with "but." But I'm too lazy to go back and change them. What's that? D'oh!)

I do not think that's too much to ask.

well, I think I'm sure! lol

With a cherry on top. Now, please.

:-)

:-)

"... only in prettier colors." -Chris Stevens

I'll think about that one for awhile... I'm not sure it's true, but it has a nice ring to it. :-)

But if I have to choose just one, I'll definitely take fun over a romance that's no fun.

If I could pass everything I've learned as a jaded old skank down to younger women in one sentence, it'd be "Never have sex with a man who can't make you laugh - or who doesn't laugh at YOUR jokes."

Humor is very important. :hi:

because I agree to an extent.. but not always... but I gotta run!

everyone wants Mr. Toad's Wild Ride

if you haven't seen Mallrats it makes no sense. But the conversation that comes from is actually related to the OP.

Tricia Jones: I heard that you were going to propose to Brandi Svenning at some theme park. When are men going to learn that women want ROMANCE, not Mr. Toad's Wild Ride...
Brodie: Hey, now, be fair. EVERYONE wants Mr. Toad's Wild Ride.

And still related but earlier in the movie for more context.

T.S. Quint: I was going to propose to her.
Brodie: Where?
T.S. Quint: The Universal Tour.
Brodie: You're kidding. What part?
T.S. Quint: When Jaws popped out of the water.
Brodie: That's the most romantic thing I've ever heard.
T.S. Quint: Too bad I'm not trying to marry you.

Why would you think we'd want either/or?

I want love and romance with someone who is also fun to be around. :-)

It's complicated. It was probably a stupid question.

why you are asking. :shrug:

From your answer, you seem to think that love is painful. It certainly can be; and there's a degree of "love me, love my problems" in any relationship. But, you have to decide how much of that is normal life baggage, and how much is too much to expect to be dealt with in a relationship.

edit: And I'll echo what others have said. Women are people too. It's not useful to generalize what we want. If there's a particular woman this question is about, it would be more productive to ask her what she wants, then see whether or not you can provide it.

they want as individuals and stop thinking of them as "women".

Having said that, everyone wants love and romance, not just women. "Fun" and "Love and Romance" are not necessarily mutually exclusive.

Girls just want to have fun.