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At least I *hope* it isn't considered legal advice. I'm really not sure how that line gets drawn.
Background: OktoberKid's Dad ran out on me when I was still pregnant, after inheriting a large amount of money. He skipped the country and is now living somewhere near Adelaide, Australia, and has never acknowledged OktoberKid--in fact, when OktoberKid was born, he lied to his friends and family members and told them that I was a whore, the baby wasn't his, blah blah blah. All lies to save his own ass, of course. I have no means to pursue him across national borders, and frankly, I have no real desire to now. I waited eight years, just in case he changed his mind and decided to man up, because I think all kids should know their fathers if possible. I have come to the conclusion, though, that he's never going to change his mind. So be it. He's proven himself to be a malicious and selfish asshole, and I'd prefer that he be as far away from us as possible.
I am now considering the idea of second-parent adoption--OktoberKid is my biological and legal child, but ThinkBlue1966 and I have been together since before he was born, and she is as much a parent to him as I am. It seems right to go ahead and make that relationship legal. However, our state (West Virginia) is listed on all of the websites as "unclear on second-parent adoption," so we're not sure how it's going to work.
I'm just wondering how to start this process along. I don't know if we have to terminate Eric's paternal/parental rights, or if they don't exist because he's never been his father in a legal sense, etc. I don't want to screw up, and I can't afford a lawyer on my own, so I'm kinda hoping that this will be something that an extremely smart person can accomplish without one--or maybe that the ACLU will sit up and take notice when we get rolling and offer some help, as there has never been another second-parent adoption case for a lesbian couple in this state that I know of. It looks like we might be breaking some new ground in the civil liberties battle.
The bottom line is that Eric doesn't want OktoberKid, and ThinkBlue1966 very much DOES. OktoberKid has a chance to have two legal parents (he already has two acting parents, and always has), and I'd like to see it happen. I just need to know how to start.
Any info about where to start/who to contact would be very much appreciated. Thanks in advance, and wish us luck!
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