Swatting my puppy on his nose - Am I wrong?

Ok it's not actually a real puppy - it's my BF.

here's what happenned - We haven't seen each other since February due to our jobs and because we are long distance, basically. Well finally due to job changes on both our parts, we got together on Wednesday night.

He had driven from 5am in a convoy from Meridien, MS to Atlanta (Storm duty for Gustav). Got into town about 6pm, got to my house by 7. We spent some *ahem* quality time together, and were gettign ready to go to sleep when he realized he'd taken the keys from the work truck home with him. Called his Sup and had to bring the keys back because soemone was ging to need the truck for a trouble ticket. He said - baby i'll be back in an hour.

2 hours later, no puppy cometh. I texted him asking if everything was ok. He'd fallen asleep on the couch at the station. Said it was really comfy and he was really tired.

I hit the roof. he apologized profusely. I'm still mad because it made me feel like a whore. And i didn't even get paid! He's texted repeatedly apologizing, and when i finally held out an olive branch he went on radio silence.

And now that silence is making me feel guilty.

it's not that he left, or that he was too tired to drive back. I understand both of those. It's the not communicating so i had to chase his ass down. Am i wrong to be holding a grudge? Actually it's more like an unresolved issue, because this thing has to simmer until Monday, when my shift is done.

Did i over-react? Am I being irrational and illogical? I feel so bad, because it was so great to see him and spend *ahem* quality time together, and all that post-quality time glow got ruined cuz he ticked me off.

But now i don't know whether to stay self-righteous or practice forgiveness. I don't want him to think he can act just any old way and I'll accept it.

I'm a trucker and I know how tired a person can get performing that job. So I understand why your boyfriend did what he did. A couple of times I've been so tired after I got off work that I fell asleep in my car after my shift, not even being able to drive home.

On the other hand he should have called you. That's where he messed up.

I think you just over-reacted.

So you both should accept each other's apologies and have make-up sex. :)

I completely understand how hard he works, and he does good work (he's a lineman for the power company). But the flakiness (prolly caused in part by the tiredness) drives me batshit insane. And communication keeps me from going batshit insane. And he's not so good with the communication, and swatting him on the nose is what's left. Either that or ignoring him completely perhaps when he fucks up.


Either way I agree with the accepting of each other's apologies and having make-up sex prescription. I'll work on that this week. :D

I don't know if I'd believe the reason he had to leave so suddenly after your quality time. It seems pretty typical of someone who isn't interested in hanging around.

and i watched him have the conversation with his Supervisor with the keys in hand, so I trust him. But it still wasn't cool to not give me a heads up that he had to crash. i felt forgotten about after he'd gotten his needs met. Back down to low on the priority list. Which is okay most of the time, because people without power come first but not during after-glow.

I also would have not "hit the roof".

it was just absolutely bad timing to get all flaky on his part. i didn't like scream or get verbally abusive or anything. I was just bitchy.

disappointed as you haven't seen him in six months.

i was prepared to be angry for a lot longer but by the 7th apology text in 24 hours, my heart softened a bit. Like i said we still won't be able to actually talk until tomorrow afternoon sometime (i work weekend graveyard), but i don't want him to think i'm some pushover that's going to okeydoke whenever he messes up like that.

In case anyone else has a suggestion - still haven't decided if i'm going to go with cold shoulder or apologies.

You've both made your point, and dragging it out isn't going to do any good.

i suppose i'll let him out of the doghouse this week.

It probably won't take long for him to get back in the doghouse. He is a guy after all. :rofl:

on the one hand - i always keep in mind that guys are...well...not good at not being in the doghouse.

But if you cut them slack when they screw up, they think they can walk all over you.

At the same time i don't like being bitchy - especially when I know they do the things they do cuz they are "special", but guys respond so much better to bitchy then mellow. it keeps them on their best behavior.

it's like they don't appreciate mellow - mellow = doormat.

it's really a conundrum.

I've never understood anybody who has had problems with dogs/puppies/training.

I've been comrades with about six dogs and have never had any problems. They are SELF-training, as far as I can see. They don't like messes INSIDE.

I've been watching this Brit show where people with problem-dogs have this "expert" come in and straighten everything out. I've NEVER had that problem.

With puppies, (I'll continue), you just take them outside about half an hour after they eat and stay out there until they do something.

My older dogs are just SO appreciative of everything, I kneel and weep.

I've seen people who have problems trainign their animals, but usually these are people not in control of themselves.

I personally have never had any problem with a pet acting right.

Soem need more coaxing then others, but mine have usually all been well-behaved.

Guys seem to be more like the pets I've had that need more coaxing. And repetition. Kinda makes me wish my current cat was actually a man. he's smart, well-behaved and well-groomed.

I think you should cut him some slack, since he had to drive back to the station then saw that couch looking so inviting. What if he fell asleep while driving back to you?
Linemen should get sleep when they can with all these storms coming at the southeast.
Make sure to be nice if/when he does the right thing...as with a pup!