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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:47 PM
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DU men with sisters.......
How would you feel/react if your sister's husband beat the living crap out of her?

Would you feel the need to hit him? :nuke:

Would you just call the cops? :mad:

Would you visit him in jail with the pastor so that he could find redemption?:shrug:

Inquiring minds want to know.......
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snooper2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:50 PM
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1. I would take her to a safe place while she files for divorce
and have some of my "friends" take care of his ass
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:52 PM
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6. that is what my brother would do too.
He would gather his entourage and take care of business.
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IndianaJones Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:50 PM
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2. I would shoot him. nt.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:57 PM
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12. figured.
:hi:
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samuraiguppy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:51 PM
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3. my sister--beat the living crap out
of HER scum bucket ass-hole of an ex. and I laughed my ass off.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:56 PM
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11. well then.
:shrug:
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samuraiguppy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:00 PM
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13. it was good to see the tables turned
on a man who is a jerk and of course I am 100% on the side of my family.

Officially, I am against all violence in relationships--and do not recommend anyone being violent. If your partner hits you--get OUT--get out immediately--don't ever return and don't ever let it happen again.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:03 PM
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14. I am a firm believer that violence does not belong
in any relationship and I agree with you. Get out and never go back.

Thank :hi:
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Cant trust em Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:41 PM
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25. wrong spot
Edited on Thu Sep-25-08 03:41 PM by Cant trust em
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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:52 PM
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4. Is this one of those "I have this friend.." questions?
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:54 PM
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7. He has never hit me.
Thank you for your concern :hug:

This really is about someone I know and her brother was visiting her in another state. The guy beat her and the brother went with the pastor idea.... :shrug:
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:52 PM
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5. You know how I feel on this subject. Doesn't hurt that I have four brothers.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:55 PM
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9. LOL
I have two brothers, one smaller than me, and one WAY bigger.

The little one is small but scrappy, and he would protect me with all of his might.

The big one lives in Florida, and he would protect me too.
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Symarip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:54 PM
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8. Me? Nothing.
And I would have no idea how or why four or five guys jumped out of a parked car when he was walking to to or from work and beat him to a bloody pulp.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 02:56 PM
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10. Hear that Agent Mike....
he had nothing to do with it ;)
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Bake Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:06 PM
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15. I'd make sure he regrets it.
And he'd have plenty of time to regret it during his convalescence.

Bake
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:10 PM
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17. if he were still around to convalesce, that is.
:nuke:
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MrCoffee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:07 PM
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16. Posse up.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:11 PM
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18. posse up.
:thumbsup:
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mdmc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:12 PM
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19. I am very afraid of going to jail
so I really don't know what I'd do.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:12 PM
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20. My brother would kill anyone who hurt me physically.
He is extremely protective. I hate to say it, but it would definitely turn violent.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:13 PM
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21. He would probably end up committing suicide by shooting himself in the back 5 times with a rifle
and driving off a bridge in the next state.

So I wouldn't have to worry about it.

(seriously, though - I would tell my sister to leave him. If she decides not to, then the situation is her problem. If she decides to leave, I shall grant her safe harbor (if need be) and help her with the legal crap of putting him into jail and whatnot and so forth).
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Bake Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:17 PM
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23. Funny how that happens sometimes, ain't it!
:rofl:

Bake
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PVnRT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:59 PM
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38. Odd that he also shot up curare beforehand
and cut his dick off. Must've really wanted to end it.
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EstimatedProphet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:16 PM
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22. I wasn't happy about it
I didn't find out about it until several years after she left the asshole, otherwise I would have beaten the crap out of him. But he's in another state now, and that was 20 years ago.
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Oeditpus Rex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:36 PM
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24. He'd be a dead man
Or, he'd wish he were one.

Kinda weird — my sister and I have never been very close, nor did I ever feel much affection for my parents. But for as long as I can remember, I've had this "Do NOT fuck with my family!" thing. :shrug:

Fortunately, my BIL is one of the most gentle, easy-going people on Earth.
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Cant trust em Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:41 PM
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26. I'd want to beat the hell out of him...
Edited on Thu Sep-25-08 03:41 PM by Cant trust em
but he's much larger than I am. I don't believe in weapons solving honor battles, so I think I'd just have to call the cops.
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MrCoffee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:43 PM
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28. Is a Louisville Slugger a "weapon"?
:shrug:
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LanternWaste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 03:43 PM
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27. I would...
I would hit him, then call the cops, and finally visit him jail with the pastor...

Seriously.
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SOteric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:09 PM
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29. I'm a sister with brothers
Edited on Thu Sep-25-08 05:36 PM by SOteric
and while the 'guy' in question didn't beat me, he definitely "done me wrong." I've reason to suspect heavily that two of my brothers gave the guy a darn good thumpin.' That pastor idea, - not in a Brazillion years.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:33 PM
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32. I am pleased to see the responses in this
thread. They confirm the fact that my friend's bro was not really focusing on her best interests at the time.
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SoxFan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:31 PM
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30. Let's say it wouldn't be pleasant
Thankfully, my sister's husband isn't the kind of guy who would force me to make this decision.
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Wapsie B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:33 PM
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31. Cue Sonny Corleone.
That would be just for starters.
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Dyedinthewoolliberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:37 PM
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33. Let me tell you how we handled it.
We knew he was punk enough to hit a woman. My sister has 4 brothers. We paid him a visit. No blows were exchanged. However, he has behaved himself ever since the visit. We scared the shit out of him. They are divorced now and he still minds his manners in her presence..............
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:39 PM
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34. The hell with just the men. All of us wanted to beat the crap out of him
including my mother. We didn't, although the youngest male at the time took some serious talk to control. What we did do is help our sister get free of the fucker by supporting her as long as it was necessary and used to courts to persuade him to stay away. We also made it known to his family and friends that he was a useless coward.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:44 PM
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35. ...
:hug:

I'm sorry you had to deal with it. Was your sister ready to leave, or did she want to stay?

The person this is about to wanted to stay and perhaps that is why her brother did the pastor route, but wow, in my family it would not matter if I wanted to stay - they would have hauled my ass out of there after they put the hurt on him.
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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:51 PM
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36. As often happens, we only found out about it when she was ready to leave.
Had we found out before, we would have wanted to slap HER back into her senses! Again however, we're not ones to start fights.
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PVnRT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 05:56 PM
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37. While I don't have a sister
if, say, one of my cousins was getting the shit kicked out of her, said husband would be in the hospital soon.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 06:01 PM
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39. I would kick his ass. Then call 9-1-1.
:mad:
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Evoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 06:57 PM
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40. Lol... I have I nice, big, Latino family consisting of Uncles who
Edited on Thu Sep-25-08 06:57 PM by Evoman
came of age during Pinochet's reign, and fought and ran from scary soldiers with guns.

Any guy either my sister or cousins would go out with would behave themselves. Trust me. I wouldn't have to do shit.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 07:02 PM
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41. My sister doesn't have a brother. She has a protective, slightly crazy and heavily armed father.
Oh, and she's a martial artist, so I don't think the issue would ever come up.
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hunter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 07:03 PM
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42. It's the females in my family who deal with abusive males.


Brothers are rarely called upon except to clean up the mess. Visiting the wretch in jail with a pastor is not the sort of clean up we do.
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 08:10 PM
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43. oh, man!
Fuck! If my brother-in-law ever hit my sister, it would be the last fucking thing that he ever remembered doing. If it was awhile before I found out, me telling him that I'd called the cops would be the last thing he remembered before fist hit face.
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 08:12 PM
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44. I'd beat the snot out of him so he'd get to know how it feels. I simply CANNOT control
myself when I see / hear about men hitting women.

Redstone
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UTUSN Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 08:24 PM
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45. For starters, the sister has a say-so. Often in those situations the woman refuses to press charges
or leave or even allow others to intervene against the perpetrator. In that case the brother is at a huge stalemate, as is the Law.
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UndertheOcean Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 08:26 PM
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46. I would strangle the bastard with my own hands and turn myself in.
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BulletproofLandshark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 08:39 PM
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47. I'm not a violent person, but I'd be willing to make an exception.
This subject hits close to home for me, as my sister is facing a divorce after 10 years of marriage. If it came to light that he'd ever hit my sister, he'd have not only me to worry about, but my father, 2 brothers, grandfather, and 4 or 5 cousins as well. There would be no force on heaven or Earth that could save him from eventually facing a beating.
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DarkTirade Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-25-08 09:14 PM
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48. I wouldn't have to...
my stepbrother's closer, he'd get to the guy first.
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