Do you have a sibling who just doesn't get you?

You know by the way they talk to you, they are just not sharing the same plane of existence?

I've been a mid-career IT person for the past decade, and yet, my brother still thinks I need a receptionist's job, because he "saw one in the paper today and though of me."

:wtf: :banghead: :eyes:

I got out of clerical work early in my career expressly because it was low status = high stress. Plus, I have a slight phone phobia, not a great quality for a receptionist.

My older sister. I'm a scientific type/skeptic and yet for my birthday the other year she wanted to give me "The Secret"..and was all offended when I said it wasn't to my taste....:eyes:

That is odd.

Do you find other subjects to talk about?


Luckily my family tend to be fairly realistic. They don't go in for faddish "spiritual" topics, like The Secret.

I love my brother, but man it's like we were raised by two different families. :crazy:

We are no longer on real speaking terms, although my Dad is coming in to town for the first time in a year so I will have to deal with her..*sigh*

He's a Baptist Minister

I am an Atheist Computer Dude

Yet he is more Liberal than I am on some issues...

:D

I think our problem is age related. He's 10 years older than I am and forgets that I am older too now. :crazy: I think in my brother's mind I'm still about 20 or so. :rofl:

Yet totally different people

And the one thing we agree on is that we can agree to disagree

Yet we agree on a number of issues

He thinks Sarah Palin could quite possibly be "The Beast" mentioned in Revelation.

I think she is a Beast.

me better now that he is a parent too.

My brother and his buddies are like the "Entourage" posse.

He considers me a freak because I live in "the sticks" of upstate NY, while he is in Queens. Whatever.

Now that he has a kid, he seems to be more on my wavelength. He called the other day - it was his first day alone with the baby. His wife had gone to Vegas for a bachelorette party :shrug: and the baby was crying. I told him to go visit our aunts. :rofl:

poor aunts! :D

You should have told him to use cloth diapers and wash and iron them. :evilgrin: But that's probably just me. ;-)

we just don't have much in common. I don't want to hear about poop and barf, it's why I don't have kids.

I'm the only one of my family who *doesn't* have kids, so my sanity is naturally suspect, I suppose.

I actually enjoy children, but it was never a driving need to have them myself. I'm content to borrow them on occasion.

by religious extended family since I'm not married and not desperately searching. Luckily my parents don't think that way so I don't have to put with the shit often since the extended family is 800-1000 miles away.

you get it from your parents, at least.

No one really bothers me about it, but I suppose they do find me eccentric.

My sister is the greatest.

I love my sister.

Are you two relatively the same age or is there an age spread between you? I think it helps if you are say within five years of each other.

:bounce: :)

I was always fascinated by twins. :-)

Do y'all finish each other's sentences and everything? :bounce:

but we truly get along very, very well. :) :hi:

It's a step-sibling though, no blood relation.

that I never had to deal with the step- issue. That must be hard.

My parents were together til the end. They didn't always like each other, but I'm certain they would not have remarried if they had split up. They pretty much used each other up on that front. :P

Only instead of three kids on each side, it was two kids and they added one half-sister to the mix a few years later. :P

My stepsister is really the odd one out though. My stepbrother and I get each other just fine. We think very differently, but we at least get each other. But she's... well, lemme put it this way. She voted for Bush last election. That pretty much says it all right there.

and his wife anymore. Unless they think we need their opinion. He did not find out about my husband for 3 days because they don't answer their phone and check their service only sporadically... and yet he feels the "need" to help me "through this" with phone calls every few months.

that they would do that, then sort of appear sporadically, as if out of the blue.

I admit I am slow to keep in touch, but it's more about my need for solitude, not anything against my family. My concept if time is off, I think. :blush:

close with my oldest brother...who I didn't get along with at all as a kid. He calls every week, whether I answer the phone or not. He never tells me what I "should be" doing or any of it. He just listens. He's the best and I love him.

She is the oldest and married at 18 when I was only 5. So she was out of the house for most of my growing up. We weren't close at all growing up. We now have a much better relationship as adults.

My brother and I, however, were best buds .... until he went off to college when I was eight... then we were strangers after that.

Odd how family dynamics can flip like that.

my poor example to my sons.

They're old enough though to understand.

my dad's side of the family. They were notorious for not keeping in touch very much. Though I do remember visiting his older brother's family fairly often. The middle brother though, seldom.

The last straw was unbelievable.

Let's put it this way: It was more improbable than winning the lottery, but much worse than winning the lottery.

It was an all time classic, but after a life time of classics, not as surprising as it should have been.

her but she insists she has it right. She's off by a year. No big deal though. I forgive her. Nobody is perfect.

D: Does not understand why I went to college for Political Theory/Pre-Law then decided that I didn't want to go to law school. I'm taking courses and trainings PT in Development (Non-profit sector fund-raising) and I've tried to explain what it is that I hope to do. Then I've heard him try to explain it to other people..."He's like an investment banker for people who don't want to make money." (Suffice it to say, that description isn't even close.) According to D, I'm staid and boring and have no imagination. I protested the World Bank, worked as an activist and community organizer and am a published essayist/writer. D thinks it's time I settle down, get married, have children and get a real job.

J: Is a computer scientist/hacker (white hat). To him, that is the only honest profession. Sees the world as B&W, us vs. them. I'm "them". So is D. J thinks I should date every anarcho-syndicalist or hippie who crosses his path. Nevermind that I'm neither and that I really really hate modern hippies. (I think they inherited the worst of their inspiration and none of the best. Worse they sit around getting high and listening to shitty music and achieve nothing.) J understands what I want to do...he just thinks that makes me a quisling to the very things I vocally oppose: free market capitalism, rampant consumerism, hierarchy, etc.