Hypothetical question about college

If you were a brilliant (4.0 or close) college student who wouldn't have had the chance to even *go* to college without the sacrifices of someone who helped you when you were downtrodden and sick--someone whose GPA had suffered while caring for you--if you had the chance to attend a prestigious university, but said university refused to accept the person whose GPA suffered as a result of YOUR illness/misfortune....

would you go? Even if they refused to accept the person who had made everything possible for you?

I was going to say it depended on the person, but after some analysis I think there is no circumstance that I'd say I would not go.

I'm more likely to go if that person was my long-term SO especially if I thought the relationship had a real future...I figure that it betters me to go and that they benefit from the quality of my degree. A degree from Yale (just to use an example) carries with it certain benefits which ultimately might mean a shorter trip to the top of my field and a larger paycheck. That benefits both of us and the life we can live together.

If they asked me not to...it tells me a great deal about the difference in our objectives, relationship views and manner of thinking. These are all central to my compatibility to other people. In that case, I'd go because I don't think the relationship has a future if I don't go because I'll resent them for denying me the opportunity.

Alternately, I'm probably not affected much if it's someone I don't feel strongly about.

They've already suffered for you, don't insult them by turning down this opportunity.

Yes I would go...

Presumably the person who had helped you had done so out of the goodness of his/her heart...

And was prepared to accept the consequences of those actions.

It's a pretty selfless person who could help, knowing that the college would most likely refuse them...

But there's no sense at all in your not going! It would waste the sacrifice of the other person!

:hug:

she wanted me to have it even if she didn't

my illness didn't keep her from college, my EXISTENCE kept her from college, there must have been a time when she didn't know that i would be born ill but what's the point of doing over what can't be done over?

if someone sacrificed much to help you do your best to make that sacrifice worth it

About this opportunity?