I hate judgmental holier-than-thou people.

I was having a discussion about holiday plans with some people, and they asked my plans - I said I am not very traditional, and my Thanksgiving will probably be spent with friends at a sushi bar and then a movie because I have never really liked the idea of gorging on food when so many have nothing. The day before Thanksgiving will be spent volunteering at a soup kitchen. Christmas will probably be quiet, because ever since I was a child, my immediate family and iI always went on vacations, and this year our vacation is going to be in January. It will probably be a quiet dinner at a nice resturaunt as we are not close to our extended family. She started arguing with me saying she can't believe my parents would raise me to not be close to my extended family, and that I lost to much.

I nearly snapped. I lost nothing by living in a family that thought that togetherness and happy memories were the number one priority every day of the year. My brother and I were very lucky - there was nothing we could have possibly wanted. We got expensive gifts and vacations throught the year, and at Christmas, we would volunteer and buy gifts not for members of our family that had plenty, but for people we did not know who did not have anything.

I was raised with the belief that being a loving family was not something that happened based on a calendar...it is something that is all year and all your life. I had an amazing childhood and I have an amazing family. We were raised to be thinkers and to care about others all year, not just during the freaking "holidays".

So what if I don't know my cousins well...I really have nothing in common with them morally, politically, or idealogically. I don't force myself to be with people I would not know but for the virtue of being related to them. When I get married, those I am close to will be invited...not people I hardly know.

I am fuming right now. Sorry for the long rant!

Fark 'em. Sounds like you have had a good life this far, and are quite happy with how you were raised.

People like that annoy me too!

:hug:

works for some families may not work for others. Why does she care? If you aren't bothered by it then tell her to shove it!

We are so much better than them anyway.

;)