I need to run something by you guys..feedback needed

One of my friends died on Dec 30. She and her husband have bowled on both of my leagues for 15+ years, and EVERYONE knows them..

We have been on holiday hiatus for 2 weeks, and the FIRST thing all of them (about 250 people) will focus on is Mary's untimely and totally unexpected death.

I always send get well cards, sympathy cards etc around, with an explanation (some new people join every year, and may not know the people involved yet)..

Is this flyer I made, too maudlin?

The last thing I want is to make it harder on Chuck?

Some will have read about it in the paper, but many, if not most, will be finding out that first night back, and I don't want to make it more difficult for him

thankful and touched that you would do such a thing. I think it's very appropriate. You might want to let Chuck see the flyer first, just as a courtesy. (or not)

I'd be very pleased.

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I can't answer the question because I don't know Chuck. It seems fine to me (I'd lose the last line perhaps, it's a touch cliche.) but if I were you, I'd ask Chuck. If he doesn't respond because he's got a lot on his mind, I'd go ahead though.

He may not wish you to do this, he might have input on what he'd like it to say or the image. He might also want the heads-up that he's going to be swamped with well-wishers beyond his expectations, some of whom he may not know. (The condoling strangers (strangers to me...people she knew, some of whom were family.) really freaked me out when grandma died.)

I kind of hope their teams decide to take a bye for that night..no one would be surprised, but when I talked to his daughter this morning, she asked about the procedure to take her Mom's place on the team..

Sometimes it's easier if the league finds out with them not there..gives everyone a change for it to soak in, and not run to the grieving person asking the same questions all night long.

I usually skip the involved team, when the card signings are going on, and then give the card to a teammate, so they can give it to the person at the end of the night..they know we care, but can react to all the kind words from their friends, in privacy..

Thanks for the input