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My oldest just turned 12. We've talked about all this stuff and I have said that cigarettes are very addictive, damaging, stinky, etc. and of course now she says she never will, but ultimately, just like everything else, there's only so much we can control in regards to what our children do. We've also gone into drugs and I've given a point by point of most of them, including alcohol and what the dangers are. I was also honest enough to give her the truth that people don't use them because they're stupid or bad (like the DARE people often say), but because they make you feel good, but there are risks involved that to varying degres can f*ck up your life. Plus, the younger you are, the greater the risk. Same with sex. We ALL have to make choices in life. I did at that age and so did everyone else. Most of the time, I was a pretty good kid. I try to be very honest about things and I hope as the years go on, she'll be confortable enough with me to discuss them as her own decisions arise.
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