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Edited on Sun Feb-22-09 03:23 AM by GirlinContempt
I have this cousin who is beyond a doubt fucking scarily psychotic. From childhood, this guy has been a scary scary person. At age five, he chased my grandmothers cat with a knife trying to kill her, he set fire to his school, in elementary he tried to stab a girl in the playground, he sexually assaulted another family member, tried to harm other animals, stole, lied, etc. I remember one Christmas, he was probably 9 or 10, he was in my parents kitchen and someone wouldn't give him something he wanted to he grabbed a big knife and held it a hairs breadth from his eye, threatening to poke his own eye out if he didn't get what he wanted. I could go on forEVER about how insane this guy has been.... but I won't.
Now, my grandmother used to live with him (she lived with my aunt when her boys were young) and though this kid always scared her a bit, she loved him as grandmothers do, and had a sort of bond with him. Like many grandmothers (and mothers especially) she always wants to believe the best of people, which is admirable though often misguided and even troublesome.
3 or 4 years ago now, this asshole was staying with her because his mother refused to put up with him anymore, so he sponged off my grandmother. He stole her chequebook and forged a bunch of cheques and stole money from her. I can't remember how much, it was under a grand but more than 500. Grandma decided not to press charges because he was her grandson, blah blah.
So, he's been living across the country for a while, and very recently moved back because, you'll never guess... HES AN ASSHOLE. He burnt all of his bridges and no one in that part of the god damn COUNTRY will have anything to do with him. His parents, siblings, friends, uncles, aunts, etc etc etc. So, he shows up in the city and my grandma lets him move in with her, "just for a week or so" until he gets on his feet. Of course, we're all screaming "NO NO NO NO NO". But, grandma keeps saying that he's changed, he's so nice to her, helping her, cooking for her, running errands, he's really a dear sweet boy who deserves another chance, etc. And, as skeptical and worried as we all are, there's this tiny voice saying "wellllll.... anything is possible".
So, gets a job, but he's still just hanging around on her couch. Finally, after a couple of months, my grandma says he has to get out. My aunt offers to take him in because she has a huge house and rents out rooms. So, he'd be paying rent but not a whole lot, and it would get him out of the SENIORS HOME. Yeesh. So, he goes there for just over a month, refuses to pay rent, threatens my aunt, and when she finally kicked him out he laughed maniacally and explained all the horrible things he could do to her. What a charmer.
So, he ends up back and my grandmothers place. THEN, he gets fired. He tells her some sob story about how another co worker told his boss he (my cousin) was thinking of moving back across the country, so his boss fired him. Don't believe it? You shouldn't! What really happened is that after work one evening he and some co-workers went out for drinks. While out, one of the cooks started talking to a girl my cousin liked, my cousin then by all accounts "went ballistic" (or "Went nuts") on the guy, screaming at him and acting like a lunatic. After, he left and smashed the cooks car window(s). The cook then went to the boss and said "I can't work with this psycho". So, he got fired. No one pressed any charges because he promised to pay for the damages (YEAH FUCKING RIGHT).
So, then, somehow, he manages to sweet talk my grandmother, who is 85 fucking years old, to give him THREE THOUSAND DOLLARS to start a new life. He really really worked her good. He would tell her she's the only person in the world who loves him, his last hope, if it wasn't for her he'd kill himself, he's trying but no one will be there for him, etc. He talked about suicide a lot to her. My grandma found him someone (counselor, psychologist, not sure, someone like that) and was going to PAY for him to go, MADE HIM THE APPOINTMENT, he didn't go of course. So, he said he needed all this money to get furniture, pay rent on a place he had lined up, just get himself going. I don't know WHY she did it. She is on pension, she has no money. Seriously, NO money. She lives cheque to cheque.
So, she gives him the money, and then he gets sick. Apparently, pneumonia. I diagnose laziness. THEN, after the pneumonia, he claims he has to have a root canal and some teeth pulled, and it's going to cost $1,400. He tried to get my grandmother to pay for this. She said hell no, I can't afford that, take it out of the THREE FUCKING GRAND i just gave you (that is not a direct quote :P ). So, then he lay on her couch for another week with an icepack on his face. He never had a root canal. He even made an appointment, just in case she called BEFORE the operation, but he never went to it.
Then she asked him why he wasn't moving, hadn't gone shopping for furniture or anything. He told her, he had no money left. It had been like, three weeks. At that point, she told him he'd have to leave. She was starting to see through this crap. So, he left, screaming about how he was suicidal, took all his pictures from her apartment, scribbled his phone number out of her address book, etc.
Two weeks later, he showed up in the morning before her exercise class saying he was hungry and had no money and nowhere to go. So, she let him in and gave him something to eat. She went down to her class while he was eating. When she came back up, she was going out with a friend to get some coffee next door, so they left the apartment together. My grandma went in her purse to get her bank card to pay for coffee, it was gone. She immediately called and had the card canceled, and her friend took her down to the bank 10 mins later to get a new card. He'd already withdrawn $500, the max he could get on her OVERDRAFT. My grandma literally can't afford a carton of milk right now.
Last night, I sat with her till 1 am. The cops came and took her statement. She's getting a restraining order (so is my Aunt). They can't do anything about the three grand because she did give it to him. They may be able to do something about the bank card. He DID have her PIN though. Long before the theft, he went to the store to pick up some things for her (I've done it many times, she isn't very mobile, she uses a cane and a walker, used to be in a wheelchair). He kept the number. So, its a mess, but above and beyond the money, she's afraid. He's violent, unpredictable, and really scary. As a kid I hated him. Though I couldn't articulate it then, I remember feeling like he enjoyed causing pain and hurting others physically and emotionally. He seemed to have no shame, no conscience, just cold sadistic self interest.
Let me just say, while this was happening we had no idea what was going on. We ALL tried to talk to grandma, to get her to get rid of him. We didn't trust him. But, she's an adult and we couldn't do much. We did call the building manager of the seniors block she lives in because technically she can't have anyone else live in her suite, but we couldn't really get anywhere with that.
She's had her locks changed, all her bank information has been secured. But my poor grandma is scared and it breaks my heart. And she's really beating herself up over this. She was so upset last night she had trouble talking. She was shaking. And, while I think she probably should have known better, I GET it. I get that she wanted to help him. He's her grandson, she had a bond with him from childhood. She WANTED him to be changed so he could have a life and do well for himself and move past all the insanity. I get that. I've been fucked over by people myself because I wanted to believe the best, I wanted to believe I could help them and that they could change. And he is a MASTER manipulator. One thing that haunts me is that he has changed. He's changed from this sort of random wanton insanity to someone who is very charming, charismatic and likable. But the rest of him is still inside there. He still operates with no conscience, no morals, he's still a sadistic narcissistic lunatic. But it's hidden, and he's very good at playing people.
I'm so fucking furious. How could you do that to your GRANDMOTHER?! (well, anybody really). But your own GRANDMOTHER. The woman who would take you in when you were hungry and alone, the person who cared about you when your own mother wouldn't talk to you. The woman who drove you to school, took you to the movies and the park and loved you. The woman who changed your diapers, bought you toys. Most of all, the woman who opened her heart and her home to you, believed in you, stood up for you and protected you. How could you do that? It makes me fucking sick. I want to set him on fire.
And, all I could do was tell my grandma I loved her, give her hugs and kisses, and sit with her. What I really wanted to be doing was finding him and ripping his balls off with a pitchfork, then setting them on fire and shoving them down his gasoline soaked throat.
What is WRONG WITH PEOPLE?!??!!"?!??!?!?!
Oh, she's looking in to getting a mental health order that would basically force him to undergo psychiatric evaluation.
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