my husband and I have been married for just over two years now

our marriage is better than ever!

But we are not sure why....???????

I mean...
since Ohio passed gay marriage, we were told that gay marriage would ruin our straight marriage!!!!!
What's wrong?
Why isn't our marriage in the toilet? :crazy:

I mean should I start a fight or something?
My husband was thinking that he should maybe leave the toilet seat up or wash my delicates in hot water???


Damn it! What to do??????

Also, just to be safe, read a chapter from the Good Book every night, you know, to ward off Eeeeeeviiiiiillllll! :eyes:

I kid! My husband and I are on our 7th year and I am not seeing that 7 year itch thing. Nor was our first year really trying. But we did live together for a few years before we got married so there was no getting used to all that stuff. Plus we have been together half of our lives. Freaky I know since I am only 30!! High school sweethearts baby!! We started dating when I was in the tenth grade and 15 years old. A couple of break ups, dating other people, etc., and here we are. I think we have what it takes to make it forever. Really I do. I know we will have trying times ahead, but we will come through.

Congrats on the 2 years. And I can't believe the gay marriage thing didn't totally screw up your marriage! :eyes: :P

Once you start thinking you have what it takes to stay together forever, shit starts rolling downhill. I've made that mistake before. Marriage takes constant vigilance whether it's in the 2nd, 7th, or 20th year. Work on the marriage at least a little bit every single day (and a lot every now and then) and you might make it. I've been married all of 22 years now and I'm still not convinced my wife will be with me forever, so I'm still working to make it worth her while.

I do believe in forever though. My parents have been married 35 years. My grandparents were married for 50 something years. My great grandparents were married 75 years.

My husband and I pretty much have taken divorce off of the table. We fell in love for a reason and try our best to always remember that even when times get funky.

Anything can happen. People change. Sure. But, I choose to always keep a positive outlook. My parents beat a huge statistic. They lost a child (my brother). Most times when that happens, divorce follows shortly. But you have to work on it. Both must be willing of course, but as long as we don't get lazy, we communicate, and keep it lively, it can and it will work! :)

Divorce. Who wudda thunk it?

Much to the chagrin of the anti-gay marriage bigots, it turns out that the great bastion of gay marriage, Massachusetts, still has the lowest divorce rates in the country and not only that their divorce rates actually went down by 27% AFTER gay marriage became legal.

So don't worry, you're in good company.

But that option being there, and it being so easy to obtain makes it harder to make a marriage work. Now, I know there are marriages that should end in divorce. But I have known more than a few people who have gotten divorced and gotten re-married. I know that isn't the norm, but I think maybe those people could have tried to salvage the marriage a little harder.

I am not against divorce. I know it needs to be done sometimes. I don't want to be "above" it because I am not. I just think it can be an easy out for SOME. Not all.

I know many here have gone through a divorce, and I don't want to take away from those people and make it seem to be that I think they took the easy way out. Divorce plain sucks. And it has to be done sometimes.

I feel like I am talking in circles and I probably am. I don't want to offend divorced people though. My brother is going through a divorce. And it is a very deserved divorce.

Many hetero sexual men are actually lesbians in a male body. This is a fact I recently made up for this blog.

I know Iowa did but had no idea that Ohio did as well.

I think they still have a ban in Ohio.